Christian relationship Advice!!?

My recent boyfriend and I decided to call it quits after a recent conversation. I asked where he thought we stood and he said he did not know. He's divorced and has been for about 2 years now. He claims he would not go back to his ex-wife but I asked him if she were saved would he go back to her and he said yes. I asked him if he was over his divorce and he said no. I did not have a problem with this per se. I just wish he would have considered these things before he asked me out. Because he said he would go back to her if she were saved this would mean I'd be out of the picture. So I asked him if he was filling a void and he said he didn't know how to answer this question. His ex is engaged to marry someone else. Also when we met I asked him if he was over her and he said he did not want to go back to her but this came out recently. Anyway any insight --anyone been through this. I've been crying over this. It hurt more than I thought it wouldChristian relationship Advice!!?
He's not over her. It sounds like she might always be in the back of his mind. You deserve to be somebody's #1, not a replacement. Break it off and find someone who appreciates you and loves you.Christian relationship Advice!!?
Are you satisfied with being the second choice?








The answer to that should guide your way.
Ditch him.





His attitude demonstrates quite clearly that he doesn't value people for their own values, but only for their adherance to his own twisted ideals.


It demonstrates in no uncertain terms that he does not value you as a person.... as an individual.
People coming out of divorces, especially if they didn't want the divorce are screwed up and it takes time to get back to reality. At least he's being straightforward with you. You should probably let him go
If it's a recent engagement, maybe your guy is just feeling bad. You know, wondering what could have been.
He obviously isn't over his ex and it was wrong of him to ask you out when he still had all this emotional baggage from his previous relationship. Its easy to say cut your loses, but much harder to do i know, but this man isn't worth your tears. Find someone who wants the commitment and that will treat you in the way you deserve. He also doesn't seem particularly sound on the religous front if he can't even treat you with the respect you deserve...steer clear of that one and remember there are loads of great guys out there...so go meet them!
I am sorry it has to come to this. Clearly your boyfriend is very confused about the whole thing. Maybe it is a good advice that you should have a break.





I wonder why he wasn't over her. I wonder what was the reason behind the divorce. Maybe it was nothing to do with the religion difference.
I know you are hurting, and I really feel for you. With what you said about his ex getting married, that makes me think even if he were over her, this would set off some emotional feelings that he needs to deal with.


I'm not sure that God is shutting this door just yet, but it sounds like he needs time and prayer in order to see more clearly the road ahead. If it is a door shutting, on this relationship, there will be another opening. Stay strong and in the word. God listens and is the perfect comforter. I'm sorry I can't say anything to take your pain away.
dont put too much hope on him because he still loves his ex-wife, he just doesn't wanna admit it
Move on, honey. He needs to work out his own issues. And God will provide you with someone who will devote the PROPER amount of emotion and affection to YOU and you alone. Do not worry.





I know it's hard, but I really do think you should move on, and let him figure his heart out. It's between him and God, and perhaps his ex.





God Bless.
It seems that he is telling you the truth... don't force the realtionship. If it is meant to be it will be if it is not then it won't... but either way life will go on. Maybe he just needs time. Ask him if he loves you and sees a future with you. If hw says no, then you've got your answer fair and square. If he says I don't know... give him space to figure things out and go on with your life in the meantime! Don't wait around for him by any means... it's not fair to you... you will only become more attached to a ambiguous situation.





Pray for strength to move on and peace with whatever decision you make!


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Sweetie, you don't need Christian advice on this. Just human. Let him go, he's not ready for a new relationship yet. It doesn't seem to be about you, you know?
You poor thing! You are definitely doing the right thing ending it. You deserve to be with someone who won't compare you or put you second to any other woman. It sounds as though he has a lot of guilt over his divorce. Even if she marries someone else, you shouldn't consider getting back together with him. He's hurt you enough.





While I don't believe that relationships are intended to be perfect, I do think that you deserve to be with some one who recognizes that what you have is the best relationship he's been in. I think it is dishonest to yourself and to what a true relationship is to settle for something less than this. He should have considered these things before he asked you out. If he was being a good Christian, but it's possible that he wasn't fully aware of what level of emotional intimacy a good relationship should entail. God bless.