Serious relationship advice...?

I posted this last night, only got 2 responses..hoping for more tonight.



I've been with the same guy for almost 9 years..since I was 16. for the first, I guess, 4 years everything was good. I mean we both made our mistakes, we were young and things happen, but we worked through them. But for the past almost 4 years things have been getting worse %26amp; worse. we started arguing, then the arguments led to him hitting me, and that led to me fearing for my life on several ocassions. I've had guns to my head, knives at my throat, been choked, my head repeatedly bashed into walls...and just last week he stabbed my cat and she died in my arms. Im still with him...

I love him, he's the only man I've ever loved, I don't want to lose him..but I don't know how much more I can take nor do I know how much longer I will survive if I stay with him. I feel like I need him to survive..maybe because he has always told me that I wouldn't be anything without him.

I don't know what to do, I don't know which way to turn.

I've recently started going to therapy and they think im bipolar..could all the things he's done to me be my fault?? could my mood swings have drivin him to act out this way? Should I stay or should I go? How do you turn your back on someone you love?

Please only respond to this question if you are mature enough to do so. I need REAL advice, not bullshit. Thanks ahead of time to everyone willing to help me. You don't know how much your advice will be appreciatedSerious relationship advice...?
well.. this sounds serious. first of all you love him but what he is doing is not right at all. you need to leave him before he does something that he would regret. get out of there. i know you will do the right thing if he does anything further. im terribly sorry for the life you have had. and i hope you only the best for life in the future. good luck.Serious relationship advice...?
You need to get as far away from him as you can. This man is crazy; I think he has the mental problem, not you. Anyone who would threaten you, harm you, kill your animal, say mean things to you, doesn't love you. He can't. I think you're just afraid of being alone, but trust me, it will be o.k. You need time to heal, emotionally and you need to be alone for a while in order to do this. Continue going to therapy and counseling, but I would have him put in jail and a restraining order put against him, if relocating isn't possible. You may love him, for whatever reason, but he doesn't love you; he wouldn't hurt you if he did; just remember that.
Your bi polar is most likely a result of the same genes that make you dependant on him.





ITS HIS FAULT hes hitting you and threatening you. but your bi polar wont let you believe that, half the time you know you have to get out, the other half you think you need him.





Get out as fast as you can. You can not heal if you dont leave. He tells you those horrible things and beats you just so he can control you, so you never leave. DONT LET HIM WIN. ESCAPE!!!! Do something! Give me his address!!! Anything!! Just get him out of your life now!
First of all ';It is not your fault!'; Never ever is this yu. He is the one that needs help. Go to the police. Have a warrant taken out on him. He needs to be locked up. It sounds harsh, but you can even call it tough love. This is domestic violence plain and simple. They have a toll free # for you to call. Please help yourself get the help for him. If you have feared for your life, then you have but no choice. His health may depend on it too.
hun,


you need 2 leave the man, if the things you are saying is true,


u need 2 leave no matter how much you love him....before he does something worse, being bipolar could start it....but it shouldnt lead 2 violence i seriously would consider leaving the dude...


im sorry about you cat...
WOW. Alright, well you both have made your share of mistakes, I understand that. But when your life is in danger, that's when you need to pick up your things and leave. Get out of that situation as soon as possible. Why would you stay with a man who holds a gun to your head, who chokes you, who continues to abuse you, and kills a freaking animal that dies in your arms! I understand how difficult it is to not want to leave a man you've been with for so long. But that shouldn't be a reason that you stay with him. That's not good enough. You shouldn't be like, ';well we've been together for 9 years so I should just hack it';. No.. You need to leave him as soon as possible before the next time he goes off on you, or else it may be too late to leave..
wow. well first off, i was in more or less the same boat. i had a long term boyfriend at a young age. the first year or so was good, but things started to turn sour. finally he broke it off. honestly, you WILL be fine on your own, and it really sounds like you need some time to yourself to work things out. if you're really meant to be with him you'll end up back together, but i DO NOT think it's you're fault. the relationship ran its course and you should end it before you get seriously hurt. i'm only just getting used to being single but i've already realized that i can find someone who will treat me better. and i'm positive you can too.


however don't rush into anything new. just take some time for yourself. and if your boyfriend really is the one, he'll show you that, and he'll respect your decision.


you'll be okay! good luck with everything.





also i'm sorry about your cat =[