So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about three years long distance. We see each other every couple of months, and we talk on the phone every night. The first year and a half was pretty dang good, and we got along really well. However, the last year to year and a half, it's gotten to where whenever we see each other, he is really needy and needs me to take care of him. He just kinda like lays around and mopes about how he has a headache or he's tired or this or that, and it bothers me cuz we hardly get to see each other. I don't want the time to be spent with him complaining about every little thing. And also, one week he's really clingy wanting to talk on the phone all day every day, and the next week, he doesn't wanna talk at all and says he's busy with friends. It's getting to be really confusing and stressful, and I just wanna know if anyone has had the same or similar situation and what your advice is. Do you see us lasting? I want us to because at first it was really nice, but now not so much..Anyone with relationship advice?
wow...no offense but the way you described your boyfriend made him sound really gay. I dont see your relationship lasting unless he mans up.Anyone with relationship advice?
idk y...........but i think hes cheating on u...dis hapnd 2 me nd i the end i found out he ws cheating on me so ooo.........u shuld uhm find out if he likes some1 else//....
I've been in a situation like this before. you could last however I think maybe you should confront him about it. explain to him that you rarely get to see each other and when you do finally get to that you would really appreciate if he wouldn't mope around complaining. It might anger him at first but I think he'll understand where your coming from, and if he snaps back at you with something, try and calm him down and explain your reasoning as to why your having this conversation to him.
OR..
you could just give up and end it, but like you said at first it was really nice and now it isn't. Well explain to him why it doesn't seem as nice as it was.
I hope I helped!
Best of luck!
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Friday, April 30, 2010
I need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
I have been in a relationship with this boy, Jeff for a year now. We were each others first everything. First serious relationship, first love, we even lost our virginities to each other.
Everything was going SO perfectly for us. We were happy and just amazing together. But the one day,about 3 weeks ago he decided he only wanted to be friends.
At that point, there were only 2 weeks of the summer left and i was going to move into college after those 2 weeks.
For those 2 weeks I was so upset and heart broken
But we were still hanging out A LOT, we were having a ton of fun together but we were still doing things like cuddling and stuff like we were when we were dating.
But he was still ';single'; and i was still ';single';
so anyway, last week i moved to college, but its only 10 minutes away from our town. jeff came up to see me the first day i moved in.
and he has been up almost everyday for my first week there
but i also made a ton of friends and have beeen having such a good time there
so for the past week while i have been at college and he has been coming to see me, we have been doing so many more things
we have been cuddling, holding hands, sleeping together, kissing each other goodnight. he even calls me his girlfriend sometimes.
i have been so confused
i think he is doing this, becuase he sees how much fun i am having there, and that IF i wanted to get over him, i could
because for those 2 weeks before, i was just sitting at home crying over himm
but onve i got to college that changed
so i think he is seeing how he could lose me
we never talked about any of this stuff though
ui never asked him to define what we are doing and he never asked me
we just let it happen
it is obvious to me, and my friends, and people around me, that he still has feelings for me. because why else would he be doing this with me
HE was the one to make all the first moves, he was the one who held my hand first, held me in bed first, kissed me... etc
he did them for the first times since we broke up
it was all him, not me
so last night we were in bed and cuddling and he looked at me and said to me..
';i was thinking about things today, about how we cuddle and sleep together and hold hands and stuff. i know we do all of those things, but i still dont have feelings for you';
and i looked at him and said
';i dont believe you when you say that';
and he just turned away
i dont know whats going on
i dont want to tlak to him about it because i know he is going to try to tell me he has no feelings for me when i KNOW he does
but i dont want to lose him
i dont know
i am really confused
i dont know what i should do
everyoine is telling me to just stop and not see him anymore
but i dont want to do that
ii dont know should ii just give it some time?
i need advice. pleaseI need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
I'm sorry that you're being strung on by a guy who says he doesn't care anymore. I was in the exact same boat when my high school boyfriend and I started college. He was so jealous about all the fun I was having that he didn't want to let go, but he also wouldn't admit that he still wanted to be with me.
If he says he doesn't want to see any other girls, he still has feelings for you. but if he won't admit that, he is totally not worth it. It's hard to believe once you've shared so much with someone, but you CAN do better.
After I finally left my ex, I held out for a couple of years for someone that I knew would be worth it. I dated a lot but had no relationship until my current one, and I am so glad that I waited until I found him.
In my opinion, you should tell him that if he doesn't care, he shouldn't come see you. Try to make a lot of new friends. You will have so much more fun when you're not being led on, and college is such a great opportunity to start out fresh.I need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
Some advice, shorten your question.
if it makes you this upset then call it off. It's not worth it!
maybe he is seeing another girl..=D...just tell him bye bye..and find another man..
talk to him about it.
sounds like he has feelings for you
or he doesnt want to be with you,
but he wants you for himself.
understand that?
and thats not fiar for you to keep holding onto him if hes moving on,
and just keeping you from other guys.
maybe he just doesnt want to see you happy,
he seems like he wants you to be chasing him ,
while hes chasing other girls.
i dont know if that makes sense.
but tell him this
';If you dont have feelings for me anymore then its not fair for you to keep doing things with me. If you don't love me anymore then stop doing these things. I stil have feelings for you, but if you don't this isn't fair at all and I need to move on.';
not excatly that but put it in your own words.
hope everything turns out okay for you.
Wow... That was really long........ So props to me for reading it!!! So anyway, back to your issue. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him.. right? So tell him. Say, ';I still have feelings for you'; but tell him that you don't like the fact that he is cuddling with you, and sleeping with you, but then telling you that you guys are not dating.. Sorry, but if some guy is sleeping with you, then you are either having multiple one-night stands, or he is dating you. No other way around it.
I know you don't want to lose him, but you need to let him know that what he's doing is not ok. If he tells you that it is, its not. Let him know that. From what I hear, it sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Especially since you said something along the lines of how he can see you having fun. I'm sure you are more than able to get another boyfriend in college, and now that he sees that he's jealous.
He sounds like a piece of digestive waste to me.
Girl, what are you doing to yourself? Your boyfriend says that to you, and that's your response? I would think that if I said something like that to a woman I've been nailing, I would quickly get a foot to my butt, and get thrown out of her house, post haste. You say you don't want to dump him, but where is your relationship going to be in a few years? No offense, but it sounds like he's playing you for sex. That's all. You know you're going to meet someone who loves you truly, and deeply. Why let your boyfriend get it for free? Tell him to get lost.
aww.. honestly do not waste your time on him!
How confusing.
I think that he's using you in a way mabey trying to REPLACE
some one else with you and thats horrible. You should be the one to draw the line and say
if you don't have feelings for me or love me the way you use to then
why are you doing this to me? Tell him that friends don't kiss on the lips and cuddle in bed... ask him and be straigt. Just ask him, ''why do you kiss me if it doesn't mean anything or you so called don't have feelings for me?''
Dude he is confusing,proabably confused with himself, and he's playing mind games with you.
I think you should just be straight with him, and you shouldn't let him do any of those things with him (even if u want to) because, he was the one to say that you guys should be friends. So treat him like a friend and not a mate.
I have so much more advice but no time to type...
so good luck and I hope things work out between you guys =)
ok me reading this he still loves you because he is seeing you all the time and friends obviously dont do that. He is visiting you becasue he misses you, and you are right he dont wanna looose you again like he already did the first time. Next time you see him, tell him ';do you love me or not, and if you dont, dont see me anymore'; .. He is probably going to say no because he wants to move on with his life, and find someone else, or is just mad that you are in college and is afraid you are going to cheat on him, but again if he says no at that point leave him and move on. You have a whole life to live, and it seems like he is wasting your time right now. But if he says yes say with him. Start over a new leaf right now, if he is not right for you, there will be other guys in the world he would treat you more.
He still cares about you and enjoys being with you BUT since you are gone..even if its 10 minutes he wants 2 things to be accomplished with this ';break up'; I think he wants to be the one that does the controlling of the relationship so if you find someone else he is the one that broke up with you..and...if he does he wont be cheating on you since you are broken up....its basically called Keeping his options open.
He might still care about you but might be worried that you have been together so long and the only one hes been with, that hes missing something.
Everything was going SO perfectly for us. We were happy and just amazing together. But the one day,about 3 weeks ago he decided he only wanted to be friends.
At that point, there were only 2 weeks of the summer left and i was going to move into college after those 2 weeks.
For those 2 weeks I was so upset and heart broken
But we were still hanging out A LOT, we were having a ton of fun together but we were still doing things like cuddling and stuff like we were when we were dating.
But he was still ';single'; and i was still ';single';
so anyway, last week i moved to college, but its only 10 minutes away from our town. jeff came up to see me the first day i moved in.
and he has been up almost everyday for my first week there
but i also made a ton of friends and have beeen having such a good time there
so for the past week while i have been at college and he has been coming to see me, we have been doing so many more things
we have been cuddling, holding hands, sleeping together, kissing each other goodnight. he even calls me his girlfriend sometimes.
i have been so confused
i think he is doing this, becuase he sees how much fun i am having there, and that IF i wanted to get over him, i could
because for those 2 weeks before, i was just sitting at home crying over himm
but onve i got to college that changed
so i think he is seeing how he could lose me
we never talked about any of this stuff though
ui never asked him to define what we are doing and he never asked me
we just let it happen
it is obvious to me, and my friends, and people around me, that he still has feelings for me. because why else would he be doing this with me
HE was the one to make all the first moves, he was the one who held my hand first, held me in bed first, kissed me... etc
he did them for the first times since we broke up
it was all him, not me
so last night we were in bed and cuddling and he looked at me and said to me..
';i was thinking about things today, about how we cuddle and sleep together and hold hands and stuff. i know we do all of those things, but i still dont have feelings for you';
and i looked at him and said
';i dont believe you when you say that';
and he just turned away
i dont know whats going on
i dont want to tlak to him about it because i know he is going to try to tell me he has no feelings for me when i KNOW he does
but i dont want to lose him
i dont know
i am really confused
i dont know what i should do
everyoine is telling me to just stop and not see him anymore
but i dont want to do that
ii dont know should ii just give it some time?
i need advice. pleaseI need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
I'm sorry that you're being strung on by a guy who says he doesn't care anymore. I was in the exact same boat when my high school boyfriend and I started college. He was so jealous about all the fun I was having that he didn't want to let go, but he also wouldn't admit that he still wanted to be with me.
If he says he doesn't want to see any other girls, he still has feelings for you. but if he won't admit that, he is totally not worth it. It's hard to believe once you've shared so much with someone, but you CAN do better.
After I finally left my ex, I held out for a couple of years for someone that I knew would be worth it. I dated a lot but had no relationship until my current one, and I am so glad that I waited until I found him.
In my opinion, you should tell him that if he doesn't care, he shouldn't come see you. Try to make a lot of new friends. You will have so much more fun when you're not being led on, and college is such a great opportunity to start out fresh.I need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
Some advice, shorten your question.
if it makes you this upset then call it off. It's not worth it!
maybe he is seeing another girl..=D...just tell him bye bye..and find another man..
talk to him about it.
sounds like he has feelings for you
or he doesnt want to be with you,
but he wants you for himself.
understand that?
and thats not fiar for you to keep holding onto him if hes moving on,
and just keeping you from other guys.
maybe he just doesnt want to see you happy,
he seems like he wants you to be chasing him ,
while hes chasing other girls.
i dont know if that makes sense.
but tell him this
';If you dont have feelings for me anymore then its not fair for you to keep doing things with me. If you don't love me anymore then stop doing these things. I stil have feelings for you, but if you don't this isn't fair at all and I need to move on.';
not excatly that but put it in your own words.
hope everything turns out okay for you.
Wow... That was really long........ So props to me for reading it!!! So anyway, back to your issue. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him.. right? So tell him. Say, ';I still have feelings for you'; but tell him that you don't like the fact that he is cuddling with you, and sleeping with you, but then telling you that you guys are not dating.. Sorry, but if some guy is sleeping with you, then you are either having multiple one-night stands, or he is dating you. No other way around it.
I know you don't want to lose him, but you need to let him know that what he's doing is not ok. If he tells you that it is, its not. Let him know that. From what I hear, it sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Especially since you said something along the lines of how he can see you having fun. I'm sure you are more than able to get another boyfriend in college, and now that he sees that he's jealous.
He sounds like a piece of digestive waste to me.
Girl, what are you doing to yourself? Your boyfriend says that to you, and that's your response? I would think that if I said something like that to a woman I've been nailing, I would quickly get a foot to my butt, and get thrown out of her house, post haste. You say you don't want to dump him, but where is your relationship going to be in a few years? No offense, but it sounds like he's playing you for sex. That's all. You know you're going to meet someone who loves you truly, and deeply. Why let your boyfriend get it for free? Tell him to get lost.
aww.. honestly do not waste your time on him!
How confusing.
I think that he's using you in a way mabey trying to REPLACE
some one else with you and thats horrible. You should be the one to draw the line and say
if you don't have feelings for me or love me the way you use to then
why are you doing this to me? Tell him that friends don't kiss on the lips and cuddle in bed... ask him and be straigt. Just ask him, ''why do you kiss me if it doesn't mean anything or you so called don't have feelings for me?''
Dude he is confusing,proabably confused with himself, and he's playing mind games with you.
I think you should just be straight with him, and you shouldn't let him do any of those things with him (even if u want to) because, he was the one to say that you guys should be friends. So treat him like a friend and not a mate.
I have so much more advice but no time to type...
so good luck and I hope things work out between you guys =)
ok me reading this he still loves you because he is seeing you all the time and friends obviously dont do that. He is visiting you becasue he misses you, and you are right he dont wanna looose you again like he already did the first time. Next time you see him, tell him ';do you love me or not, and if you dont, dont see me anymore'; .. He is probably going to say no because he wants to move on with his life, and find someone else, or is just mad that you are in college and is afraid you are going to cheat on him, but again if he says no at that point leave him and move on. You have a whole life to live, and it seems like he is wasting your time right now. But if he says yes say with him. Start over a new leaf right now, if he is not right for you, there will be other guys in the world he would treat you more.
He still cares about you and enjoys being with you BUT since you are gone..even if its 10 minutes he wants 2 things to be accomplished with this ';break up'; I think he wants to be the one that does the controlling of the relationship so if you find someone else he is the one that broke up with you..and...if he does he wont be cheating on you since you are broken up....its basically called Keeping his options open.
He might still care about you but might be worried that you have been together so long and the only one hes been with, that hes missing something.
I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
I'm lucky if my boyfriend calls me once a week now. When we are together it's really great. He's affectionate and loving but once I leave I won't hear from him for like two or three days (sometimes more). Is this just the way some guys are or is he cheating on me? We've been together for 7 months. I try not to call him because I want to see how long it will take for him to call me. After three days I let go and call him. Help please!I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
No, it doesn't necessary mean he is cheating on you. It could mean that relationships aren't the center of his world. Meaning, he won't call you as often. So, the question should be, do you want a boyfriend who doesn't call you often?I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
He may not necessarily be cheating, he could just be pre-occupied with other things but as painful as the realization is, if he was really that into you, he would make more time for you.
You deserve to be treated the way you want to be and the way you treat others. If he isn't fulfilling that for you, move on. You will find someone who will eventually. Until then, being with him is taking away from that much more time you could be happy with someone else.
Sadly he is not serious or not very interested. You need to be the same and very indifferent so you can see how much he is into you. If not then get away and find someone better.
u have to be extremely sure that ur bf actually has the time to call u....is he too preoccupied with work???if the answer is yes then maybe it is just his work....we sometimes expect men to keep calling us and take out even 5 minutes a day to call us but men r not like that.....they do not understand the concept of calling even if they have just 5 minutes.....as u say that things r great between the two of u so it is most unlikely that he is having an affair..... don't push him as he may think u r being too needy....let him have his space ...if it really bothers u that much then let him know that u would really appriciate it if he called more often but accept the situation if he has a genuine reason....all the best.........alpha ahava
No, it doesn't necessary mean he is cheating on you. It could mean that relationships aren't the center of his world. Meaning, he won't call you as often. So, the question should be, do you want a boyfriend who doesn't call you often?I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
He may not necessarily be cheating, he could just be pre-occupied with other things but as painful as the realization is, if he was really that into you, he would make more time for you.
You deserve to be treated the way you want to be and the way you treat others. If he isn't fulfilling that for you, move on. You will find someone who will eventually. Until then, being with him is taking away from that much more time you could be happy with someone else.
Sadly he is not serious or not very interested. You need to be the same and very indifferent so you can see how much he is into you. If not then get away and find someone better.
u have to be extremely sure that ur bf actually has the time to call u....is he too preoccupied with work???if the answer is yes then maybe it is just his work....we sometimes expect men to keep calling us and take out even 5 minutes a day to call us but men r not like that.....they do not understand the concept of calling even if they have just 5 minutes.....as u say that things r great between the two of u so it is most unlikely that he is having an affair..... don't push him as he may think u r being too needy....let him have his space ...if it really bothers u that much then let him know that u would really appriciate it if he called more often but accept the situation if he has a genuine reason....all the best.........
I need relationship advice!?
I have a feeling that my boyfriend of 4 years is going to ask me to marry him soon. I don't want him to because though he is the love of my life and my best friend, I can't see myself being romantically happy with him. He used to be a big romancer back in the day but now that we live together, all we do when we spend time together is watch tv or go to a dinner and a movie. BORING!!! I'm only 21 and I know that I probably could find someone else that excites me, but I also don't want to break up with my guy because I do love him and I want to believe that he can change. Does anyone have any advice for me how I can talk him into wanting to change for me? I've tried talking to him and even threatened to leave if he didn't but no luck. I know he loves me but I feel he's just comfortable not having to prove anything to me anymore. Please help...my whole life is on the line...I need relationship advice!?
to be honest with you, most relationships are not going to be exciting forever. especially if you're wanting to eventually get married and be with someone for the rest of your life. you have to find ways to make it exciting if you want it to be. you can't leave it all up to him. i'm perfectly happy married at 21 with my husband and he's probably the most boring person that i know. but i still love him just as much as i did when i met him. if it's really about not wanting to get married, just tell him no. you don't need to rush into anything right now. but i really would try harder to get out there and make your relationship more exciting because you never know what you might have missed out on.I need relationship advice!?
he wants a life long commitment,
you don't,
you leave, you being selfish is not fair to him
life as you know is about to change
He shouldn't change for you, If he changes at all, it should be for him. You either accept him as he is or move on and stop wasting his time and yours. It's not fair for you to expect someone to change into what you want them to be...how would you feel if someone wanted you to change for them, so they'd dig you enough to marry you? That would mean, they weren't really into the person you actually are...
You can let him know that you love him but feel like you are too young to make a decision yet for the rest of your life. And wile you are at talking, you can tell him too that you would like to go out more, spend time with friends and develop interests toghether or on your own. Good Luck.
Relax,,,It is 4 years,,that's a long time,,so you have been with him since your teenage yrs. Imagine being with him for 10 more. You need to remind yourself the things that attracted you to him in the first place. The men he is. Many women here wished they had the problem you are describing. Men usually go out with the guys and wives usually get angry at the amound of time they spend outside the home. I see you both need to communicate better and to do something (maybe a mini vacation) to spark the romance right back into the realtionship...I wish you luck.
Before living together is romantic, then during usually not. Everyday life is different, it brings cooking, cleaning, bills and so go on. Your boyfriend looks OK. If you believe next man in your life will be different, you can be very disappointed. Again before will be romantic and later not. Try to be realistic, but it is really hard in your age. If you love him and he loves you there is usually no place for to be boring. Love comes and goes, so If you have different style of life, different expectation, different character and interests there is time to decide if you belongs together now and quickly, before kids will come. And only you can decide about to stay together with him, nobody else. Taking decision try to remember: this days is not easy to find just a good guy.
so why are you wasting his time ? what do you expect him to do a 3 ring circus for you every night? i love to stay home in bed and watch a movie and get some take out with my sweetheart. occasionally we go to a club with Friends .but you can't expect excitement 24 -7 its just not to realistic.
you are 21 so regardless i would tell you to wait a while to get married anyway but i think you don't have a realistic idea of it. and he shouldn't have to change for you. i know you said he was a big romancer back in the day but you cant expect romance all the time.
first, you are far too young to be in a relationship, let alone a marriage, so be open about that, and honest with yourself too. Take your time and identify what you want in a relationship, as well as what you have to offer, which can take a while. Then find ways to meet those ideals. That would be far better than faking everything, especially in a marriage.
Good luck!
Ahhh...the beauty of a relationship that knows itself. Quite different from the honey moon period isn't it?
Best thing to do figure out what you want from him, by that I mean what are your needs and wants in the relationship. Make a list and tell him about it, also have him make a list of his wants and needs. Then start filling those wants and needs, one night a week or two or whatever your budget will allow you.
Another good idea is get some relationship counselling to help open your communication.
p.s. quit threatening to leave, that's just not nice.
Well guess what the next relationship may hold the same all fun and games then reality. Maybe you can set the stage for romance, why not!!. The Next relationship will have the same hot start and then simmer down, I know a lot of couples who share the same story. It may be that you are not ready for marriage yet. I was engaged for 8 years before getting married and lived together before the engagement. Same story hot to start then simmered down. Life is what you make out of it I wish my wife would introduce some romance into our marriage, but marriage is for better or for worse in sickness and in health for richer or poorer till death do us part. Both of you have to put more into a relationship than you take from it that way things will work out. Good luck and best wishes!!!
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to be honest with you, most relationships are not going to be exciting forever. especially if you're wanting to eventually get married and be with someone for the rest of your life. you have to find ways to make it exciting if you want it to be. you can't leave it all up to him. i'm perfectly happy married at 21 with my husband and he's probably the most boring person that i know. but i still love him just as much as i did when i met him. if it's really about not wanting to get married, just tell him no. you don't need to rush into anything right now. but i really would try harder to get out there and make your relationship more exciting because you never know what you might have missed out on.I need relationship advice!?
he wants a life long commitment,
you don't,
you leave, you being selfish is not fair to him
life as you know is about to change
He shouldn't change for you, If he changes at all, it should be for him. You either accept him as he is or move on and stop wasting his time and yours. It's not fair for you to expect someone to change into what you want them to be...how would you feel if someone wanted you to change for them, so they'd dig you enough to marry you? That would mean, they weren't really into the person you actually are...
You can let him know that you love him but feel like you are too young to make a decision yet for the rest of your life. And wile you are at talking, you can tell him too that you would like to go out more, spend time with friends and develop interests toghether or on your own. Good Luck.
Relax,,,It is 4 years,,that's a long time,,so you have been with him since your teenage yrs. Imagine being with him for 10 more. You need to remind yourself the things that attracted you to him in the first place. The men he is. Many women here wished they had the problem you are describing. Men usually go out with the guys and wives usually get angry at the amound of time they spend outside the home. I see you both need to communicate better and to do something (maybe a mini vacation) to spark the romance right back into the realtionship...I wish you luck.
Before living together is romantic, then during usually not. Everyday life is different, it brings cooking, cleaning, bills and so go on. Your boyfriend looks OK. If you believe next man in your life will be different, you can be very disappointed. Again before will be romantic and later not. Try to be realistic, but it is really hard in your age. If you love him and he loves you there is usually no place for to be boring. Love comes and goes, so If you have different style of life, different expectation, different character and interests there is time to decide if you belongs together now and quickly, before kids will come. And only you can decide about to stay together with him, nobody else. Taking decision try to remember: this days is not easy to find just a good guy.
so why are you wasting his time ? what do you expect him to do a 3 ring circus for you every night? i love to stay home in bed and watch a movie and get some take out with my sweetheart. occasionally we go to a club with Friends .but you can't expect excitement 24 -7 its just not to realistic.
you are 21 so regardless i would tell you to wait a while to get married anyway but i think you don't have a realistic idea of it. and he shouldn't have to change for you. i know you said he was a big romancer back in the day but you cant expect romance all the time.
first, you are far too young to be in a relationship, let alone a marriage, so be open about that, and honest with yourself too. Take your time and identify what you want in a relationship, as well as what you have to offer, which can take a while. Then find ways to meet those ideals. That would be far better than faking everything, especially in a marriage.
Good luck!
Ahhh...the beauty of a relationship that knows itself. Quite different from the honey moon period isn't it?
Best thing to do figure out what you want from him, by that I mean what are your needs and wants in the relationship. Make a list and tell him about it, also have him make a list of his wants and needs. Then start filling those wants and needs, one night a week or two or whatever your budget will allow you.
Another good idea is get some relationship counselling to help open your communication.
p.s. quit threatening to leave, that's just not nice.
Well guess what the next relationship may hold the same all fun and games then reality. Maybe you can set the stage for romance, why not!!. The Next relationship will have the same hot start and then simmer down, I know a lot of couples who share the same story. It may be that you are not ready for marriage yet. I was engaged for 8 years before getting married and lived together before the engagement. Same story hot to start then simmered down. Life is what you make out of it I wish my wife would introduce some romance into our marriage, but marriage is for better or for worse in sickness and in health for richer or poorer till death do us part. Both of you have to put more into a relationship than you take from it that way things will work out. Good luck and best wishes!!!
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A little relationship advice please?
So me and this girl dated and then we stopped. I could tell something was wrong so I asked her. She had come out of a 5 year relationship and said she needed to be single. Since then she hasn't talked to me very much and even though we aren't dating I wanted to be her friend. I kind of felt neglected and let it fizzle. Now I have forced myself to overcome feelings for her even though they were so strong at one point. I can tell she is making sure I hang around. I have a feeling that once she gets over her ex boyfriend shes going to come back to me. I'm not sure if I should welcome her back or not because she really has hurt me by neglecting me altogether. Would you take someone back in this situation? Am I being to critical on her for coming out of long relationship?A little relationship advice please?
It's a very big risk to wait for her. Sadly, some women never do really get over an ex. There are certain people who you love so deeply, and when they hurt you, you are scarred for life. Life isn't a fairytale, and this is the reality of it. Why would you want someone who might still have feelings for another man? Those feelings should be for you, all of them. You can be with someone who has her whole heart available to you, and can love you unconditionally. You are better off that way.A little relationship advice please?
she was on the rebound...
maybe its best step back for now, and see what she does. be sure the signs are clear before crossing the road.
It's a very big risk to wait for her. Sadly, some women never do really get over an ex. There are certain people who you love so deeply, and when they hurt you, you are scarred for life. Life isn't a fairytale, and this is the reality of it. Why would you want someone who might still have feelings for another man? Those feelings should be for you, all of them. You can be with someone who has her whole heart available to you, and can love you unconditionally. You are better off that way.A little relationship advice please?
she was on the rebound...
maybe its best step back for now, and see what she does. be sure the signs are clear before crossing the road.
Help please ... relationship advice???
check it out.... for some reason i cant find a good relationship with any girl that i date or am interested in.... my previous girlfriends all say that im the perfect guy... i cant blame them cuz u know i am portuguese .... seriously tho my relationships all end badly ... i only seem to attract shallow women that are gorgeous...for once i want a gorgeous girl that i can connect to and have a descent relationship with.....
DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE OR SUGGESTIONS????Help please ... relationship advice???
Try dating a woman that is not gorgeous, and has a personality. Im not saying all gorgeous women dont have one, but most don't (from my experience). Most good looking women seem to be looking for a good time, and nothing else....not a real relationship. Hope I don't offend.Help please ... relationship advice???
Maybe you shouldn't go after a gorgeous girl. There are pretty girls out there who would appreciate a guy that is nice. Pretty girls are somewhat better because they aren't that shallow and care for a guy more. Its not all about them. Don't always base everything on looks, because your relationship problems will probably continue.
just be patient
it's the best thing you can do
the right girl will find you
or who knows maybe she's there and you don't even know it!
good luck :)
DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE OR SUGGESTIONS????Help please ... relationship advice???
Try dating a woman that is not gorgeous, and has a personality. Im not saying all gorgeous women dont have one, but most don't (from my experience). Most good looking women seem to be looking for a good time, and nothing else....not a real relationship. Hope I don't offend.Help please ... relationship advice???
Maybe you shouldn't go after a gorgeous girl. There are pretty girls out there who would appreciate a guy that is nice. Pretty girls are somewhat better because they aren't that shallow and care for a guy more. Its not all about them. Don't always base everything on looks, because your relationship problems will probably continue.
just be patient
it's the best thing you can do
the right girl will find you
or who knows maybe she's there and you don't even know it!
good luck :)
I need relationship advice!?
ive been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 3years now and were both students so don't live together as we cant afford it, but recently we've been seeing less of each other because work and college is quite demanding, we have both noticed how distant we hav become and even our physical relationship is beginning to suffer which makes us feel even more distant. we have always seen plenty of each other before now so this is new to us, we both really care and love each other and want to fix this before it gets worse, any ideas on how we can make the time we do spend together more fun and interesting? we don't drive and cant afford to go out the hole time and we live in our parents houses, i no its a difficult one!! but we need help if we want to save our relationship, which we do!!I need relationship advice!?
Aww this sounds EXACTLY like me and my boyfriend when we were at uni.
Its a brilliant start that you both want to be together...if thats the case you WILL get through this. You'l look back and think..wow that was a tough few months, but we made it. If you made it through 3 yrs bein in a relationship, with all the temptation at uni...you'l survive :)
What me and my bf did to spend more time together...
Ok this may sound sad but we actually studied together. Go to your seperate classes as normal, then why dont u meet up in the eveving...say he comes to yours and you cook for him.. or he has dinner with ur family or whatever. Then go upto the room, study for say 2or 3 hrs, whatever it takes and relax together for an hour..watch tv, whatever. I remember doin that with my bf, and just him bein there helped...tryin to stay awake before final yr exams together actually helped us bond even more!
If this is too time consuming, you could simply meet up for lunch between classes. I dont know how far you live from eachother so this could be difficult?
Another option is to have one night, just ONE a week where its all about you two. Say a sunday or monday when uni work isnt really a priority. Go for a meal, or a walk, or the cinema, or just do what you used to do!
There are loads of things really, but as i say, im not sure how far you live from eachother or at what stage of uni you are at. Just hang in there, uni will pass you by so quick and all the pain will have been worth it! :)
I need relationship advice!?
Just do simple things together if you would really like to build up on the relationship.
before yous start any physical contact have a meal together, play an intelectual game of scrabble together connect on an intelectual level take interest in each others studies.
listen to each other when yous talk.
Really if you care about each other as much as you say it will work out. In the mean time go out with your other friends too, don't limit yourself.
You sound as though you both want to make it work, that is a good start. Try spending time together such as weekends, have one weekend when you plan what to do then next is his turn. Yes you could go out and spend loads of money, but isn't a viable option. How about going to seaside, have fun fly a kite, give each other 20p to put in the penny machines, have a picnic on beach. Remember it has nothing to do with what you do it is all about who you do it with, its your time together to rekindle the feelings. Try and think of things you use to enjoy doing as a couple.
Hope am of help, good luck.
Aww this sounds EXACTLY like me and my boyfriend when we were at uni.
Its a brilliant start that you both want to be together...if thats the case you WILL get through this. You'l look back and think..wow that was a tough few months, but we made it. If you made it through 3 yrs bein in a relationship, with all the temptation at uni...you'l survive :)
What me and my bf did to spend more time together...
Ok this may sound sad but we actually studied together. Go to your seperate classes as normal, then why dont u meet up in the eveving...say he comes to yours and you cook for him.. or he has dinner with ur family or whatever. Then go upto the room, study for say 2or 3 hrs, whatever it takes and relax together for an hour..watch tv, whatever. I remember doin that with my bf, and just him bein there helped...tryin to stay awake before final yr exams together actually helped us bond even more!
If this is too time consuming, you could simply meet up for lunch between classes. I dont know how far you live from eachother so this could be difficult?
Another option is to have one night, just ONE a week where its all about you two. Say a sunday or monday when uni work isnt really a priority. Go for a meal, or a walk, or the cinema, or just do what you used to do!
There are loads of things really, but as i say, im not sure how far you live from eachother or at what stage of uni you are at. Just hang in there, uni will pass you by so quick and all the pain will have been worth it! :)
I need relationship advice!?
Just do simple things together if you would really like to build up on the relationship.
before yous start any physical contact have a meal together, play an intelectual game of scrabble together connect on an intelectual level take interest in each others studies.
listen to each other when yous talk.
Really if you care about each other as much as you say it will work out. In the mean time go out with your other friends too, don't limit yourself.
You sound as though you both want to make it work, that is a good start. Try spending time together such as weekends, have one weekend when you plan what to do then next is his turn. Yes you could go out and spend loads of money, but isn't a viable option. How about going to seaside, have fun fly a kite, give each other 20p to put in the penny machines, have a picnic on beach. Remember it has nothing to do with what you do it is all about who you do it with, its your time together to rekindle the feelings. Try and think of things you use to enjoy doing as a couple.
Hope am of help, good luck.
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