NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?

facts.





-dated my girlfriend (first real one) for 4 months





-broke up with her


-was unhappy, stressed and worried because i didnt want to lose her.





-we agreed to just be friends.





-weve hardly talked since the breakup (about 2 days)





-its really hard because i want to be friends with her but when she ignores me and stuff it hurts.





-today i told her i wanted to go back out because ive been in so much pain over it all





-she feels the same way (about the pain) but she needs time to think.





-i think we both need a break but im afraid ill lose her if we dont get back together.





-im fine with just being friends.





Now im having issues because..





-this girl thats a really good friend of mine kinda likes me.





-i kinda like her too.





-we both just kinda got out of relationships so we wont get together right away.





-im seeing her tomorrow at our football game. and saturday for the pumpkin patch. (with other people.. including possibly my ex)





So now that thats been said. im having trouble whether to stick with trying to get back together with my ex.. or flirt with my friend and see where things go from there. This way my and ex and i get a bit of a break from each other.. and since i told her i want to get back together i have to wait till she starts saying something about that happening before we can..right? NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?
You said she feels the same way about the pain but needs time to think? That couldn't be possible. If she felt the same way about the pain, she would be asking you to get back together just as you have asked her. I'm not saying that she is not hurting. When we date someone, we form a bond, a friendship and a sincere feeling of caring for that person. When that person is no longer in our life, it hurts. But it doesn't always mean it hurts the way it would if you REALLY wanted to be with that person in an intimate relationship.





Personally, I think you should ask her to meet you somewhere to talk. Let her know it's serious and not an attempt to beg her back. When you get alone to talk to her be completely honest! Tell her how you feel about her, but that you understand she may not have the same feelings for you, but if she did to please let you know. Tell her that there is a possibility that you may take someone on a date and that you wanted to show her the respect of letting her know before she just shows up and finds out for herself.





The conversation will go from there. Any mature girl would appreciate your honesty. Plus after the conversation you should really know where the relationship stands and if you do go out with someone else and run in to your ex, it will not be as awkward as it would be had you not forewarned her.NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?
well do u just wana get with someone because u dont wana be single





and if u still like ur x y would u go out with another girl or flirt id just go with who u like the most and to see who u like the most write a list of good things and bad things and see wat one u like more and were not objects or a game so take this seriouse and yeah u have to wait for ur xs opinon
I would flirt with your friend you have now not your ex.


But it depends on who you like more. If you like your ex more and you try dating your friend it probally wont work because you'll still be sad, and feel guilty and always think about the EX. but if it will help get over your ex then fine.


when your ex said she might need some time, either you can wait on her or go on your own path. .


if you like your friend alot more give it a chance and it may work like a charm.


:)


i think the reason you hurt with out your ex is because you got your first actual gf and you got clingy. i know how you feel thats how i was for my first ex and then i noticed the only reason i was so sad is because it was my first heartbreak and i had gotten really clingy.








Anyways, I hope I helped somehow.





I'll star this so maybe you have a more likely chance of getting more answers.





Goodluck:)