[military] relationship advice is needed?

okay so lately i have been feeling a bit of confusion in what i should do with my life in the future





my fiancee in the air force right now and over in iraq and returning home in January, after he gets back we are going to get married.


but lately i have been feeling that i am being pulled away from getting married, even though we have been planning this for a year now, i feel like i just dont know what to do when he returns; get married or stay in college.





my friend wants to room with me in college next semester and my sister wants to get an apartment with her...seems like everyone i know has forgot that am in a relationship and is planning to get married i felt like this was a sign to just stay in college and not get married right now.





but then if i dont im hurting somebody that i still love and like and i want him to still be in my life but him being in the air force makes it not easy, he is based in another state and next may he is being based in another country. i feel that if i stay home and go to college my worst fear is losing him and that we will slowly drift apart and that i missed out on somebody that i will always love.





what would you do in my situation: stay home and go finish college OR get married as plan and finish my college with an online school?





please give advice as well, i feel hopeless in love [military] relationship advice is needed?
Hi


Is it really the issue of school that has you feeling doubtful about your marriage plans.





I think it could be a bit more however that is not for me to say.


Why cant you do both or all the above!


I take it he still has active duty time after his current tour.


Talk to him of course and who knows he could be in Iraq saying man What im going to tell her about possibly putting the wedding off. I don't want to hurt her.


Communication and the truth never hurt anyone or anything Even if a bit of heart ache is felt


I only ask that you do one thing and that is make a decision based on you. That is the best decision you could ever make which his for his up most good.


If you make a choice either one with the slightest doubt then i promise it will grow over the years


and do neither of you any good.





I am sure after you talk to him you will have a much clearer focus You don't have to make a choice right now. However if school starts before he returns etc


You must do whats best for you and enroll.








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peace