I need relationship advice- I currently have issues with my boyfriend on having the courtesy of calling when h

I need relationship advice- I currently have issues with my boyfriend on having the courtesy of calling when he is hanging out with his friends. It irritates me that I call to let him know of my plans, yet he doesn't do it as often. I have already expressed how I feel about the situation, but he doesn't seem to understand where I am coming from. He ';agrees'; but then there are times where he doesn't bother to inform me of what is doing until I call. We do see eachother often, and he does call everyday, but in particular he sometimes doesn't call to let me know what he is doing. I don't know of ways to get through to him... anybody with the same/similiar experiences have advice? psychologists? lol thank youI need relationship advice- I currently have issues with my boyfriend on having the courtesy of calling when h
Guys just do not like females to know their every move. They are men and that is just part of playing the male role. They don't like to feel like they have to answer to females as if the female is their mom.I need relationship advice- I currently have issues with my boyfriend on having the courtesy of calling when h
Yeah I think that you are expecting a bit too much from him, if he called you everytime he did something different then he would just become annoyed at you, everybody needs some time away from their partners sometimes just to have space and let a healthy relationship grow.





Just let him have some freedom, yes you are in a relationship so if you ask what he has been dong then he should be able to tell you without question, but it doesn't mean that he should say every little plan that comes into his head, I think you are asking too much.
He calls you everyday, so why dont you just asked him how was his day, where did he go, who did he hang out with. He does not have to tell you everything he plans to do for the day, he probably felt like he has to report to you or something. Try to compromise, don't treat him like a child that needs to be monitored. Don't you trust him?
************explain the logic you have behind wanting to know what he is doing..you may have cancelled plans with a friend b/c you were under the assumption that he was going to be free.. if all else fells, return the favor to him but don't make it so obvious and don't get into a habit and hopefully he will pick up on it..sometimes people need the things they are doing to others done to them..most guys are like that.. i don't know why, but they are..
This sounds like a couple of gay guys. Do you have issues with trying to control your boyfriend? Apparently you are more serious about the relationship than he is. Either you trust him or you don't. If you do, then give him the right to make his own decisions whether you agree or not. If you don't, forget him and move on.
When a guys does that to his girl. It means that he's losing his interest with this girl but has a second thought whether to or not to break this relationship. My advise here, break up with this fella, get a men who not only loves you but also knows how to treat you. And most importantly, knows to RESPECT you and your feelings.
I think he is just a typical guy. Unlike us girls we like to tell our friends/boyfriend everything, every move we make etc lol its in our nature. But guys are more laid back about these things, you cannot make a leopard change its spots and if he isn't changing this behaviour then he probably never will. Atleast that is all he is doing ,its harmless :)
Well, I am curious as to why you feel that he has to call you and let you know what he is doing? Do you not trust him? If he calls every day, to talk to you...be happy! Quit obsessing over his every move, men don't much care for clingy women and you sound like one of them!
sounds like he might just feel like he's doing enough by calling you everyday and doesn't feel like you need to know what he is doing every moment, also when your doing something it hard to rember to call someone till later.
You are being too clingy. Your boyfriend will get really tired of this. Trust me on this one. Give him his space or you will most certainly be looking for a new boyfriend one day.
give him some freedom.


that's all he needs.
are you straight
I know exactly where you coming from, you gotta train him lol.


Okay here's what happened yo me, my fiance NEVER called to let me know when his best friends called (one of whom is female and had a crush or whatever you wanna call it at the time)


and they asked him to hang out because they have not seen him for a while.


Okay I called him it was about 11 o'clock p.m.


Alright, all I hear is loud talking or whatever in the back and he says I am with friends let me call you back in a few.


I said fine and hung up.


I was SO SO pissed.


I knew that ho was there too.


I wanted to come see him and here he was enjoying himself.


When he got back to me I told him I don't appreciate how he does things and if he continues to do that I will STOP telling him when I am going out, who I am with, and whatnot.


It took me a long time but I kept letting him know all the time (not nagging but whenever was good to bring it up)


that I ALWAYS tell him what's up and he has no respect for me or our relationship if he continues to do what he is doing.


SURE ENOUGH he got the picture, it took a while but now he lets me know in advance so I won't make plans on surprising him and it don't work out.


LOL Train that man, I am figuring you can do something along these lines.


I prolly wrote too much but I hope this helps!


Good luck, and enjoy your relationship to the fullest!
He probably doesn't see it as a big deal as you do to check in. I didn't call my ex all the time telling her where I was going, although she was like you and would call or leave messages saying what she was doing or where she was when she was out with her friends. I guess its a courtesy thing. All you can do is tell him how it makes you feel, my ex never told me to check in. I think if she did that it woulda made me feel a bit weird. You have to think about it this way, the only other person who has ever asked him to check in was probably his parents and you know how a lot of people feel bout that. Good Luck.
wow are you his mother ? why is it necessary for him to keep you informed of his where abouts at all times ? don't you trust him ? this is a trust issue you know and you wont have a boyfriend for much longer if you keep this kind of possessive behavior up ! soon he will start to turn his phone off or lie so you will get off his as* you are not the center of his universe he has a life and friends and he is entitled to this and some privacy so back off or you will be back on here asking 'why did he leave me'?
He probably just isn't thinking that he needs to check in with you. I understand your concerns, my bf had the same problem with me. But after years of having to check in with my parents, I resented then having a ';third parent'; that I need to call, now that I'm a grown woman. He might feel the same. I understand that its a two way street and you should do your best to make your partner feel comfortable. But try and give him a break sometimes. Maybe if you stop checking in with him everytime you hang out with your friends, he might understand where you're coming from.





I know its probably not the answer you wanted.
I think he may be telling you in his own way by not calling that you are keeping to close of tabs on him. If you want to let him know what you're doing all the time and with whom that's ok..though even that may be getting on his nerves. You shouldn't expect, demand or request that he let you know what he's doing all the time. All you're going to do is run him off. He will start to feel you are to clingy and that you're trying to control his every move. That may not be the case but he may feel that way. Let it go. Have you ever wondered what he'd think if you didn't call him all the time with what you're doing?Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing at all. The more you chase after him the more he may run the other way but the more you let go the more you draw him back to you. Think about it.