I need relationship advice :(:(?

I dated the same guy for 2 years, we broke up over a year ago. I was controlling %26amp; I didn't trust him when we were dating so eventually it pushed him away and he left me. I didn't realize how crazy I acted towards him until after we broke up. We both moved on, but about a month ago we started talking again...





We text almost everyday, and we have hung out a total of maybe 4 or 5 times. The first time we hung out, he just came to my house %26amp; we talked for a couple of hours. The second time, I went to his apartment where we had intercourse 3 times. The third time we hung out we just went to starbucks %26amp; talked again. And the fourth time we hung out he came to my place where we had sex again. When we did it this time he asked if he could *** inside of me (sorry for the TMI), and he knows I'm not on any type of birth control. I just ignored him thinking that he wasn't being serious, but I didn't realize he was until AFTER he finished. So, I made the comment to him 'I hope I don't get pregnant' and he would just tell me not to freak him out. Well, after that we went shopping, and while we were there he kept pointing out baby stuff and saying 'we should get started shopping early'... I just kind of laughed it off. That night I decided that I was going to bring up our relationship to him so I told him that I wanted him back, and all he would say is 'i can't right now'. I decided that I couldn't keep talking to someone who would never take me back so I told him that I couldn't keep talking to him. All he said was 'if thats what you want'. We went about 24 hours without talking, and I finally text him and said that i miss him.. he told me he misses me too. Well, yesterday we were talking and I asked him 'why are you holding back?' and he said 'because it's hard for me not to with you'.





I don't know what to think... and I don't know what to do.


I love him with all my heart, and I would do anything to get him back... I've told him that and all he says is 'well?'





What am I supposed to do??? What do you think he is thinking????I need relationship advice :(:(?
I dont think I could stay with somone that doesnt know if they want to be with me. His answer to you loving him is ';well?';, not a good sign.I need relationship advice :(:(?
Get on some bc, the last thing you need is a baby. It sounds to me like he just wants sex once in a while, so keeps you online. I would punt him.
hes thinking wow, how am i going to avoid this chick for 18 years when she's chasing me down for child support every month.
Either he's looking for a booty call or you really hurt him and he doesn't want to go down the same road with you.
sounds as though he might have a girlfriend or wife on the side and is playing the fields watch out as you might be the other woman
Hello... Can't you see he just wants you for sex? You are over-thinking this. You will never be more than a friend with benefits to him.
this is too long...good luck with ur life tho =]
This is a hard one because there are so many intangibles. First off it is good that you realized your fault in you two breaking up, at least that way if you do wind up back together you know what not to do. As far as letting him ejaculate into you, first off you should always take that question serious in the moment because most guys in the moment will if you allow them to. Now that the deed is done you need to get tested and see if you are pregnant. That's the most important thing right now. Then you can move forward from there. If you are pregnant he needs to decide if he is going to be with you or not, and if not you both need to decide what to do about the baby. Hopefully you will not abort. If your not pregnant, then you guys should have a serious sit down. If he feels that he has to hold back with you it may be because you were too controlling the first time around. If that is the case, you need to let him know that you understand that, and that you have changed. You have to prove that to him and just take it slow. One thing I would suggest is that if your going to take it slow with him that you slow down on the sex, and use protection especially because you don't know if he is being exclusive with you and you don't want him bringing you any nasty diseases back, and you don't want to be a single mother (at least I don't think you do).


In short you both need to sit down and have a serious discussion about where this is heading. Let him know that your not just going to be his booty call, and that you were doing ok before he came back and if he wants to be with you then he needs to step up and do it, and if not you guys can be friends but don't let him use you for sex.
well ima play Dr. Phil for a min


haha but all ya gotta do is move on find someone else. its not hard.


sounds to me like the dude was only after one thing and ya gave it to him a lot. so yeah. odds are he wants someone else but wanted to use ya for it to lol. my advise is stop giving him what he wants. go talk to new ppl hangout with friends/family or do a hobby you like to get your mind off it. and youll get over it soon. dont dwell on someone so long cause youll never realise that theres someone else out there for ya if ya only have your mind on a certain person who doesnt want you.
He sounds too wishy-washy. You already put yourself out there so now the ball is in his court. Let him come to you and if he doesn't then you know he's an ****** that just wanted to use you for sex.
Major LOSER alert!!!





Why would he want to be in a committed relationship with you when you are giving him everything without it? Everyday communication (constant ego stroking). Sex whenever he wants it (bootycall with no strings attached) and unprotected sex at that where he's playing games with your life by purposely trying to get you pregnant but doesn't want to commit to you.





Ask yourself are you this stupid. If you didn't trust him while in your relationship it appears to me that you had good reason because he doesn't seem mature enough for a real relationship.
I think both of you need to grow up and stop playing with fire. Get birth control so you don't mess up another life while you are at it. As for the rest, sit down and talk to each other about your true feelings and where each of you wants to go from here.
First of all TAKE THE BIRTH CONTROL PILL!!! Why would you even risk getting pregnant???? what are you thinking?


Give it some time, continue dating casually for a while to see if you two are right for each other. You gave him a hard time before, he needs to make sure you've changed before he can commit, only time will do that.


But what nobody needs is one more unhappy child with unhappy parents, so please use a condom/birth control pills!