I need some relationship advice please!?

OK…I have been seeing this woman for a couple of months, in this kind of romantic way, at least in her eyes. She has 3 kids and all kinds of relatives I’ve met, including cousins, aunts, uncles, even her mother and father. I’m realizing that it is getting close to Christmas, plus this woman’s birthday is near the end of this month. This is going to cost me enormous amounts of money for Christmas presents for her and her kids and some of the “closer” relatives. Not to mention all the pressures of finding the “right gifts” for each of these people and for her birthday, too!!!





I’m just wondering…should I dump her now, or wait until after her birthday, or perhaps just do it on her birthday, instead of a gift? I would hate to have to spend money on her birthday, too. Also, can I do this break-up by text message? It would make it so much easier not having to look at her eyes all welling up with tears?? Your thoughts??


I need some relationship advice please!?
So let me get this straight.....are you dumping her because you don't have ';romantic'; feelings for her or because the holidays are coming up and you don't want to spend money on her and her family?





If it's because you don't have the same feelings for her, then it's better to do it sooner rather than later. The longer you wait the more she gets attached and the harder she'll take it. Do it in person. A text is a pretty cowardly way of ';dumping'; someone. At least give her the respect of doing it face to face.





If it's because you don't want to ';waste'; your money on her and her family over the holidays....you are a poor excuse for a man. You don't NEED to buy anyone anything if you don't want to. It's not a written rule that you have to get everyone something anyways, especially if you just started seeing this woman. And it's pretty lame to cut all ties with someone for this reason. Grow up and while you're at it, grow some balls.I need some relationship advice please!?
Michael, don't dumped her with a message. No e-mails, text messages, hand-written letters, etc. And you don't have to dump her just because you can't afford to get her and her family a birthday and Christmas present. Unless you don't like her anymore, then yes.





Just get her a cheap birthday card and by Christmas, maybe spend a little bit more.
I said it before and I'll say it again, you must come up with a disease that let's you disappear for 6 weeks into relative oblivion.


And then after the holidays you can resurrect your relationship.





Nobody will break up with you if you have *tada* MANO!!!
Let's see - dump her now, but save some of that cash, because my birthday is 3 days before Christmas %26amp; I need a present. Lots of presents! LOL But look on the bright side - you can COMBINE my birthday %26amp; Christmas present this year, okay? ;~)
Did you go to school on how to be insensitive? Or are you trolling for outrage?
You sound like a selfish bastard, work on yourself
just shop at the 99 cent store and they will dump you...





hey good to see your still alive..