Bad relationship -- advice?

I have been with this guy for 7 months first love first partner we moved in together 2 months ago we have been having serious problems and i broke up with him 2 weeks ago but were still talking and kind of trying to work it out i just dont know if its worth it ive tried leaving him but its hard because i care about him so much but hes not the guy i fell for he has anger problems hes admitted he says things such as fat bi%%26amp;$ and c*nt just because he knows they hurt me and hes insanely insecure i am not allowed to hang out with single guys and he goes thru my cell phone every time i come home and he manipulates me like he will threaten to take my dog and never let me see it again if i move out and whatnot he just has crazy anger outbursts over something thats an accident or i didnt even do then ill cry and hell apologize etc. he said he wants to get help and hes set up an apt to check for bipolar but im not happy when i do leave him i miss him and when we are getting along i can see it lasting forever but his moodswings take over everything and we never do anything fun he saves that for his friends and i have to ask him so many times to do anything he makes me feel guilty like i owe him to stay with him and whatnot. im just at a loss. i kno i care about him and i want to be there for him and hes forced himself to be the center of my life for so long not being by him is hard. is it worth it? should i stick it out? what do i do? and if i did leave him i wouldnt be able to date anyone soon it would just kill him. And hes always making plans with me then changing them for our drinking buddies. he lets them trash the place all the time cuz he wants them to like him and he blows a lot of money on everyones liquor and then he gets all cocky. the other nite i went to sleep while they were still awake i was just in the other room taking out my contacts and i hear him saying how i called him up begging to *** to this party and he didnt kno how to turn me down (when he told me i had to come) and how he only goes thru my phone to check my minute usage (bulllll he goes thru my txts and contacts) and how he doesnt wanna live with a gf he wants one he sees 3 or 4 times a week (which is what ive asked if we could just do a hundred times instead of living together ) and that he doesnt even like me anymore but he doesnt kno anyone else to date yet and he doesnt like to be alone then i walk out so he knows i heard him and he starts chasing me apologizing for being drunk cocky and crying and blah. i havent talked to him since then that was like 2 days ago.


Bad relationship -- advice?
Oh honey my heart goes out to you, I was in the same situation. Its HARD work for a man to change and there's nothing you can do to fix his problems. Believe me when i tell you that the change has to come from him. He doesnt sound like he's ready to do that either. I wasted years of my life waiting on promises and hoping that he would change bc i really loved him. Looking back, Id've walked out a long time ago. You will miss him until someone else comes in your life that can show you what its like to not be disrespected, living in fear of the bottle, and made 2nd place to user friends. But its worth the walk, and you'll never meet that person until you leave this relationship and learn from it. If you and this jerk are meant to be, then he will work on himself for however long it takes to get straightened out and he will come back to you on his own. But you gotta get out. and stay out.Bad relationship -- advice?
well what i would do is try talking to him. tell him that you want him getting help and you want him to really try there, and if he doesnt then you dont want him. tell him if he really loves you then he or you is going to move out untill everything is settled . let him know before he trys to get help that if he doesnt get the help he needs , then your leaving him simple as that. if he doesnt get help then leave him , cuss girl what do you need a man for when you got a hand .