So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about three years long distance. We see each other every couple of months, and we talk on the phone every night. The first year and a half was pretty dang good, and we got along really well. However, the last year to year and a half, it's gotten to where whenever we see each other, he is really needy and needs me to take care of him. He just kinda like lays around and mopes about how he has a headache or he's tired or this or that, and it bothers me cuz we hardly get to see each other. I don't want the time to be spent with him complaining about every little thing. And also, one week he's really clingy wanting to talk on the phone all day every day, and the next week, he doesn't wanna talk at all and says he's busy with friends. It's getting to be really confusing and stressful, and I just wanna know if anyone has had the same or similar situation and what your advice is. Do you see us lasting? I want us to because at first it was really nice, but now not so much..Anyone with relationship advice?
wow...no offense but the way you described your boyfriend made him sound really gay. I dont see your relationship lasting unless he mans up.Anyone with relationship advice?
idk y...........but i think hes cheating on u...dis hapnd 2 me nd i the end i found out he ws cheating on me so ooo.........u shuld uhm find out if he likes some1 else//....
I've been in a situation like this before. you could last however I think maybe you should confront him about it. explain to him that you rarely get to see each other and when you do finally get to that you would really appreciate if he wouldn't mope around complaining. It might anger him at first but I think he'll understand where your coming from, and if he snaps back at you with something, try and calm him down and explain your reasoning as to why your having this conversation to him.
OR..
you could just give up and end it, but like you said at first it was really nice and now it isn't. Well explain to him why it doesn't seem as nice as it was.
I hope I helped!
Best of luck!
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Friday, April 30, 2010
I need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
I have been in a relationship with this boy, Jeff for a year now. We were each others first everything. First serious relationship, first love, we even lost our virginities to each other.
Everything was going SO perfectly for us. We were happy and just amazing together. But the one day,about 3 weeks ago he decided he only wanted to be friends.
At that point, there were only 2 weeks of the summer left and i was going to move into college after those 2 weeks.
For those 2 weeks I was so upset and heart broken
But we were still hanging out A LOT, we were having a ton of fun together but we were still doing things like cuddling and stuff like we were when we were dating.
But he was still ';single'; and i was still ';single';
so anyway, last week i moved to college, but its only 10 minutes away from our town. jeff came up to see me the first day i moved in.
and he has been up almost everyday for my first week there
but i also made a ton of friends and have beeen having such a good time there
so for the past week while i have been at college and he has been coming to see me, we have been doing so many more things
we have been cuddling, holding hands, sleeping together, kissing each other goodnight. he even calls me his girlfriend sometimes.
i have been so confused
i think he is doing this, becuase he sees how much fun i am having there, and that IF i wanted to get over him, i could
because for those 2 weeks before, i was just sitting at home crying over himm
but onve i got to college that changed
so i think he is seeing how he could lose me
we never talked about any of this stuff though
ui never asked him to define what we are doing and he never asked me
we just let it happen
it is obvious to me, and my friends, and people around me, that he still has feelings for me. because why else would he be doing this with me
HE was the one to make all the first moves, he was the one who held my hand first, held me in bed first, kissed me... etc
he did them for the first times since we broke up
it was all him, not me
so last night we were in bed and cuddling and he looked at me and said to me..
';i was thinking about things today, about how we cuddle and sleep together and hold hands and stuff. i know we do all of those things, but i still dont have feelings for you';
and i looked at him and said
';i dont believe you when you say that';
and he just turned away
i dont know whats going on
i dont want to tlak to him about it because i know he is going to try to tell me he has no feelings for me when i KNOW he does
but i dont want to lose him
i dont know
i am really confused
i dont know what i should do
everyoine is telling me to just stop and not see him anymore
but i dont want to do that
ii dont know should ii just give it some time?
i need advice. pleaseI need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
I'm sorry that you're being strung on by a guy who says he doesn't care anymore. I was in the exact same boat when my high school boyfriend and I started college. He was so jealous about all the fun I was having that he didn't want to let go, but he also wouldn't admit that he still wanted to be with me.
If he says he doesn't want to see any other girls, he still has feelings for you. but if he won't admit that, he is totally not worth it. It's hard to believe once you've shared so much with someone, but you CAN do better.
After I finally left my ex, I held out for a couple of years for someone that I knew would be worth it. I dated a lot but had no relationship until my current one, and I am so glad that I waited until I found him.
In my opinion, you should tell him that if he doesn't care, he shouldn't come see you. Try to make a lot of new friends. You will have so much more fun when you're not being led on, and college is such a great opportunity to start out fresh.I need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
Some advice, shorten your question.
if it makes you this upset then call it off. It's not worth it!
maybe he is seeing another girl..=D...just tell him bye bye..and find another man..
talk to him about it.
sounds like he has feelings for you
or he doesnt want to be with you,
but he wants you for himself.
understand that?
and thats not fiar for you to keep holding onto him if hes moving on,
and just keeping you from other guys.
maybe he just doesnt want to see you happy,
he seems like he wants you to be chasing him ,
while hes chasing other girls.
i dont know if that makes sense.
but tell him this
';If you dont have feelings for me anymore then its not fair for you to keep doing things with me. If you don't love me anymore then stop doing these things. I stil have feelings for you, but if you don't this isn't fair at all and I need to move on.';
not excatly that but put it in your own words.
hope everything turns out okay for you.
Wow... That was really long........ So props to me for reading it!!! So anyway, back to your issue. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him.. right? So tell him. Say, ';I still have feelings for you'; but tell him that you don't like the fact that he is cuddling with you, and sleeping with you, but then telling you that you guys are not dating.. Sorry, but if some guy is sleeping with you, then you are either having multiple one-night stands, or he is dating you. No other way around it.
I know you don't want to lose him, but you need to let him know that what he's doing is not ok. If he tells you that it is, its not. Let him know that. From what I hear, it sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Especially since you said something along the lines of how he can see you having fun. I'm sure you are more than able to get another boyfriend in college, and now that he sees that he's jealous.
He sounds like a piece of digestive waste to me.
Girl, what are you doing to yourself? Your boyfriend says that to you, and that's your response? I would think that if I said something like that to a woman I've been nailing, I would quickly get a foot to my butt, and get thrown out of her house, post haste. You say you don't want to dump him, but where is your relationship going to be in a few years? No offense, but it sounds like he's playing you for sex. That's all. You know you're going to meet someone who loves you truly, and deeply. Why let your boyfriend get it for free? Tell him to get lost.
aww.. honestly do not waste your time on him!
How confusing.
I think that he's using you in a way mabey trying to REPLACE
some one else with you and thats horrible. You should be the one to draw the line and say
if you don't have feelings for me or love me the way you use to then
why are you doing this to me? Tell him that friends don't kiss on the lips and cuddle in bed... ask him and be straigt. Just ask him, ''why do you kiss me if it doesn't mean anything or you so called don't have feelings for me?''
Dude he is confusing,proabably confused with himself, and he's playing mind games with you.
I think you should just be straight with him, and you shouldn't let him do any of those things with him (even if u want to) because, he was the one to say that you guys should be friends. So treat him like a friend and not a mate.
I have so much more advice but no time to type...
so good luck and I hope things work out between you guys =)
ok me reading this he still loves you because he is seeing you all the time and friends obviously dont do that. He is visiting you becasue he misses you, and you are right he dont wanna looose you again like he already did the first time. Next time you see him, tell him ';do you love me or not, and if you dont, dont see me anymore'; .. He is probably going to say no because he wants to move on with his life, and find someone else, or is just mad that you are in college and is afraid you are going to cheat on him, but again if he says no at that point leave him and move on. You have a whole life to live, and it seems like he is wasting your time right now. But if he says yes say with him. Start over a new leaf right now, if he is not right for you, there will be other guys in the world he would treat you more.
He still cares about you and enjoys being with you BUT since you are gone..even if its 10 minutes he wants 2 things to be accomplished with this ';break up'; I think he wants to be the one that does the controlling of the relationship so if you find someone else he is the one that broke up with you..and...if he does he wont be cheating on you since you are broken up....its basically called Keeping his options open.
He might still care about you but might be worried that you have been together so long and the only one hes been with, that hes missing something.
Everything was going SO perfectly for us. We were happy and just amazing together. But the one day,about 3 weeks ago he decided he only wanted to be friends.
At that point, there were only 2 weeks of the summer left and i was going to move into college after those 2 weeks.
For those 2 weeks I was so upset and heart broken
But we were still hanging out A LOT, we were having a ton of fun together but we were still doing things like cuddling and stuff like we were when we were dating.
But he was still ';single'; and i was still ';single';
so anyway, last week i moved to college, but its only 10 minutes away from our town. jeff came up to see me the first day i moved in.
and he has been up almost everyday for my first week there
but i also made a ton of friends and have beeen having such a good time there
so for the past week while i have been at college and he has been coming to see me, we have been doing so many more things
we have been cuddling, holding hands, sleeping together, kissing each other goodnight. he even calls me his girlfriend sometimes.
i have been so confused
i think he is doing this, becuase he sees how much fun i am having there, and that IF i wanted to get over him, i could
because for those 2 weeks before, i was just sitting at home crying over himm
but onve i got to college that changed
so i think he is seeing how he could lose me
we never talked about any of this stuff though
ui never asked him to define what we are doing and he never asked me
we just let it happen
it is obvious to me, and my friends, and people around me, that he still has feelings for me. because why else would he be doing this with me
HE was the one to make all the first moves, he was the one who held my hand first, held me in bed first, kissed me... etc
he did them for the first times since we broke up
it was all him, not me
so last night we were in bed and cuddling and he looked at me and said to me..
';i was thinking about things today, about how we cuddle and sleep together and hold hands and stuff. i know we do all of those things, but i still dont have feelings for you';
and i looked at him and said
';i dont believe you when you say that';
and he just turned away
i dont know whats going on
i dont want to tlak to him about it because i know he is going to try to tell me he has no feelings for me when i KNOW he does
but i dont want to lose him
i dont know
i am really confused
i dont know what i should do
everyoine is telling me to just stop and not see him anymore
but i dont want to do that
ii dont know should ii just give it some time?
i need advice. pleaseI need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
I'm sorry that you're being strung on by a guy who says he doesn't care anymore. I was in the exact same boat when my high school boyfriend and I started college. He was so jealous about all the fun I was having that he didn't want to let go, but he also wouldn't admit that he still wanted to be with me.
If he says he doesn't want to see any other girls, he still has feelings for you. but if he won't admit that, he is totally not worth it. It's hard to believe once you've shared so much with someone, but you CAN do better.
After I finally left my ex, I held out for a couple of years for someone that I knew would be worth it. I dated a lot but had no relationship until my current one, and I am so glad that I waited until I found him.
In my opinion, you should tell him that if he doesn't care, he shouldn't come see you. Try to make a lot of new friends. You will have so much more fun when you're not being led on, and college is such a great opportunity to start out fresh.I need relationship advice, badly. Please help me?
Some advice, shorten your question.
if it makes you this upset then call it off. It's not worth it!
maybe he is seeing another girl..=D...just tell him bye bye..and find another man..
talk to him about it.
sounds like he has feelings for you
or he doesnt want to be with you,
but he wants you for himself.
understand that?
and thats not fiar for you to keep holding onto him if hes moving on,
and just keeping you from other guys.
maybe he just doesnt want to see you happy,
he seems like he wants you to be chasing him ,
while hes chasing other girls.
i dont know if that makes sense.
but tell him this
';If you dont have feelings for me anymore then its not fair for you to keep doing things with me. If you don't love me anymore then stop doing these things. I stil have feelings for you, but if you don't this isn't fair at all and I need to move on.';
not excatly that but put it in your own words.
hope everything turns out okay for you.
Wow... That was really long........ So props to me for reading it!!! So anyway, back to your issue. Its obvious that you still have feelings for him.. right? So tell him. Say, ';I still have feelings for you'; but tell him that you don't like the fact that he is cuddling with you, and sleeping with you, but then telling you that you guys are not dating.. Sorry, but if some guy is sleeping with you, then you are either having multiple one-night stands, or he is dating you. No other way around it.
I know you don't want to lose him, but you need to let him know that what he's doing is not ok. If he tells you that it is, its not. Let him know that. From what I hear, it sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Especially since you said something along the lines of how he can see you having fun. I'm sure you are more than able to get another boyfriend in college, and now that he sees that he's jealous.
He sounds like a piece of digestive waste to me.
Girl, what are you doing to yourself? Your boyfriend says that to you, and that's your response? I would think that if I said something like that to a woman I've been nailing, I would quickly get a foot to my butt, and get thrown out of her house, post haste. You say you don't want to dump him, but where is your relationship going to be in a few years? No offense, but it sounds like he's playing you for sex. That's all. You know you're going to meet someone who loves you truly, and deeply. Why let your boyfriend get it for free? Tell him to get lost.
aww.. honestly do not waste your time on him!
How confusing.
I think that he's using you in a way mabey trying to REPLACE
some one else with you and thats horrible. You should be the one to draw the line and say
if you don't have feelings for me or love me the way you use to then
why are you doing this to me? Tell him that friends don't kiss on the lips and cuddle in bed... ask him and be straigt. Just ask him, ''why do you kiss me if it doesn't mean anything or you so called don't have feelings for me?''
Dude he is confusing,proabably confused with himself, and he's playing mind games with you.
I think you should just be straight with him, and you shouldn't let him do any of those things with him (even if u want to) because, he was the one to say that you guys should be friends. So treat him like a friend and not a mate.
I have so much more advice but no time to type...
so good luck and I hope things work out between you guys =)
ok me reading this he still loves you because he is seeing you all the time and friends obviously dont do that. He is visiting you becasue he misses you, and you are right he dont wanna looose you again like he already did the first time. Next time you see him, tell him ';do you love me or not, and if you dont, dont see me anymore'; .. He is probably going to say no because he wants to move on with his life, and find someone else, or is just mad that you are in college and is afraid you are going to cheat on him, but again if he says no at that point leave him and move on. You have a whole life to live, and it seems like he is wasting your time right now. But if he says yes say with him. Start over a new leaf right now, if he is not right for you, there will be other guys in the world he would treat you more.
He still cares about you and enjoys being with you BUT since you are gone..even if its 10 minutes he wants 2 things to be accomplished with this ';break up'; I think he wants to be the one that does the controlling of the relationship so if you find someone else he is the one that broke up with you..and...if he does he wont be cheating on you since you are broken up....its basically called Keeping his options open.
He might still care about you but might be worried that you have been together so long and the only one hes been with, that hes missing something.
I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
I'm lucky if my boyfriend calls me once a week now. When we are together it's really great. He's affectionate and loving but once I leave I won't hear from him for like two or three days (sometimes more). Is this just the way some guys are or is he cheating on me? We've been together for 7 months. I try not to call him because I want to see how long it will take for him to call me. After three days I let go and call him. Help please!I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
No, it doesn't necessary mean he is cheating on you. It could mean that relationships aren't the center of his world. Meaning, he won't call you as often. So, the question should be, do you want a boyfriend who doesn't call you often?I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
He may not necessarily be cheating, he could just be pre-occupied with other things but as painful as the realization is, if he was really that into you, he would make more time for you.
You deserve to be treated the way you want to be and the way you treat others. If he isn't fulfilling that for you, move on. You will find someone who will eventually. Until then, being with him is taking away from that much more time you could be happy with someone else.
Sadly he is not serious or not very interested. You need to be the same and very indifferent so you can see how much he is into you. If not then get away and find someone better.
u have to be extremely sure that ur bf actually has the time to call u....is he too preoccupied with work???if the answer is yes then maybe it is just his work....we sometimes expect men to keep calling us and take out even 5 minutes a day to call us but men r not like that.....they do not understand the concept of calling even if they have just 5 minutes.....as u say that things r great between the two of u so it is most unlikely that he is having an affair..... don't push him as he may think u r being too needy....let him have his space ...if it really bothers u that much then let him know that u would really appriciate it if he called more often but accept the situation if he has a genuine reason....all the best.........alpha ahava
No, it doesn't necessary mean he is cheating on you. It could mean that relationships aren't the center of his world. Meaning, he won't call you as often. So, the question should be, do you want a boyfriend who doesn't call you often?I need relationship advice. My boyfriend won't call me as much as I want him to. Is he cheating??
He may not necessarily be cheating, he could just be pre-occupied with other things but as painful as the realization is, if he was really that into you, he would make more time for you.
You deserve to be treated the way you want to be and the way you treat others. If he isn't fulfilling that for you, move on. You will find someone who will eventually. Until then, being with him is taking away from that much more time you could be happy with someone else.
Sadly he is not serious or not very interested. You need to be the same and very indifferent so you can see how much he is into you. If not then get away and find someone better.
u have to be extremely sure that ur bf actually has the time to call u....is he too preoccupied with work???if the answer is yes then maybe it is just his work....we sometimes expect men to keep calling us and take out even 5 minutes a day to call us but men r not like that.....they do not understand the concept of calling even if they have just 5 minutes.....as u say that things r great between the two of u so it is most unlikely that he is having an affair..... don't push him as he may think u r being too needy....let him have his space ...if it really bothers u that much then let him know that u would really appriciate it if he called more often but accept the situation if he has a genuine reason....all the best.........
I need relationship advice!?
I have a feeling that my boyfriend of 4 years is going to ask me to marry him soon. I don't want him to because though he is the love of my life and my best friend, I can't see myself being romantically happy with him. He used to be a big romancer back in the day but now that we live together, all we do when we spend time together is watch tv or go to a dinner and a movie. BORING!!! I'm only 21 and I know that I probably could find someone else that excites me, but I also don't want to break up with my guy because I do love him and I want to believe that he can change. Does anyone have any advice for me how I can talk him into wanting to change for me? I've tried talking to him and even threatened to leave if he didn't but no luck. I know he loves me but I feel he's just comfortable not having to prove anything to me anymore. Please help...my whole life is on the line...I need relationship advice!?
to be honest with you, most relationships are not going to be exciting forever. especially if you're wanting to eventually get married and be with someone for the rest of your life. you have to find ways to make it exciting if you want it to be. you can't leave it all up to him. i'm perfectly happy married at 21 with my husband and he's probably the most boring person that i know. but i still love him just as much as i did when i met him. if it's really about not wanting to get married, just tell him no. you don't need to rush into anything right now. but i really would try harder to get out there and make your relationship more exciting because you never know what you might have missed out on.I need relationship advice!?
he wants a life long commitment,
you don't,
you leave, you being selfish is not fair to him
life as you know is about to change
He shouldn't change for you, If he changes at all, it should be for him. You either accept him as he is or move on and stop wasting his time and yours. It's not fair for you to expect someone to change into what you want them to be...how would you feel if someone wanted you to change for them, so they'd dig you enough to marry you? That would mean, they weren't really into the person you actually are...
You can let him know that you love him but feel like you are too young to make a decision yet for the rest of your life. And wile you are at talking, you can tell him too that you would like to go out more, spend time with friends and develop interests toghether or on your own. Good Luck.
Relax,,,It is 4 years,,that's a long time,,so you have been with him since your teenage yrs. Imagine being with him for 10 more. You need to remind yourself the things that attracted you to him in the first place. The men he is. Many women here wished they had the problem you are describing. Men usually go out with the guys and wives usually get angry at the amound of time they spend outside the home. I see you both need to communicate better and to do something (maybe a mini vacation) to spark the romance right back into the realtionship...I wish you luck.
Before living together is romantic, then during usually not. Everyday life is different, it brings cooking, cleaning, bills and so go on. Your boyfriend looks OK. If you believe next man in your life will be different, you can be very disappointed. Again before will be romantic and later not. Try to be realistic, but it is really hard in your age. If you love him and he loves you there is usually no place for to be boring. Love comes and goes, so If you have different style of life, different expectation, different character and interests there is time to decide if you belongs together now and quickly, before kids will come. And only you can decide about to stay together with him, nobody else. Taking decision try to remember: this days is not easy to find just a good guy.
so why are you wasting his time ? what do you expect him to do a 3 ring circus for you every night? i love to stay home in bed and watch a movie and get some take out with my sweetheart. occasionally we go to a club with Friends .but you can't expect excitement 24 -7 its just not to realistic.
you are 21 so regardless i would tell you to wait a while to get married anyway but i think you don't have a realistic idea of it. and he shouldn't have to change for you. i know you said he was a big romancer back in the day but you cant expect romance all the time.
first, you are far too young to be in a relationship, let alone a marriage, so be open about that, and honest with yourself too. Take your time and identify what you want in a relationship, as well as what you have to offer, which can take a while. Then find ways to meet those ideals. That would be far better than faking everything, especially in a marriage.
Good luck!
Ahhh...the beauty of a relationship that knows itself. Quite different from the honey moon period isn't it?
Best thing to do figure out what you want from him, by that I mean what are your needs and wants in the relationship. Make a list and tell him about it, also have him make a list of his wants and needs. Then start filling those wants and needs, one night a week or two or whatever your budget will allow you.
Another good idea is get some relationship counselling to help open your communication.
p.s. quit threatening to leave, that's just not nice.
Well guess what the next relationship may hold the same all fun and games then reality. Maybe you can set the stage for romance, why not!!. The Next relationship will have the same hot start and then simmer down, I know a lot of couples who share the same story. It may be that you are not ready for marriage yet. I was engaged for 8 years before getting married and lived together before the engagement. Same story hot to start then simmered down. Life is what you make out of it I wish my wife would introduce some romance into our marriage, but marriage is for better or for worse in sickness and in health for richer or poorer till death do us part. Both of you have to put more into a relationship than you take from it that way things will work out. Good luck and best wishes!!!
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to be honest with you, most relationships are not going to be exciting forever. especially if you're wanting to eventually get married and be with someone for the rest of your life. you have to find ways to make it exciting if you want it to be. you can't leave it all up to him. i'm perfectly happy married at 21 with my husband and he's probably the most boring person that i know. but i still love him just as much as i did when i met him. if it's really about not wanting to get married, just tell him no. you don't need to rush into anything right now. but i really would try harder to get out there and make your relationship more exciting because you never know what you might have missed out on.I need relationship advice!?
he wants a life long commitment,
you don't,
you leave, you being selfish is not fair to him
life as you know is about to change
He shouldn't change for you, If he changes at all, it should be for him. You either accept him as he is or move on and stop wasting his time and yours. It's not fair for you to expect someone to change into what you want them to be...how would you feel if someone wanted you to change for them, so they'd dig you enough to marry you? That would mean, they weren't really into the person you actually are...
You can let him know that you love him but feel like you are too young to make a decision yet for the rest of your life. And wile you are at talking, you can tell him too that you would like to go out more, spend time with friends and develop interests toghether or on your own. Good Luck.
Relax,,,It is 4 years,,that's a long time,,so you have been with him since your teenage yrs. Imagine being with him for 10 more. You need to remind yourself the things that attracted you to him in the first place. The men he is. Many women here wished they had the problem you are describing. Men usually go out with the guys and wives usually get angry at the amound of time they spend outside the home. I see you both need to communicate better and to do something (maybe a mini vacation) to spark the romance right back into the realtionship...I wish you luck.
Before living together is romantic, then during usually not. Everyday life is different, it brings cooking, cleaning, bills and so go on. Your boyfriend looks OK. If you believe next man in your life will be different, you can be very disappointed. Again before will be romantic and later not. Try to be realistic, but it is really hard in your age. If you love him and he loves you there is usually no place for to be boring. Love comes and goes, so If you have different style of life, different expectation, different character and interests there is time to decide if you belongs together now and quickly, before kids will come. And only you can decide about to stay together with him, nobody else. Taking decision try to remember: this days is not easy to find just a good guy.
so why are you wasting his time ? what do you expect him to do a 3 ring circus for you every night? i love to stay home in bed and watch a movie and get some take out with my sweetheart. occasionally we go to a club with Friends .but you can't expect excitement 24 -7 its just not to realistic.
you are 21 so regardless i would tell you to wait a while to get married anyway but i think you don't have a realistic idea of it. and he shouldn't have to change for you. i know you said he was a big romancer back in the day but you cant expect romance all the time.
first, you are far too young to be in a relationship, let alone a marriage, so be open about that, and honest with yourself too. Take your time and identify what you want in a relationship, as well as what you have to offer, which can take a while. Then find ways to meet those ideals. That would be far better than faking everything, especially in a marriage.
Good luck!
Ahhh...the beauty of a relationship that knows itself. Quite different from the honey moon period isn't it?
Best thing to do figure out what you want from him, by that I mean what are your needs and wants in the relationship. Make a list and tell him about it, also have him make a list of his wants and needs. Then start filling those wants and needs, one night a week or two or whatever your budget will allow you.
Another good idea is get some relationship counselling to help open your communication.
p.s. quit threatening to leave, that's just not nice.
Well guess what the next relationship may hold the same all fun and games then reality. Maybe you can set the stage for romance, why not!!. The Next relationship will have the same hot start and then simmer down, I know a lot of couples who share the same story. It may be that you are not ready for marriage yet. I was engaged for 8 years before getting married and lived together before the engagement. Same story hot to start then simmered down. Life is what you make out of it I wish my wife would introduce some romance into our marriage, but marriage is for better or for worse in sickness and in health for richer or poorer till death do us part. Both of you have to put more into a relationship than you take from it that way things will work out. Good luck and best wishes!!!
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A little relationship advice please?
So me and this girl dated and then we stopped. I could tell something was wrong so I asked her. She had come out of a 5 year relationship and said she needed to be single. Since then she hasn't talked to me very much and even though we aren't dating I wanted to be her friend. I kind of felt neglected and let it fizzle. Now I have forced myself to overcome feelings for her even though they were so strong at one point. I can tell she is making sure I hang around. I have a feeling that once she gets over her ex boyfriend shes going to come back to me. I'm not sure if I should welcome her back or not because she really has hurt me by neglecting me altogether. Would you take someone back in this situation? Am I being to critical on her for coming out of long relationship?A little relationship advice please?
It's a very big risk to wait for her. Sadly, some women never do really get over an ex. There are certain people who you love so deeply, and when they hurt you, you are scarred for life. Life isn't a fairytale, and this is the reality of it. Why would you want someone who might still have feelings for another man? Those feelings should be for you, all of them. You can be with someone who has her whole heart available to you, and can love you unconditionally. You are better off that way.A little relationship advice please?
she was on the rebound...
maybe its best step back for now, and see what she does. be sure the signs are clear before crossing the road.
It's a very big risk to wait for her. Sadly, some women never do really get over an ex. There are certain people who you love so deeply, and when they hurt you, you are scarred for life. Life isn't a fairytale, and this is the reality of it. Why would you want someone who might still have feelings for another man? Those feelings should be for you, all of them. You can be with someone who has her whole heart available to you, and can love you unconditionally. You are better off that way.A little relationship advice please?
she was on the rebound...
maybe its best step back for now, and see what she does. be sure the signs are clear before crossing the road.
Help please ... relationship advice???
check it out.... for some reason i cant find a good relationship with any girl that i date or am interested in.... my previous girlfriends all say that im the perfect guy... i cant blame them cuz u know i am portuguese .... seriously tho my relationships all end badly ... i only seem to attract shallow women that are gorgeous...for once i want a gorgeous girl that i can connect to and have a descent relationship with.....
DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE OR SUGGESTIONS????Help please ... relationship advice???
Try dating a woman that is not gorgeous, and has a personality. Im not saying all gorgeous women dont have one, but most don't (from my experience). Most good looking women seem to be looking for a good time, and nothing else....not a real relationship. Hope I don't offend.Help please ... relationship advice???
Maybe you shouldn't go after a gorgeous girl. There are pretty girls out there who would appreciate a guy that is nice. Pretty girls are somewhat better because they aren't that shallow and care for a guy more. Its not all about them. Don't always base everything on looks, because your relationship problems will probably continue.
just be patient
it's the best thing you can do
the right girl will find you
or who knows maybe she's there and you don't even know it!
good luck :)
DO YOU HAVE ANY ADVICE OR SUGGESTIONS????Help please ... relationship advice???
Try dating a woman that is not gorgeous, and has a personality. Im not saying all gorgeous women dont have one, but most don't (from my experience). Most good looking women seem to be looking for a good time, and nothing else....not a real relationship. Hope I don't offend.Help please ... relationship advice???
Maybe you shouldn't go after a gorgeous girl. There are pretty girls out there who would appreciate a guy that is nice. Pretty girls are somewhat better because they aren't that shallow and care for a guy more. Its not all about them. Don't always base everything on looks, because your relationship problems will probably continue.
just be patient
it's the best thing you can do
the right girl will find you
or who knows maybe she's there and you don't even know it!
good luck :)
I need relationship advice!?
ive been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 3years now and were both students so don't live together as we cant afford it, but recently we've been seeing less of each other because work and college is quite demanding, we have both noticed how distant we hav become and even our physical relationship is beginning to suffer which makes us feel even more distant. we have always seen plenty of each other before now so this is new to us, we both really care and love each other and want to fix this before it gets worse, any ideas on how we can make the time we do spend together more fun and interesting? we don't drive and cant afford to go out the hole time and we live in our parents houses, i no its a difficult one!! but we need help if we want to save our relationship, which we do!!I need relationship advice!?
Aww this sounds EXACTLY like me and my boyfriend when we were at uni.
Its a brilliant start that you both want to be together...if thats the case you WILL get through this. You'l look back and think..wow that was a tough few months, but we made it. If you made it through 3 yrs bein in a relationship, with all the temptation at uni...you'l survive :)
What me and my bf did to spend more time together...
Ok this may sound sad but we actually studied together. Go to your seperate classes as normal, then why dont u meet up in the eveving...say he comes to yours and you cook for him.. or he has dinner with ur family or whatever. Then go upto the room, study for say 2or 3 hrs, whatever it takes and relax together for an hour..watch tv, whatever. I remember doin that with my bf, and just him bein there helped...tryin to stay awake before final yr exams together actually helped us bond even more!
If this is too time consuming, you could simply meet up for lunch between classes. I dont know how far you live from eachother so this could be difficult?
Another option is to have one night, just ONE a week where its all about you two. Say a sunday or monday when uni work isnt really a priority. Go for a meal, or a walk, or the cinema, or just do what you used to do!
There are loads of things really, but as i say, im not sure how far you live from eachother or at what stage of uni you are at. Just hang in there, uni will pass you by so quick and all the pain will have been worth it! :)
I need relationship advice!?
Just do simple things together if you would really like to build up on the relationship.
before yous start any physical contact have a meal together, play an intelectual game of scrabble together connect on an intelectual level take interest in each others studies.
listen to each other when yous talk.
Really if you care about each other as much as you say it will work out. In the mean time go out with your other friends too, don't limit yourself.
You sound as though you both want to make it work, that is a good start. Try spending time together such as weekends, have one weekend when you plan what to do then next is his turn. Yes you could go out and spend loads of money, but isn't a viable option. How about going to seaside, have fun fly a kite, give each other 20p to put in the penny machines, have a picnic on beach. Remember it has nothing to do with what you do it is all about who you do it with, its your time together to rekindle the feelings. Try and think of things you use to enjoy doing as a couple.
Hope am of help, good luck.
Aww this sounds EXACTLY like me and my boyfriend when we were at uni.
Its a brilliant start that you both want to be together...if thats the case you WILL get through this. You'l look back and think..wow that was a tough few months, but we made it. If you made it through 3 yrs bein in a relationship, with all the temptation at uni...you'l survive :)
What me and my bf did to spend more time together...
Ok this may sound sad but we actually studied together. Go to your seperate classes as normal, then why dont u meet up in the eveving...say he comes to yours and you cook for him.. or he has dinner with ur family or whatever. Then go upto the room, study for say 2or 3 hrs, whatever it takes and relax together for an hour..watch tv, whatever. I remember doin that with my bf, and just him bein there helped...tryin to stay awake before final yr exams together actually helped us bond even more!
If this is too time consuming, you could simply meet up for lunch between classes. I dont know how far you live from eachother so this could be difficult?
Another option is to have one night, just ONE a week where its all about you two. Say a sunday or monday when uni work isnt really a priority. Go for a meal, or a walk, or the cinema, or just do what you used to do!
There are loads of things really, but as i say, im not sure how far you live from eachother or at what stage of uni you are at. Just hang in there, uni will pass you by so quick and all the pain will have been worth it! :)
I need relationship advice!?
Just do simple things together if you would really like to build up on the relationship.
before yous start any physical contact have a meal together, play an intelectual game of scrabble together connect on an intelectual level take interest in each others studies.
listen to each other when yous talk.
Really if you care about each other as much as you say it will work out. In the mean time go out with your other friends too, don't limit yourself.
You sound as though you both want to make it work, that is a good start. Try spending time together such as weekends, have one weekend when you plan what to do then next is his turn. Yes you could go out and spend loads of money, but isn't a viable option. How about going to seaside, have fun fly a kite, give each other 20p to put in the penny machines, have a picnic on beach. Remember it has nothing to do with what you do it is all about who you do it with, its your time together to rekindle the feelings. Try and think of things you use to enjoy doing as a couple.
Hope am of help, good luck.
I need relationship advice.?
Okay so there's this guy who really liked me around August or September. He liked me until around January. I kind of liked him. But the problem was I was in a relationship I wasn't going to break uo with my boyfriend for him. Then after me and my boyfriend and I broke up, he still liked me. When he asked me out, I said no because I thought maybe there waas hope between me and my boyfriend. So me and him became best friends. To make a long story short, I really really like him (the guy that used to like me) but he doesn't like me. And now I really want him too like me back. I'm mad at myself fr not gong out with him. What should I do?I need relationship advice.?
forget your releshionship you had and go out with the second guy :-P
forget your releshionship you had and go out with the second guy :-P
I Need Relationship Advice. Why Am I Thinking About Females When I Love This Guy And I'm So Happy?
I'm in a very happy, and fulfilling relationship with an amazing man. Our sex life is also great, and satisfying. We have been together for seven months now and we are engaged. I have a problem though. I am bisexual and I greatly prefer females. About a week ago, we weren't having a lot of sex, and I was very horny and ended up thinking about having sex with a female. I didn't imagine anyone in particular though. I blew this off, because I thought it was because I was so horny.
We've had sex since then, and I'm satisfied, but today when I was on a friends myspace I thought about doing things with her. So, I know this is more then just a fantasy I had when I was horny.
What the hell is going on? I love my fiancee, and I'm happy. I want it to be only me and him, I don't want to go out and have sex with my ex-girlfriend, but I do regret never having sex with her.
I feel really bad for imaging this, and I'm hoping it's my raging hormones since I'm only 18. The first time I imagined this I told my fiancee and he didn't get upset and was understanding, I feel as though this is unfair to him.
Can anyone give me any advice of what the hell to do?
Thank you, and very sorry this was so long.I Need Relationship Advice. Why Am I Thinking About Females When I Love This Guy And I'm So Happy?
because your either eager for sex or you are a bisexual.I Need Relationship Advice. Why Am I Thinking About Females When I Love This Guy And I'm So Happy?
okay now.... if you really cant break up with you BOY, than just get over it. hopefully its just a phase. have MORE sex with him and get happier, you will be happier and hopefully pregnat!!! good luck
first of all, a 18 year old should not be getting married.
OK you need to view this from a perspective of simple right and wrong. If you want to do the right thing, you can't argue semantics. There is no justification to cheating. I don't care how h*rny you are, or how badly you ';want some';. If you want more sex, tell HIM THIS, and make him do you 1,2, 3 times a day if need be! But don't get with a female, and try your best to stop thinking about it.
All people get urges, but try to ignore wrongful urges. The more you entertain the thought, the more likely you are to do the wrong thing you are thinking of!
Call it the bad guy in your conscience, call it human nature, call it sin, call it the devil speaking in your ear, i dont care. Whatever it is, it's something bad in our human nature that speaks to us and tries to convince us to do bad sh*t like that. And whatever the f*ck it is, the only option we have- if we want to stay moral and just and right and good- is to SAY NO!
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Remember: Relationships are about more than sex. You don't need to have sex every day, or else you go and cheat. Guess what babe? I'm 17, and I'm still in high school, I'm not engaged! I'm also a guy, and dating this awesome girl. Guess what? We have sex hmm maybe once a week if we're lucky. She works and she's busy as hell. She's not the most ';sexually active'; person. Well guess what? I could have sex as much as I want with slightly less attractive, slightly more sl*tty girls! But I DON'T! You know why? Because I know that would be wrong! If I ever get an urge so bad that I cant control it, I'll just masturbate. And I think of her while I do it.
so if worse comes to worst, just masturbate and think of your man. good luck and good day! =) best answer plzalpha ahava
We've had sex since then, and I'm satisfied, but today when I was on a friends myspace I thought about doing things with her. So, I know this is more then just a fantasy I had when I was horny.
What the hell is going on? I love my fiancee, and I'm happy. I want it to be only me and him, I don't want to go out and have sex with my ex-girlfriend, but I do regret never having sex with her.
I feel really bad for imaging this, and I'm hoping it's my raging hormones since I'm only 18. The first time I imagined this I told my fiancee and he didn't get upset and was understanding, I feel as though this is unfair to him.
Can anyone give me any advice of what the hell to do?
Thank you, and very sorry this was so long.I Need Relationship Advice. Why Am I Thinking About Females When I Love This Guy And I'm So Happy?
because your either eager for sex or you are a bisexual.I Need Relationship Advice. Why Am I Thinking About Females When I Love This Guy And I'm So Happy?
okay now.... if you really cant break up with you BOY, than just get over it. hopefully its just a phase. have MORE sex with him and get happier, you will be happier and hopefully pregnat!!! good luck
first of all, a 18 year old should not be getting married.
OK you need to view this from a perspective of simple right and wrong. If you want to do the right thing, you can't argue semantics. There is no justification to cheating. I don't care how h*rny you are, or how badly you ';want some';. If you want more sex, tell HIM THIS, and make him do you 1,2, 3 times a day if need be! But don't get with a female, and try your best to stop thinking about it.
All people get urges, but try to ignore wrongful urges. The more you entertain the thought, the more likely you are to do the wrong thing you are thinking of!
Call it the bad guy in your conscience, call it human nature, call it sin, call it the devil speaking in your ear, i dont care. Whatever it is, it's something bad in our human nature that speaks to us and tries to convince us to do bad sh*t like that. And whatever the f*ck it is, the only option we have- if we want to stay moral and just and right and good- is to SAY NO!
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Remember: Relationships are about more than sex. You don't need to have sex every day, or else you go and cheat. Guess what babe? I'm 17, and I'm still in high school, I'm not engaged! I'm also a guy, and dating this awesome girl. Guess what? We have sex hmm maybe once a week if we're lucky. She works and she's busy as hell. She's not the most ';sexually active'; person. Well guess what? I could have sex as much as I want with slightly less attractive, slightly more sl*tty girls! But I DON'T! You know why? Because I know that would be wrong! If I ever get an urge so bad that I cant control it, I'll just masturbate. And I think of her while I do it.
so if worse comes to worst, just masturbate and think of your man. good luck and good day! =) best answer plz
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!?
i am over worked by the relationship i'm in right now. i want to end it and just continue living my life the normal way, but i could never do it bc i know that i'm going to miss him. i dont know anyone who has been in a long distance relationship, so if you have, please tell me how you made it work. thank you so much!LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!?
i have exactly the same problem.sometimes even i just feel like walking away from my relationship but it so difficult and i never do it.Making it work can be extremely difficult.We usually do chatting,voice chatting,sms and call and speak for hours,but still i feel very empty most of the time.If you really love him and you know for sure that he loves you,keep it going but if you think your really unhappy and its really hard to handle better you go for a break up.i really don't know how to advise you to make it work,but actually it depends on both of you.i think you both should have a long chat together in which you should be completely truthful to him and make him know your sacrifices and your feelings to maintain the relationship,if he understands well and good,if he does'nt then it all depends on how much you love each other..best of luck!!!LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!?
I've been in a couple of long distance relationships and sorry to say that they never worked out for me. To be honest, long distance relationships suck and making it work would require a lot of patience. I know I wouldn't go back to a long distance relationship again after what I've been through.
If you don't want to be in this relationship, then don't. Of course your gonna miss him for a while but you will get over it. I'm glad that I got out of the last one and moved on.
If you really want this to work out, discuss your future plans with him. Do you two want to move to the same city someday? Maybe one of you should seriously think about it.
Whatever you decide I wish you all the best.
I've been in a long distant relationship for the past 8 months on the 15th. It has been awsome the entire time we've been togeather. We originally met at a local event that lasted about a week. Afterwards we stayed in a long distance relationship. He comes to visit ever 3 or 4 weeks, and when i see him, its just an amazing experience. In a few months he'll be moving into my state and things will be much easier.. i can hardly wait.
The thing with a long distance relationship is that It can't just be photos of each other. People like to interact w/ others and to make a long distance realtionship work, the people in the realtionship should interact by either meeting in person, or over web cam..something where u can see the other persons movements.
In your case, do u know if your going to meet him? If so, try to set a date of meeting so u can have something to look forward to. If you know u won't see him, then perhaps its better to move on. Find a guy that u can share ur life in real life with. As for the guy, stay friends with him. Maybe there will be a chance in life that makes him move closer to u. IF that happens and hes ur friend, then u can try to start dating him again. TIll then meet the guys around u
BEst of Luck
Well, I just broke up with my boyfriend and we were in a long distance relationship.
Some can work, others don't.
If you want to make it work, just keep in touch and it could help.
But in the end, ask yourself if he is what you want in the long run.
That's what I did and I got my answer.
Good luck with this. Seriously.
im into a relationship the same with you and i want to end up as soon as possible but i cant coz i do love him and i would miss him so much if i will end up our relationship.. wat im telling u is dat if you two still love each other then y shud u end up your relationship? jaz keep on praying that your relationship lasts and most of all trust one another..
Communication is key in making a long distance relationship work. Also, you both need to have ample means in order to visit each other. My ex and I used to send cards once a month and care packages. Also texting, and picture mail helped a lot. Good luck. It's hard, but well worth it.
ITS LONG DISTANCE SO YOU NEVER SEE HIM AND MISS HIM ANYWAY
UNLESS YOU GUYS PLAN TO MOVE CLOSER LEAVE IT ALONE..LIFE IS TO SHORT
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i did long distance for about six months. she was in iowa. i was in cali. we loved each other and we never wanted to seperate... but we knew we had to. stoping contact was real hard.
i have exactly the same problem.sometimes even i just feel like walking away from my relationship but it so difficult and i never do it.Making it work can be extremely difficult.We usually do chatting,voice chatting,sms and call and speak for hours,but still i feel very empty most of the time.If you really love him and you know for sure that he loves you,keep it going but if you think your really unhappy and its really hard to handle better you go for a break up.i really don't know how to advise you to make it work,but actually it depends on both of you.i think you both should have a long chat together in which you should be completely truthful to him and make him know your sacrifices and your feelings to maintain the relationship,if he understands well and good,if he does'nt then it all depends on how much you love each other..best of luck!!!LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!?
I've been in a couple of long distance relationships and sorry to say that they never worked out for me. To be honest, long distance relationships suck and making it work would require a lot of patience. I know I wouldn't go back to a long distance relationship again after what I've been through.
If you don't want to be in this relationship, then don't. Of course your gonna miss him for a while but you will get over it. I'm glad that I got out of the last one and moved on.
If you really want this to work out, discuss your future plans with him. Do you two want to move to the same city someday? Maybe one of you should seriously think about it.
Whatever you decide I wish you all the best.
I've been in a long distant relationship for the past 8 months on the 15th. It has been awsome the entire time we've been togeather. We originally met at a local event that lasted about a week. Afterwards we stayed in a long distance relationship. He comes to visit ever 3 or 4 weeks, and when i see him, its just an amazing experience. In a few months he'll be moving into my state and things will be much easier.. i can hardly wait.
The thing with a long distance relationship is that It can't just be photos of each other. People like to interact w/ others and to make a long distance realtionship work, the people in the realtionship should interact by either meeting in person, or over web cam..something where u can see the other persons movements.
In your case, do u know if your going to meet him? If so, try to set a date of meeting so u can have something to look forward to. If you know u won't see him, then perhaps its better to move on. Find a guy that u can share ur life in real life with. As for the guy, stay friends with him. Maybe there will be a chance in life that makes him move closer to u. IF that happens and hes ur friend, then u can try to start dating him again. TIll then meet the guys around u
BEst of Luck
Well, I just broke up with my boyfriend and we were in a long distance relationship.
Some can work, others don't.
If you want to make it work, just keep in touch and it could help.
But in the end, ask yourself if he is what you want in the long run.
That's what I did and I got my answer.
Good luck with this. Seriously.
im into a relationship the same with you and i want to end up as soon as possible but i cant coz i do love him and i would miss him so much if i will end up our relationship.. wat im telling u is dat if you two still love each other then y shud u end up your relationship? jaz keep on praying that your relationship lasts and most of all trust one another..
Communication is key in making a long distance relationship work. Also, you both need to have ample means in order to visit each other. My ex and I used to send cards once a month and care packages. Also texting, and picture mail helped a lot. Good luck. It's hard, but well worth it.
ITS LONG DISTANCE SO YOU NEVER SEE HIM AND MISS HIM ANYWAY
UNLESS YOU GUYS PLAN TO MOVE CLOSER LEAVE IT ALONE..LIFE IS TO SHORT
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i did long distance for about six months. she was in iowa. i was in cali. we loved each other and we never wanted to seperate... but we knew we had to. stoping contact was real hard.
Ladies helpp. relationship advice needed. I like this girl but....?
OK i am a senior and the girl i am interested in is a junior. We have never talked. recently she approached my friends in a class they have together and told them she thought I was cute, she must have known that they would relay this info to me. Well everyone found out and made a big deal about it, so I didnt talk to her about it. Now seniors have graduated, so I wont bump into her anymore. Was there a reason that she told my friends this, I cant help but think she wants me to initiate the conversation. Also, If i were to use AIM (i have her screenname) how would the conversation go, i wouldnt wnat it to get awkward. Thanks for the help.Ladies helpp. relationship advice needed. I like this girl but....?
Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you are confused as to wether she likes you or not. If you are planning to go to a far away college though, then don't hurt her, because not all the time to long distance relationships work. But if she likes you a lot and you like her a lot, I am sure that you will figure something out that will work, and if it doesn't then mabye it wasn't ment to be.Ladies helpp. relationship advice needed. I like this girl but....?
I say go for it, contact her. It seems like she's interested and you should make the first move. What's the worst that could happen anyway, you've already graduated. Um, the conversation part is really up to you. You might want to have some topics in mind before you talk to her in case there's a lull in the conversation.
You sound nice, she should be interested in you. I bet anything you say would do.....
you could try ';hi'; for a start
And if necessary tell her you heard what she said to ur friends the other day(like u never knew)
Start the conversation and see how it goes.
There' no harm in trying
ya um i think she liked you an heck ya talk to her on aim then yall can get together and talk about it and maybe she will give you her phone #.
just im her and start a convo about what happened or ask for her number so you can talk to hr.
she does want you to initiate conversation. and yess talk to her on aim, its AIM it wont be awkward. haha thats the point
just ask her to go on a date with you and see what she says, and then ask her if she like you
Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you are confused as to wether she likes you or not. If you are planning to go to a far away college though, then don't hurt her, because not all the time to long distance relationships work. But if she likes you a lot and you like her a lot, I am sure that you will figure something out that will work, and if it doesn't then mabye it wasn't ment to be.Ladies helpp. relationship advice needed. I like this girl but....?
I say go for it, contact her. It seems like she's interested and you should make the first move. What's the worst that could happen anyway, you've already graduated. Um, the conversation part is really up to you. You might want to have some topics in mind before you talk to her in case there's a lull in the conversation.
You sound nice, she should be interested in you. I bet anything you say would do.....
you could try ';hi'; for a start
And if necessary tell her you heard what she said to ur friends the other day(like u never knew)
Start the conversation and see how it goes.
There' no harm in trying
ya um i think she liked you an heck ya talk to her on aim then yall can get together and talk about it and maybe she will give you her phone #.
just im her and start a convo about what happened or ask for her number so you can talk to hr.
she does want you to initiate conversation. and yess talk to her on aim, its AIM it wont be awkward. haha thats the point
just ask her to go on a date with you and see what she says, and then ask her if she like you
I need relationship advice?
Here's the deal, me and my girlfriend have been together for AWHILE. Her ex boyfriends basically always been involved. Me and her lived together for quiet some time, then she decided to leave me for him. She got engaged between that time and also pregnant. It took her 8 months to finally come back to me. I had already found somebody else because I was simply tired of waiting around. Now she blames me till this day that I didn't up and leave the person I was with ( if I really loved her ). In the end I did end up lieing to her, the person I met left me, yet I told her i left them and then ran right back to my ex who had left me. Till this day she thinks I only ran to her because somebody else had left me which isn't the case, but am I wrong for doing what I did?
Email me give me a answer.
Chiefsplayer32@tmail.com
Or answer here.I need relationship advice?
you state...... In the end I did end up lieing to her, the person I met left me, yet I told her i left them and then ran right back to my ex who had left me. Till this day she thinks I only ran to her because somebody else had left me which isn't the case,
if you lied to her by telling her that you left someone.... when that person actually left you..... and when someone thinks that you came back because someone left you......... THEY ARE NOT WRONG IN THEIR THINKING..... THEY ARE CORRECT.
I need relationship advice?
I don't know who is wrong in this scenario
Btw i think you should have asked this in the gay and lesbo section
Email me give me a answer.
Chiefsplayer32@tmail.com
Or answer here.I need relationship advice?
you state...... In the end I did end up lieing to her, the person I met left me, yet I told her i left them and then ran right back to my ex who had left me. Till this day she thinks I only ran to her because somebody else had left me which isn't the case,
if you lied to her by telling her that you left someone.... when that person actually left you..... and when someone thinks that you came back because someone left you......... THEY ARE NOT WRONG IN THEIR THINKING..... THEY ARE CORRECT.
I need relationship advice?
I don't know who is wrong in this scenario
Btw i think you should have asked this in the gay and lesbo section
Simple, cliched relationship advice?
It's so typical girl of me, but I had to ask.
I'll keep it short and sweet.
There's a guy (no kidding). We're together. He's older than me, and although i've had a boyfriend, ive never kissed anyone. He has, and he wants to kiss me, but im so lost it isnt funny.
MY QUESTION;; any pointers on what to do about the whole kissing scenario? tips to make it seem like i kinda know what im doing? or perhaps, a way to practice without him there.
Please dont say it'll come naturally. It doesn't.
thankyou!
-x-Simple, cliched relationship advice?
it really does come naturally. and if you've never done it how do you know otherwise?!
It really annoyed me when thats all everyone said to me as well.
But it really does. theres not really much way to practice or any special technique, it just happens! its not rocket science, so its not too hard to get wrong!
Just don't worry. and the best way to make it look like you know what youre doing is to relax!! if you're really tense it'll only ruin the moment. So just do it, you wouldn't want to spoil the moment by thinking in your head 'am i doing it right?' and being scared would you?!Simple, cliched relationship advice?
Hey, first of all, Congrats on meeting someone you like!
Unfortunately, there's no productive way to practice kissing a person - anyone who says otherwise is probably a weirdo. I don't want to use a ';canned'; saying here, but it DOES come naturally. The only advice I can give you is to just push your lips close to his, and let it happen. Don't ';Try'; anything you've seen, and don't think about it. It's really nothing to analyze, or ponder about. Just don't be nervous. The way lips touch feels natural - it'll be easier than you think, I promise. Good luck!
How do you know it doesn't come naturally? You've never experienced it before!
The reason it seems like such an intimidating thing to do is because of that. And if you don't let it happen naturally it could get awkward.
Most importantly, BE CONFIDENT. Boldness is always a turn-on!
Use your hands to make it more passionate - Run your fingers through the hair on the back of his head; if it's just a peck, hold him by his sides.
Practice on your hand if it helps :D
Good luck!!
Much love
Here's an idea... Watch the movie Hatari with John Wayne. LOL Yeah, I know. But there is a great scene where this hot Italian chick is like, ';How you like to kiss?'; Then she gets shown up close and personal exactly how he likes to kiss.
Seriously, impersonation is the most sincere form of flattery. In other words, when he gets around to laying one on you, mimic what he's doing.
wow! i have totally had this exact problem. If you two are together then it really shouldn't matter how inexperienced you are. he likes you for you and don't worry about making a fool of yourself. honestly, for me it didn't come naturally. i'm still not that great of a kisser. they didn't care though. they just liked being close to me because they liked me. i got better with practice. just let him know up front that your nervous and haven't kissed anyone before. tell him flirtatiously that you're willing to let him teach you though (:
Take your time and relax. Let him know that your nervous, and if he isn't a jerk, he'll understand. Kissing him shouldn't be to hard, if there is chemistry then it should come naturally, but if you can't get a mood set for kissing, try doing it after a date, or during a romantic movie.
well first, just relax. i like to wrap my hands around a guy's neck. i feel like i have more control that way, maybe that would be good for you. also, tilt your head slightly so that your nose does not clash with his. and lastly, dont open your mouth too wide or you'll hit teeth. and if youre not sure what to do with your tongue, follow his or spell out your name or something. haha
good luck and have fun;)
you can't practice without an actual human, really. since he's kissed before, it would be advisable if you just let him take over. you don't have to do anything. the answers will come to you once it starts. :p
Like in dancing, let him lead. Lol.
well it kinda does come naturally.. jus don't stress can't really practice lol
maybe on your hand? just follow what he does
just dont completly eat his face with ur mouth or shove ur tounge in so much it'll choke him and u'll b fine
I'll keep it short and sweet.
There's a guy (no kidding). We're together. He's older than me, and although i've had a boyfriend, ive never kissed anyone. He has, and he wants to kiss me, but im so lost it isnt funny.
MY QUESTION;; any pointers on what to do about the whole kissing scenario? tips to make it seem like i kinda know what im doing? or perhaps, a way to practice without him there.
Please dont say it'll come naturally. It doesn't.
thankyou!
-x-Simple, cliched relationship advice?
it really does come naturally. and if you've never done it how do you know otherwise?!
It really annoyed me when thats all everyone said to me as well.
But it really does. theres not really much way to practice or any special technique, it just happens! its not rocket science, so its not too hard to get wrong!
Just don't worry. and the best way to make it look like you know what youre doing is to relax!! if you're really tense it'll only ruin the moment. So just do it, you wouldn't want to spoil the moment by thinking in your head 'am i doing it right?' and being scared would you?!Simple, cliched relationship advice?
Hey, first of all, Congrats on meeting someone you like!
Unfortunately, there's no productive way to practice kissing a person - anyone who says otherwise is probably a weirdo. I don't want to use a ';canned'; saying here, but it DOES come naturally. The only advice I can give you is to just push your lips close to his, and let it happen. Don't ';Try'; anything you've seen, and don't think about it. It's really nothing to analyze, or ponder about. Just don't be nervous. The way lips touch feels natural - it'll be easier than you think, I promise. Good luck!
How do you know it doesn't come naturally? You've never experienced it before!
The reason it seems like such an intimidating thing to do is because of that. And if you don't let it happen naturally it could get awkward.
Most importantly, BE CONFIDENT. Boldness is always a turn-on!
Use your hands to make it more passionate - Run your fingers through the hair on the back of his head; if it's just a peck, hold him by his sides.
Practice on your hand if it helps :D
Good luck!!
Much love
Here's an idea... Watch the movie Hatari with John Wayne. LOL Yeah, I know. But there is a great scene where this hot Italian chick is like, ';How you like to kiss?'; Then she gets shown up close and personal exactly how he likes to kiss.
Seriously, impersonation is the most sincere form of flattery. In other words, when he gets around to laying one on you, mimic what he's doing.
wow! i have totally had this exact problem. If you two are together then it really shouldn't matter how inexperienced you are. he likes you for you and don't worry about making a fool of yourself. honestly, for me it didn't come naturally. i'm still not that great of a kisser. they didn't care though. they just liked being close to me because they liked me. i got better with practice. just let him know up front that your nervous and haven't kissed anyone before. tell him flirtatiously that you're willing to let him teach you though (:
Take your time and relax. Let him know that your nervous, and if he isn't a jerk, he'll understand. Kissing him shouldn't be to hard, if there is chemistry then it should come naturally, but if you can't get a mood set for kissing, try doing it after a date, or during a romantic movie.
well first, just relax. i like to wrap my hands around a guy's neck. i feel like i have more control that way, maybe that would be good for you. also, tilt your head slightly so that your nose does not clash with his. and lastly, dont open your mouth too wide or you'll hit teeth. and if youre not sure what to do with your tongue, follow his or spell out your name or something. haha
good luck and have fun;)
you can't practice without an actual human, really. since he's kissed before, it would be advisable if you just let him take over. you don't have to do anything. the answers will come to you once it starts. :p
Like in dancing, let him lead. Lol.
well it kinda does come naturally.. jus don't stress can't really practice lol
maybe on your hand? just follow what he does
just dont completly eat his face with ur mouth or shove ur tounge in so much it'll choke him and u'll b fine
I need relationship advice asap plzz?
im in love with this guy from my skewl and we ave become m8s and he nos dat i like him but theres these other girls who like him aswell and wen i ask him if he wood eva go out wid me me he keeps on sayin dat he needs 2 sort out the other girls but i ave fallen in love wid him and i dnt no how much longer i can wait for him my dream is to be wid him I LOVE HIM more than any other person i ave eva loved before i need him so plz help me tell me wot i should do pretty plzI need relationship advice asap plzz?
Forget it, forget him. You deserve something better.I need relationship advice asap plzz?
U need to step back respect his space... if u love him loads give him space to think about what he wants... the last thing u want is for him to be with you because of pressure... take it easy! stay relaxed he will admire that side of u and will see that your patient and mature!
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Forget it, forget him. You deserve something better.I need relationship advice asap plzz?
U need to step back respect his space... if u love him loads give him space to think about what he wants... the last thing u want is for him to be with you because of pressure... take it easy! stay relaxed he will admire that side of u and will see that your patient and mature!
What language is this
I need relationship advice ASAP......?
Been dating boy for 1.5 yrs %26amp; live 2gether. Last June he changed %26amp; sh*t went down on his part, upset me %26amp; sh*t went down on my part. We both hurt each other really bad. Started to work through it in Aug after a final episode of sh*t went down. We both had betrayed each other so to speak. So our new yrs resolution was to forgive %26amp; forget %26amp; change for the better for each other bc we both want it to work. Started out good %26amp; then we both started having indifferences out of the blue %26amp; becoming easily agitated w/each other %26amp; bad fights have happened. Now we've made rules and keep up with good days on a marker board. I'm still not comfortable w/things %26amp; I get nervous around him sometimes. I don't know what to do anymore, he's becoming impossible. I think he's bipolar %26amp; he doesn't believe in counseling. I also think his sister is negatively influencing him bc she doesn't like me for whatever reason. They are both immature, he is 24 %26amp; she 30 %26amp; me 21. His mom is also upset with his behavior.I need relationship advice ASAP......?
maybe u two just arent right for one another.
i know it hurts to let someone u love so much go, but time apart sounds like the best option right now.
u guys need to see if u can work though but how can u figure this out if ur constanlty fighting all the time. take a break and if u can truly forgive and forgt u guys will make ur way back to one another.
theres too many other people out there to stay in a realionship thats just not working
think about it,and good luck.I need relationship advice ASAP......?
Perhaps yous aren't compatible for each other. Maybe its time for yous to consider moving forward in separate directions, and take time to heal from all these circumstances. Seek counseling to help cope through your changed transitions, if need be. Hope that helps, thanks for asking.
I recommend you to read this free E-book called 97 Steps To A Happy Relationship. It's a free and easy download, so it won't hurt to check it out.alpha ahava
maybe u two just arent right for one another.
i know it hurts to let someone u love so much go, but time apart sounds like the best option right now.
u guys need to see if u can work though but how can u figure this out if ur constanlty fighting all the time. take a break and if u can truly forgive and forgt u guys will make ur way back to one another.
theres too many other people out there to stay in a realionship thats just not working
think about it,and good luck.I need relationship advice ASAP......?
Perhaps yous aren't compatible for each other. Maybe its time for yous to consider moving forward in separate directions, and take time to heal from all these circumstances. Seek counseling to help cope through your changed transitions, if need be. Hope that helps, thanks for asking.
I recommend you to read this free E-book called 97 Steps To A Happy Relationship. It's a free and easy download, so it won't hurt to check it out.
15, need relationship advice?
Okay, I know you'll probably say something like ';You're only 15'; but I can make my own decisions about my age and just want some advice, please?
Basically, I'm 15, never had a boyfriend. Most of my mates have but guys I like just never seem interested..
Now there's this one guy, David, I really like him and I think he might like me. I've only met him a couple of times but we talk online a bit and he seems interested. But what do I do? Do I ask if he wants to meet up sometime, or is this really obvious and pushy? I want him to know I like him but not in a way that makes me look desperate, especially if he doesn't like me in the end.
Any advice please? I really don't know what to do =S
xx15, need relationship advice?
hi i'm in a bit situation like you and i'm 14. get one of your friends to ask him if he likes you and if he says yes then ask him out. good luk = ) xx15, need relationship advice?
im 15 just ask if he wants to go to lunch one day or something it doesnt have to be a ';date'; if you go to the movies you wont even talk so dont go trust me
Basically, I'm 15, never had a boyfriend. Most of my mates have but guys I like just never seem interested..
Now there's this one guy, David, I really like him and I think he might like me. I've only met him a couple of times but we talk online a bit and he seems interested. But what do I do? Do I ask if he wants to meet up sometime, or is this really obvious and pushy? I want him to know I like him but not in a way that makes me look desperate, especially if he doesn't like me in the end.
Any advice please? I really don't know what to do =S
xx15, need relationship advice?
hi i'm in a bit situation like you and i'm 14. get one of your friends to ask him if he likes you and if he says yes then ask him out. good luk = ) xx15, need relationship advice?
im 15 just ask if he wants to go to lunch one day or something it doesnt have to be a ';date'; if you go to the movies you wont even talk so dont go trust me
I need relationship advice!!!!!!!!?
I am worried about going to my winter dance. My problem isn't my date, but this other guy from school. He's always making excuses to be near me and i always catch him staring at me. The last time i went to a school dance this guy kept staring at me all the time. It really creeped my date out! He has a gf, and claims he ';loves her'; but then why does he do things like this. He will also later im me and bombard me with questions about my bf, and he gets really jealous about it. He almost got into a fight with my last bf just because he was going out with me. HELP! What should I do????I need relationship advice!!!!!!!!?
Seriously? You need to confront him (preferably in front of his girlfriend) and tell him that he needs to leave you alone and that he is creeping you out. If he really loves his girlfriend (which I doubt he does at his age anyways), he needs to stop staring at you, stop getting jealous about you having guys in it and to just stop acting weird towards you. Confront him, or it'll get worse. We never think that those bad things we hear about on the news will happen to us until it has already happened.
Seriously? You need to confront him (preferably in front of his girlfriend) and tell him that he needs to leave you alone and that he is creeping you out. If he really loves his girlfriend (which I doubt he does at his age anyways), he needs to stop staring at you, stop getting jealous about you having guys in it and to just stop acting weird towards you. Confront him, or it'll get worse. We never think that those bad things we hear about on the news will happen to us until it has already happened.
I need relationship advice please?
I like this girl but im not sure if she likes me. She just broke up with her boyfriend so shes a little sad, what can I do to make her feel better? Me and her are kinda friends, we talk on facebook, on aim, and if I see her in school we'll say hi to each other. I think shes really cute but idk if shes intrested in me. When we talk on aim and I make her laugh she'll say things like I love youuu. And she laughs at the things I say on aim.
Idk if she likes me because she doesnt really IM me all that much, but when i asked her why she doesnt IM me she says its because she feels like shes annoying me.
How can I make her feel better about her boyfriend breaking up with her? How do I know if she likes me? And what should I do if you think she does?
Thanks =]I need relationship advice please?
If she goes to your school approach her there, eat lunch with her or strike up a conversation in person. Ask her if she would like to hang out sometime and see what she says. Tell her your sorry about her boyfriend, and you hope she feels better, tell her that you find her very pretty and really nice to talk to so when shes ready she should have no problem finding someone new. Become her friend, let her be around you, why not give her your phone number and ask for hers. Be cool, not too shy but not too blunt. She might like you, though she doesn't know you well enough and plus she has to get over her ex. Good luckI need relationship advice please?
Feel better: let her know that you are there if she needs to talk.
I think she does like you ar she is developing feelings for you. Just become her really good friend. Tell her at least once every time you talk that you love to talk to her so she knows she doesn't annoy you.
Just be good friends. A lot of girls say your best friend becomes your boyfriend. Try that.
Good luck
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I am sorry but from what you said, I think she's just seeing you as a friend. She doesn't IM you a lot because she feels like she's annoying you, if a girl likes a guy, no matter how hard she tries, she'll eventually end up IMing the guy, even if the topic was totally random or ridiculous. When you make her laugh she says I love you because she has a sense of humour and that makes her happy. I guess my best advice to you is keep doing what you're doing, make her laugh. Don't push the limit now because she just got out of a relationship. When you see that she's better, then you start asking her out SLOWLY. Luck
Idk if she likes me because she doesnt really IM me all that much, but when i asked her why she doesnt IM me she says its because she feels like shes annoying me.
How can I make her feel better about her boyfriend breaking up with her? How do I know if she likes me? And what should I do if you think she does?
Thanks =]I need relationship advice please?
If she goes to your school approach her there, eat lunch with her or strike up a conversation in person. Ask her if she would like to hang out sometime and see what she says. Tell her your sorry about her boyfriend, and you hope she feels better, tell her that you find her very pretty and really nice to talk to so when shes ready she should have no problem finding someone new. Become her friend, let her be around you, why not give her your phone number and ask for hers. Be cool, not too shy but not too blunt. She might like you, though she doesn't know you well enough and plus she has to get over her ex. Good luckI need relationship advice please?
Feel better: let her know that you are there if she needs to talk.
I think she does like you ar she is developing feelings for you. Just become her really good friend. Tell her at least once every time you talk that you love to talk to her so she knows she doesn't annoy you.
Just be good friends. A lot of girls say your best friend becomes your boyfriend. Try that.
Good luck
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I am sorry but from what you said, I think she's just seeing you as a friend. She doesn't IM you a lot because she feels like she's annoying you, if a girl likes a guy, no matter how hard she tries, she'll eventually end up IMing the guy, even if the topic was totally random or ridiculous. When you make her laugh she says I love you because she has a sense of humour and that makes her happy. I guess my best advice to you is keep doing what you're doing, make her laugh. Don't push the limit now because she just got out of a relationship. When you see that she's better, then you start asking her out SLOWLY. Luck
Please Help! Relationship advice needed, amd I being a fool?
I started dating this guy 4 months ago, during the time he had a baby on the way and he was a little down because his baby mother was not speaking to him. She put him thru hell allowing him to come see his baby being born. Anyway now that the baby is here his baby's mom spends the weekends at his house, she spends the night and while she is there he will call me when he steps away from her. He tells me that the only reason she is over there is so that he he can spend time with his daughter. He tells me that he does not want her to take the baby away from him so until he can get the baby legitimized he has to allow her to spend the wekend over his place. Now I am there mainly thru out the week and we have a good time together.... a few days ago his baby mama was playin in his phone and she ended up cllling me telling that he tells her he is using me for money and they he is telling her he wants to be with her, I didnt tell her we were sleeping together becuz I dont want to mess anything up with him seeing his baby. I am just wondering why does she have to spend the whole weekend and every weekend since the baby is only 7 weeks old????
I really dont think he is lying to me about not wanting her becuz she did him so wrong when she was pregnant. What do yal think?Please Help! Relationship advice needed, amd I being a fool?
What you need to do is ask him to his face whether what she said is true or not. Tell him what she said, then get the truth. I don't think he lying either, because if he does want her, then he'd have no reason to keep you around. You don't have the baby. So he is probably just lying to her to keep from fighting, in which case you should let it go until he gets the baby. But this could be totally off. People are not always logical about relationships.
All you can really do is try to strengthen your relationship with him. And show him your support and comfort.
And if this backfires, don't yell at me. I'm only sixteen.Please Help! Relationship advice needed, amd I being a fool?
well chances are hes cheating on you and you should try staying the night when his baby's momma is there so you can make sure nothing is happening
He wants his cake and ice cream too. He plans on gettin back with her. Save yourself the heartache and let him go
walk away from the drama now. you deserve better.
hunnie i know this sucks, but either he is both tellin yall the same things and he wants to have two girlfriends or she is just jealous and wants him to herself. you need to kill this thou. u need to decide if your okay with dealin with this, and it worth it or move on. my advice is to move on, he obviously didnt know how to use a condom and he is probably doin somethin behind your back, but instead of writing on yahoo you need to be talkin about this with him. tell him how you feel and only then can you make the decision for yourself.
I really dont think he is lying to me about not wanting her becuz she did him so wrong when she was pregnant. What do yal think?Please Help! Relationship advice needed, amd I being a fool?
What you need to do is ask him to his face whether what she said is true or not. Tell him what she said, then get the truth. I don't think he lying either, because if he does want her, then he'd have no reason to keep you around. You don't have the baby. So he is probably just lying to her to keep from fighting, in which case you should let it go until he gets the baby. But this could be totally off. People are not always logical about relationships.
All you can really do is try to strengthen your relationship with him. And show him your support and comfort.
And if this backfires, don't yell at me. I'm only sixteen.Please Help! Relationship advice needed, amd I being a fool?
well chances are hes cheating on you and you should try staying the night when his baby's momma is there so you can make sure nothing is happening
He wants his cake and ice cream too. He plans on gettin back with her. Save yourself the heartache and let him go
walk away from the drama now. you deserve better.
hunnie i know this sucks, but either he is both tellin yall the same things and he wants to have two girlfriends or she is just jealous and wants him to herself. you need to kill this thou. u need to decide if your okay with dealin with this, and it worth it or move on. my advice is to move on, he obviously didnt know how to use a condom and he is probably doin somethin behind your back, but instead of writing on yahoo you need to be talkin about this with him. tell him how you feel and only then can you make the decision for yourself.
Looking for relationship advice!?
Okay so I am looking for advice! You know the stuff you ask for when you already know what to do. My girlfriend and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary last week. Things have been going pretty good for us. We do tend to argue but what couple doesn鈥檛. I have kept our relationship a secret from a lot of people and only recently started telling people myself. I have only told those who I know would still be there for me regardless. I do not feel comfortable with people knowing and I am not sure that is ever going to change. Last night I broke up with her. I feel at times that I am living this double life. I hide that fact that we are dating from people I work with and pretend to be single. The same is true for my sons father and his family. I have also not told my son ( who is 5). I am scared of what that lifestyle could mean for him. Especially if my GF doesn鈥檛 really want to move in and take that parent role.Looking for relationship advice!?
Take some time for you before you make any decisions. You said it yourself that coming out to the world will make a huge impact on not only your life, but also your son's life.
You need to find out from your [ex] girlfriend whether she would even want to be a part of your son's life. If she doesn't, then that's your answer right there. Your son will forever be part of your life, and if she can't accept that, then you need to find someone who can.
As for the guy, I'd give it a shot. You aren't in a relationship with your girlfriend anymore, so if you have chemistry with the guy, isn't it worth possibly checking out? Even if it's just a date here or there... nothing serious.
Regardless of what you do, make sure that whatever choice you make, make sure that you are happy with it. That's the important thing.
And I agree with Heath.. I don't mind talking to you more about this if you need outside opinions.Looking for relationship advice!?
Her feelings about taking on the parenting role could very well change in the future. It's hard to just jump into a parenting role when you weren't originally the parent. I know that ultimately your son needs to be a part of your relationship with her, but she might just need some time. If she's set on never becoming a part of your son's life, then maybe you're correct in letting her go for now. Did this guy you met actually state that he wanted to get in your pants? If that's so, a lot of guys like to throw nice words out to gain women's trust and interest. Make sure it's not a trap to get you out of your clothes. If you truly care for this girl, don't just up and break up with her. Deal with the problem before you throw it out and create a new problem. Let me know if you want to talk more about this.
Heath
Take some time for you before you make any decisions. You said it yourself that coming out to the world will make a huge impact on not only your life, but also your son's life.
You need to find out from your [ex] girlfriend whether she would even want to be a part of your son's life. If she doesn't, then that's your answer right there. Your son will forever be part of your life, and if she can't accept that, then you need to find someone who can.
As for the guy, I'd give it a shot. You aren't in a relationship with your girlfriend anymore, so if you have chemistry with the guy, isn't it worth possibly checking out? Even if it's just a date here or there... nothing serious.
Regardless of what you do, make sure that whatever choice you make, make sure that you are happy with it. That's the important thing.
And I agree with Heath.. I don't mind talking to you more about this if you need outside opinions.Looking for relationship advice!?
Her feelings about taking on the parenting role could very well change in the future. It's hard to just jump into a parenting role when you weren't originally the parent. I know that ultimately your son needs to be a part of your relationship with her, but she might just need some time. If she's set on never becoming a part of your son's life, then maybe you're correct in letting her go for now. Did this guy you met actually state that he wanted to get in your pants? If that's so, a lot of guys like to throw nice words out to gain women's trust and interest. Make sure it's not a trap to get you out of your clothes. If you truly care for this girl, don't just up and break up with her. Deal with the problem before you throw it out and create a new problem. Let me know if you want to talk more about this.
Heath
Need some relationship advice?
Meet this bloke 2wks ago everything going great. Then on wednesday he stopped phoning and texting and I hadn't heard from him so I sent a text saying 'u could just say if your not interested. Oh well we had fun. Cu round.' Then last night all the texts he'd sent over past few days came all at once. So i drunkedly texted (not a good idea) last night and apologised but I've not heard anything back. Should I ring him? I really thought we were having a good time together. Help!!!Need some relationship advice?
No, you've already apologised %26amp; he'll know this... don't go chasing after him.
He'll come round in his own time, just do things to occupy your mind %26amp; don't dwell / think on it.
Chances are you'll recieve a text then out of the blue too, it usually happens lol
Good luck !Need some relationship advice?
Call immediately! Expalin what has happened and then wait.
Yes, ring him ! There was obviously a problem with the phones or the network or something ! He was probably experiencing the same problem. Ring or arrange to meet up with him so you can talk, explain, sort things out.
if he's really interested he would call.
Quit texting and go talk to him! If yo truly want to kow what he is thinking, you should talk in person. There are no emotions and something could be misinterpreted through texting. Give your fingers a rest and let your mouth do the talkng and ears do the listenng!
i think he realised your not the one
Send him a text saying what do you want, to be with me or be friends I need to know, by to night. Then wait if he doesn't let you know by the day, then move on.
it seems he is not taking u seriuosly better treat him the same way. Even if he calls dont pick up his call and u urself dont call him. Leave that moron. u can have many other.
If his texts didn't come through one time, then what's there to say it won't happen again? I'd say, try ringing him, he sounds interested! Just, be careful with what you say, and how much you ring him.
YES !! RING HIM!!
Don't lose the chance of getting tgt.
If you miss this chance, you'd prolly regret.
Tell him what happened.
Goodluck!!
If you feel its the right thing to do then text him back, not being funny but it is your life that will be happy or sad from this, no one can make the decision for you, hope you get what you want Take care.
I THINK YOU SHOULD RING HIM, A VOICE TO VOICE IS MUCH BETTER THAN TEXT,THE GUY WILL BE ABLE TO TELL BY THE SOUND OFF YOUR VOICE ,HOW SERIOUS YOU ARE
Call him.
i think you should sit down with him and talk about what happened and then base your judgement on that
go talk to himalpha ahava
No, you've already apologised %26amp; he'll know this... don't go chasing after him.
He'll come round in his own time, just do things to occupy your mind %26amp; don't dwell / think on it.
Chances are you'll recieve a text then out of the blue too, it usually happens lol
Good luck !Need some relationship advice?
Call immediately! Expalin what has happened and then wait.
Yes, ring him ! There was obviously a problem with the phones or the network or something ! He was probably experiencing the same problem. Ring or arrange to meet up with him so you can talk, explain, sort things out.
if he's really interested he would call.
Quit texting and go talk to him! If yo truly want to kow what he is thinking, you should talk in person. There are no emotions and something could be misinterpreted through texting. Give your fingers a rest and let your mouth do the talkng and ears do the listenng!
i think he realised your not the one
Send him a text saying what do you want, to be with me or be friends I need to know, by to night. Then wait if he doesn't let you know by the day, then move on.
it seems he is not taking u seriuosly better treat him the same way. Even if he calls dont pick up his call and u urself dont call him. Leave that moron. u can have many other.
If his texts didn't come through one time, then what's there to say it won't happen again? I'd say, try ringing him, he sounds interested! Just, be careful with what you say, and how much you ring him.
YES !! RING HIM!!
Don't lose the chance of getting tgt.
If you miss this chance, you'd prolly regret.
Tell him what happened.
Goodluck!!
If you feel its the right thing to do then text him back, not being funny but it is your life that will be happy or sad from this, no one can make the decision for you, hope you get what you want Take care.
I THINK YOU SHOULD RING HIM, A VOICE TO VOICE IS MUCH BETTER THAN TEXT,THE GUY WILL BE ABLE TO TELL BY THE SOUND OFF YOUR VOICE ,HOW SERIOUS YOU ARE
Call him.
i think you should sit down with him and talk about what happened and then base your judgement on that
go talk to him
PLEASE GUYS I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE? i know its long but advice would be really appreciated?
My boyfriend had a family member and two friends pass away in one day. He went to the airport to pick up his mom and he would call me i wil call you when he got home. When he got back he sent me a message trough msn. And i was a little mad (i know im clingy) and asked him how come he didnt call me. He just said please dont start giving me attitude not today.
And we argued because i was just looking for an answer and he just ignored me and told me you need to apologize. The next day i wrote him and he ignored me again, and last night i begged him to meet me (he lives right next to me) in the parking lot to resolve the issue and he just completely ignored me and acted like he didnt even care he kept saying leave me alone i dont have anything to say to you. When he finally met me outside after me begging me many times he was just being an ahole ignoring me, and when i talked he just turned his face and laughed sarcasticaly. He said that i had gone to far this time messing with his dead relatives, which sounds absurd because all i did was ask him, yeah i know i had an attittude but he doesnt have to exagerate the issue.
He was being so mean and cold when i was trying to explain things to him that i was going to apologize but his coldness just left me without words. So i just left and went back to my house. I cant beleive how cold he is being just because he wants an apology.
So my question is i dont have a problem apologizing, but is it even worth it? Because he really is acting like he is just fed up and tired of me.PLEASE GUYS I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE? i know its long but advice would be really appreciated?
By now you should know that nagging and badgering people when they鈥檙e not in the mood to talk, you will only make things worse. People are different than you are and sometimes they need some personal time for grief and many other reasons. The adult thing to do is give them the space they need.
We don鈥檛 know the nature of the texts you two exchanged, but if you said anything cold to him, then you do owe him an apology. Nevertheless, you still need to show how sad you are for his loss.
To regain respect, you must make the necessary apologies and back off. Create a distance that will give him some personal time and enough for him to remember how good he had it. The worst thing you could do is pursue him at this stage. Don鈥檛 come down to your knees or you will always be taken for granted鈥RIDE, STRENGTH AND HONORPLEASE GUYS I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE? i know its long but advice would be really appreciated?
Yes, you are very clingy and in this sad time he won't appreciate your negative attitude. give him some space and some time.
Wow, your really a selfish person. All you think about is me me me when he was having a difficult week. If you were my girlfriend I would B-slap you!
SELFISH! give him time. think of what it would be like if you were in his position
Give him some time, it might be that he just does not know how to deal with his emotions over losing his loved ones. He might be in denial, or he may be taking his anger out on you. Either way, just let him be for now, if you feel you need to apologize, send him a card with a simple apology, and don't go into details.
With the recent loss, he really doesn't need anyone pressing him right now. Everyone grieves in their own way, and it is going to take him some time to get over what happened.
Be patient.
And we argued because i was just looking for an answer and he just ignored me and told me you need to apologize. The next day i wrote him and he ignored me again, and last night i begged him to meet me (he lives right next to me) in the parking lot to resolve the issue and he just completely ignored me and acted like he didnt even care he kept saying leave me alone i dont have anything to say to you. When he finally met me outside after me begging me many times he was just being an ahole ignoring me, and when i talked he just turned his face and laughed sarcasticaly. He said that i had gone to far this time messing with his dead relatives, which sounds absurd because all i did was ask him, yeah i know i had an attittude but he doesnt have to exagerate the issue.
He was being so mean and cold when i was trying to explain things to him that i was going to apologize but his coldness just left me without words. So i just left and went back to my house. I cant beleive how cold he is being just because he wants an apology.
So my question is i dont have a problem apologizing, but is it even worth it? Because he really is acting like he is just fed up and tired of me.PLEASE GUYS I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE? i know its long but advice would be really appreciated?
By now you should know that nagging and badgering people when they鈥檙e not in the mood to talk, you will only make things worse. People are different than you are and sometimes they need some personal time for grief and many other reasons. The adult thing to do is give them the space they need.
We don鈥檛 know the nature of the texts you two exchanged, but if you said anything cold to him, then you do owe him an apology. Nevertheless, you still need to show how sad you are for his loss.
To regain respect, you must make the necessary apologies and back off. Create a distance that will give him some personal time and enough for him to remember how good he had it. The worst thing you could do is pursue him at this stage. Don鈥檛 come down to your knees or you will always be taken for granted鈥RIDE, STRENGTH AND HONORPLEASE GUYS I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE? i know its long but advice would be really appreciated?
Yes, you are very clingy and in this sad time he won't appreciate your negative attitude. give him some space and some time.
Wow, your really a selfish person. All you think about is me me me when he was having a difficult week. If you were my girlfriend I would B-slap you!
SELFISH! give him time. think of what it would be like if you were in his position
Give him some time, it might be that he just does not know how to deal with his emotions over losing his loved ones. He might be in denial, or he may be taking his anger out on you. Either way, just let him be for now, if you feel you need to apologize, send him a card with a simple apology, and don't go into details.
With the recent loss, he really doesn't need anyone pressing him right now. Everyone grieves in their own way, and it is going to take him some time to get over what happened.
Be patient.
Much needed Relationship advice.?
My ex and I were together for over a year and than a month ago he just stopped talking to me. I don't know what I did and no matter what I say he won't say a single word to me. He still has all of our pictures up on myspace and is reading all of my emails I send him but he won't say anything and I'm not sure what to do. We were engaged and were planning on getting married in July...I just don't know how to move on from him without knowing what happened and that he's ok. I had to brake up with him over a voice mail and I felt Absolutely awful about it but I wasn't sure what else to do. I still love him so much but should I wait or try to move on for my own sanity cause I've never felt this torn in my whole life.Much needed Relationship advice.?
You broke up with him through a voice mail!?!?!?!?!Much needed Relationship advice.?
Dont call him or send him any message give him time, just believe that time is the best iller n it turns Gold into dust. If he asnt told u wat u did to him its just that maybe he did some wrong n he is feeling gulty of it. Coz the more u call or text ur ur ll be pushing him. I know ur frustreted but try , to be possitive n everything is gonna be okey believe. Its not easy but u have no other wise. Be strong everything happens for a reason if he wants out there nothing u cn do about it.
You broke up with him through a voice mail!?!?!?!?!Much needed Relationship advice.?
Dont call him or send him any message give him time, just believe that time is the best iller n it turns Gold into dust. If he asnt told u wat u did to him its just that maybe he did some wrong n he is feeling gulty of it. Coz the more u call or text ur ur ll be pushing him. I know ur frustreted but try , to be possitive n everything is gonna be okey believe. Its not easy but u have no other wise. Be strong everything happens for a reason if he wants out there nothing u cn do about it.
I need relationship advice :(:(?
I dated the same guy for 2 years, we broke up over a year ago. I was controlling %26amp; I didn't trust him when we were dating so eventually it pushed him away and he left me. I didn't realize how crazy I acted towards him until after we broke up. We both moved on, but about a month ago we started talking again...
We text almost everyday, and we have hung out a total of maybe 4 or 5 times. The first time we hung out, he just came to my house %26amp; we talked for a couple of hours. The second time, I went to his apartment where we had intercourse 3 times. The third time we hung out we just went to starbucks %26amp; talked again. And the fourth time we hung out he came to my place where we had sex again. When we did it this time he asked if he could *** inside of me (sorry for the TMI), and he knows I'm not on any type of birth control. I just ignored him thinking that he wasn't being serious, but I didn't realize he was until AFTER he finished. So, I made the comment to him 'I hope I don't get pregnant' and he would just tell me not to freak him out. Well, after that we went shopping, and while we were there he kept pointing out baby stuff and saying 'we should get started shopping early'... I just kind of laughed it off. That night I decided that I was going to bring up our relationship to him so I told him that I wanted him back, and all he would say is 'i can't right now'. I decided that I couldn't keep talking to someone who would never take me back so I told him that I couldn't keep talking to him. All he said was 'if thats what you want'. We went about 24 hours without talking, and I finally text him and said that i miss him.. he told me he misses me too. Well, yesterday we were talking and I asked him 'why are you holding back?' and he said 'because it's hard for me not to with you'.
I don't know what to think... and I don't know what to do.
I love him with all my heart, and I would do anything to get him back... I've told him that and all he says is 'well?'
What am I supposed to do??? What do you think he is thinking????I need relationship advice :(:(?
I dont think I could stay with somone that doesnt know if they want to be with me. His answer to you loving him is ';well?';, not a good sign.I need relationship advice :(:(?
Get on some bc, the last thing you need is a baby. It sounds to me like he just wants sex once in a while, so keeps you online. I would punt him.
hes thinking wow, how am i going to avoid this chick for 18 years when she's chasing me down for child support every month.
Either he's looking for a booty call or you really hurt him and he doesn't want to go down the same road with you.
sounds as though he might have a girlfriend or wife on the side and is playing the fields watch out as you might be the other woman
Hello... Can't you see he just wants you for sex? You are over-thinking this. You will never be more than a friend with benefits to him.
this is too long...good luck with ur life tho =]
This is a hard one because there are so many intangibles. First off it is good that you realized your fault in you two breaking up, at least that way if you do wind up back together you know what not to do. As far as letting him ejaculate into you, first off you should always take that question serious in the moment because most guys in the moment will if you allow them to. Now that the deed is done you need to get tested and see if you are pregnant. That's the most important thing right now. Then you can move forward from there. If you are pregnant he needs to decide if he is going to be with you or not, and if not you both need to decide what to do about the baby. Hopefully you will not abort. If your not pregnant, then you guys should have a serious sit down. If he feels that he has to hold back with you it may be because you were too controlling the first time around. If that is the case, you need to let him know that you understand that, and that you have changed. You have to prove that to him and just take it slow. One thing I would suggest is that if your going to take it slow with him that you slow down on the sex, and use protection especially because you don't know if he is being exclusive with you and you don't want him bringing you any nasty diseases back, and you don't want to be a single mother (at least I don't think you do).
In short you both need to sit down and have a serious discussion about where this is heading. Let him know that your not just going to be his booty call, and that you were doing ok before he came back and if he wants to be with you then he needs to step up and do it, and if not you guys can be friends but don't let him use you for sex.
well ima play Dr. Phil for a min
haha but all ya gotta do is move on find someone else. its not hard.
sounds to me like the dude was only after one thing and ya gave it to him a lot. so yeah. odds are he wants someone else but wanted to use ya for it to lol. my advise is stop giving him what he wants. go talk to new ppl hangout with friends/family or do a hobby you like to get your mind off it. and youll get over it soon. dont dwell on someone so long cause youll never realise that theres someone else out there for ya if ya only have your mind on a certain person who doesnt want you.
He sounds too wishy-washy. You already put yourself out there so now the ball is in his court. Let him come to you and if he doesn't then you know he's an ****** that just wanted to use you for sex.
Major LOSER alert!!!
Why would he want to be in a committed relationship with you when you are giving him everything without it? Everyday communication (constant ego stroking). Sex whenever he wants it (bootycall with no strings attached) and unprotected sex at that where he's playing games with your life by purposely trying to get you pregnant but doesn't want to commit to you.
Ask yourself are you this stupid. If you didn't trust him while in your relationship it appears to me that you had good reason because he doesn't seem mature enough for a real relationship.
I think both of you need to grow up and stop playing with fire. Get birth control so you don't mess up another life while you are at it. As for the rest, sit down and talk to each other about your true feelings and where each of you wants to go from here.
First of all TAKE THE BIRTH CONTROL PILL!!! Why would you even risk getting pregnant???? what are you thinking?
Give it some time, continue dating casually for a while to see if you two are right for each other. You gave him a hard time before, he needs to make sure you've changed before he can commit, only time will do that.
But what nobody needs is one more unhappy child with unhappy parents, so please use a condom/birth control pills!
We text almost everyday, and we have hung out a total of maybe 4 or 5 times. The first time we hung out, he just came to my house %26amp; we talked for a couple of hours. The second time, I went to his apartment where we had intercourse 3 times. The third time we hung out we just went to starbucks %26amp; talked again. And the fourth time we hung out he came to my place where we had sex again. When we did it this time he asked if he could *** inside of me (sorry for the TMI), and he knows I'm not on any type of birth control. I just ignored him thinking that he wasn't being serious, but I didn't realize he was until AFTER he finished. So, I made the comment to him 'I hope I don't get pregnant' and he would just tell me not to freak him out. Well, after that we went shopping, and while we were there he kept pointing out baby stuff and saying 'we should get started shopping early'... I just kind of laughed it off. That night I decided that I was going to bring up our relationship to him so I told him that I wanted him back, and all he would say is 'i can't right now'. I decided that I couldn't keep talking to someone who would never take me back so I told him that I couldn't keep talking to him. All he said was 'if thats what you want'. We went about 24 hours without talking, and I finally text him and said that i miss him.. he told me he misses me too. Well, yesterday we were talking and I asked him 'why are you holding back?' and he said 'because it's hard for me not to with you'.
I don't know what to think... and I don't know what to do.
I love him with all my heart, and I would do anything to get him back... I've told him that and all he says is 'well?'
What am I supposed to do??? What do you think he is thinking????I need relationship advice :(:(?
I dont think I could stay with somone that doesnt know if they want to be with me. His answer to you loving him is ';well?';, not a good sign.I need relationship advice :(:(?
Get on some bc, the last thing you need is a baby. It sounds to me like he just wants sex once in a while, so keeps you online. I would punt him.
hes thinking wow, how am i going to avoid this chick for 18 years when she's chasing me down for child support every month.
Either he's looking for a booty call or you really hurt him and he doesn't want to go down the same road with you.
sounds as though he might have a girlfriend or wife on the side and is playing the fields watch out as you might be the other woman
Hello... Can't you see he just wants you for sex? You are over-thinking this. You will never be more than a friend with benefits to him.
this is too long...good luck with ur life tho =]
This is a hard one because there are so many intangibles. First off it is good that you realized your fault in you two breaking up, at least that way if you do wind up back together you know what not to do. As far as letting him ejaculate into you, first off you should always take that question serious in the moment because most guys in the moment will if you allow them to. Now that the deed is done you need to get tested and see if you are pregnant. That's the most important thing right now. Then you can move forward from there. If you are pregnant he needs to decide if he is going to be with you or not, and if not you both need to decide what to do about the baby. Hopefully you will not abort. If your not pregnant, then you guys should have a serious sit down. If he feels that he has to hold back with you it may be because you were too controlling the first time around. If that is the case, you need to let him know that you understand that, and that you have changed. You have to prove that to him and just take it slow. One thing I would suggest is that if your going to take it slow with him that you slow down on the sex, and use protection especially because you don't know if he is being exclusive with you and you don't want him bringing you any nasty diseases back, and you don't want to be a single mother (at least I don't think you do).
In short you both need to sit down and have a serious discussion about where this is heading. Let him know that your not just going to be his booty call, and that you were doing ok before he came back and if he wants to be with you then he needs to step up and do it, and if not you guys can be friends but don't let him use you for sex.
well ima play Dr. Phil for a min
haha but all ya gotta do is move on find someone else. its not hard.
sounds to me like the dude was only after one thing and ya gave it to him a lot. so yeah. odds are he wants someone else but wanted to use ya for it to lol. my advise is stop giving him what he wants. go talk to new ppl hangout with friends/family or do a hobby you like to get your mind off it. and youll get over it soon. dont dwell on someone so long cause youll never realise that theres someone else out there for ya if ya only have your mind on a certain person who doesnt want you.
He sounds too wishy-washy. You already put yourself out there so now the ball is in his court. Let him come to you and if he doesn't then you know he's an ****** that just wanted to use you for sex.
Major LOSER alert!!!
Why would he want to be in a committed relationship with you when you are giving him everything without it? Everyday communication (constant ego stroking). Sex whenever he wants it (bootycall with no strings attached) and unprotected sex at that where he's playing games with your life by purposely trying to get you pregnant but doesn't want to commit to you.
Ask yourself are you this stupid. If you didn't trust him while in your relationship it appears to me that you had good reason because he doesn't seem mature enough for a real relationship.
I think both of you need to grow up and stop playing with fire. Get birth control so you don't mess up another life while you are at it. As for the rest, sit down and talk to each other about your true feelings and where each of you wants to go from here.
First of all TAKE THE BIRTH CONTROL PILL!!! Why would you even risk getting pregnant???? what are you thinking?
Give it some time, continue dating casually for a while to see if you two are right for each other. You gave him a hard time before, he needs to make sure you've changed before he can commit, only time will do that.
But what nobody needs is one more unhappy child with unhappy parents, so please use a condom/birth control pills!
Gay guy relationship advice- I met this guy on msn, but should I block him?
There's this guy who I met online. We started out just having friednly conversation, talking about the gay life that I didn't know much about. He told me he had like six dates lined up next week so I thourght this guy wouldn't possibly come on to me. But then he did.
What made him seem like a nice guy from the start was the fact that he said he wasn't into cam sex. But on the second night we spoke he kept asking for cam sex and being the horny fool that I used to be, I gave what he wanted.
During our next conversation I said I wouldn't do it again because it makes me feel like a **** afterwards, which it does. But then he kept saying to me how he respects me which kind of turned me on again and we did it a second time.
After that I said to him I would never do that again and he told me he would never ask. Since then it's hard to know what to say to him with what happened at the back on my head.
I would block him, but am not sure if it's a good way of dealing with it.Gay guy relationship advice- I met this guy on msn, but should I block him?
Get off your computer, hit some bars and meet some real guys.Gay guy relationship advice- I met this guy on msn, but should I block him?
yes block him, sounds like a weirdo to me, why would you want to be friends with him, hes not much of an online friend just a perv! Maybe secretly you enjoy cam sex, if you keep doing it? Just hope he hasnt recorded it and is posting it around!
first off, never, ever let someone talk you into doing something you dont want to do or is against your personal values. Anyone that wont take NO for an answer is not worth your time. Block him and move on.
omg..how can cam sex turn you on ?
urghh Lulzz
Well talk to him about how you feel or Whateverr =/
don't block him.. thats just cruel ^^
I wouldn't block him. Give him a chance to NOT ask you for it. But if he does ask again, absolutely DON'T do it, and block him then!!
Dont have any more contact with this guy. He hasn't done anything wrong but the whole scenario is making you feel uncomfortable.
this guy maybe sick minded you can`t always trust people you chat and meet on the net he could be anybody
block him
Go meet some people in person... there are many good gay bars...
Hahaha....thanks, you've made my morning!! What goes on behind closed doors eh!! lol
What you've done is past and over and if you are positive you won't again then pickit up from there. It isn't his fault that you did it even though he asked, you could and should of said no and left it at that.
Now you want to blame someone else for what you did. Face up to it and if needed talk it over with him. Chances are you will never meet this guy anyway so he isn't your buddy or lover so no harm no foul.
Exploring our sexuality is all a part of the growing process and what you did may have made you feel like a **** and now you want to put it behind you but the only way for that is to talk it over with him and face up to it.
Put the cam away and when you do go out and meet real guys don't drop your pants for the first one who asks.
Well at least you realise your mistake, but don't think that all others are like him in this way. By all means you should block him and have no further contact with him, but tell him directly that you wish nothing else to do with him and that you do intend to block him. In a certain aspect you have been used, I for one would not trust his word because you will more than likely want you to do cam sex and who is to say that he is not taping it,for use in some other devious way, so be safe and block him and have nothing more to do with him.
You met this guy on MSN and chances are, you never gave him any personal details (other than your email address). Hence, you don't really need to worry.
From what you say, this guy is just a cyber-guy - who operates solely from the realms of his computer. He's one of those people who likes to build your hopes up and then suddenly disappear without a trace. He isn't the only one who does this - scour Gaydar and you'll come across hundreds. To them, you're just an evenings entertainment - next day, they're on to someone else.
Someone else mentioned here about this guy recording the material and posting it somewhere. This is very unlikely - chances are, he's creating more material with new people. Deep down, this guy has psychological issues.
Whether you block him or not is irrelevant - he's probably never going to contact you again anyway. If it makes you feel better then by all means block him. Otherwise, just learn from it.
I can relate to that. Been there, done that.
What's happened is becoming a real problem, because we're not going out any more and meeting real people. People are spending far too much time on the internet in their free time instead of getting out and about.
If you have nothing to say to this person, then accept it and move on. If he was ';the one';, you'd find that you had loads to talk about.
I suspect that this guy is just another sad individual who has nothing better to fill his day than watch other men get off. You could be one of many.
Unplug your web cam, switch off your computer and go for a walk in the park. Or if you insist on using the internet for socialising, chat to local guys and go meet them for a beer.
most of us guys are W#ores and we like it that way. we dont have the sensitivities that women have around sexual exploitation.
Yes we are told that we ';SHOULD'; feel badly and that might cuase us a bit of guilt, but in the end it really isn't so much a social stigma that haunts us, as it is a sexual taboo that arouses us.
If you like a guy its ok to let him know. if you like to show him your body because it makes you hard, then do it. guilt is a slightly unpleasant feeling but regret is a lot worse.
losing someone on the basis of an act that neither of you really considers sacred is just a bit silly.
give him what he wants but attach it to something YOU WANT.
its easy to fall into the trap especially when your horny and want company, but mybe he's playing on that and too be honest there cant be a future for you really if thats how he meets guys you'd be forever jelous, hes a player if he has date lined up, but he'll be the lonley one in the end, you wait and find things out for yourself you learn by your mistakes, and become a better person for it, you sound like a nice guy you'll find someone in time, i would just stop chatting to him and he will get bored very quickly and move on to his next guy.
only do what you want to do for you and nobody else.
What made him seem like a nice guy from the start was the fact that he said he wasn't into cam sex. But on the second night we spoke he kept asking for cam sex and being the horny fool that I used to be, I gave what he wanted.
During our next conversation I said I wouldn't do it again because it makes me feel like a **** afterwards, which it does. But then he kept saying to me how he respects me which kind of turned me on again and we did it a second time.
After that I said to him I would never do that again and he told me he would never ask. Since then it's hard to know what to say to him with what happened at the back on my head.
I would block him, but am not sure if it's a good way of dealing with it.Gay guy relationship advice- I met this guy on msn, but should I block him?
Get off your computer, hit some bars and meet some real guys.Gay guy relationship advice- I met this guy on msn, but should I block him?
yes block him, sounds like a weirdo to me, why would you want to be friends with him, hes not much of an online friend just a perv! Maybe secretly you enjoy cam sex, if you keep doing it? Just hope he hasnt recorded it and is posting it around!
first off, never, ever let someone talk you into doing something you dont want to do or is against your personal values. Anyone that wont take NO for an answer is not worth your time. Block him and move on.
omg..how can cam sex turn you on ?
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Well talk to him about how you feel or Whateverr =/
don't block him.. thats just cruel ^^
I wouldn't block him. Give him a chance to NOT ask you for it. But if he does ask again, absolutely DON'T do it, and block him then!!
Dont have any more contact with this guy. He hasn't done anything wrong but the whole scenario is making you feel uncomfortable.
this guy maybe sick minded you can`t always trust people you chat and meet on the net he could be anybody
block him
Go meet some people in person... there are many good gay bars...
Hahaha....thanks, you've made my morning!! What goes on behind closed doors eh!! lol
What you've done is past and over and if you are positive you won't again then pickit up from there. It isn't his fault that you did it even though he asked, you could and should of said no and left it at that.
Now you want to blame someone else for what you did. Face up to it and if needed talk it over with him. Chances are you will never meet this guy anyway so he isn't your buddy or lover so no harm no foul.
Exploring our sexuality is all a part of the growing process and what you did may have made you feel like a **** and now you want to put it behind you but the only way for that is to talk it over with him and face up to it.
Put the cam away and when you do go out and meet real guys don't drop your pants for the first one who asks.
Well at least you realise your mistake, but don't think that all others are like him in this way. By all means you should block him and have no further contact with him, but tell him directly that you wish nothing else to do with him and that you do intend to block him. In a certain aspect you have been used, I for one would not trust his word because you will more than likely want you to do cam sex and who is to say that he is not taping it,for use in some other devious way, so be safe and block him and have nothing more to do with him.
You met this guy on MSN and chances are, you never gave him any personal details (other than your email address). Hence, you don't really need to worry.
From what you say, this guy is just a cyber-guy - who operates solely from the realms of his computer. He's one of those people who likes to build your hopes up and then suddenly disappear without a trace. He isn't the only one who does this - scour Gaydar and you'll come across hundreds. To them, you're just an evenings entertainment - next day, they're on to someone else.
Someone else mentioned here about this guy recording the material and posting it somewhere. This is very unlikely - chances are, he's creating more material with new people. Deep down, this guy has psychological issues.
Whether you block him or not is irrelevant - he's probably never going to contact you again anyway. If it makes you feel better then by all means block him. Otherwise, just learn from it.
I can relate to that. Been there, done that.
What's happened is becoming a real problem, because we're not going out any more and meeting real people. People are spending far too much time on the internet in their free time instead of getting out and about.
If you have nothing to say to this person, then accept it and move on. If he was ';the one';, you'd find that you had loads to talk about.
I suspect that this guy is just another sad individual who has nothing better to fill his day than watch other men get off. You could be one of many.
Unplug your web cam, switch off your computer and go for a walk in the park. Or if you insist on using the internet for socialising, chat to local guys and go meet them for a beer.
most of us guys are W#ores and we like it that way. we dont have the sensitivities that women have around sexual exploitation.
Yes we are told that we ';SHOULD'; feel badly and that might cuase us a bit of guilt, but in the end it really isn't so much a social stigma that haunts us, as it is a sexual taboo that arouses us.
If you like a guy its ok to let him know. if you like to show him your body because it makes you hard, then do it. guilt is a slightly unpleasant feeling but regret is a lot worse.
losing someone on the basis of an act that neither of you really considers sacred is just a bit silly.
give him what he wants but attach it to something YOU WANT.
its easy to fall into the trap especially when your horny and want company, but mybe he's playing on that and too be honest there cant be a future for you really if thats how he meets guys you'd be forever jelous, hes a player if he has date lined up, but he'll be the lonley one in the end, you wait and find things out for yourself you learn by your mistakes, and become a better person for it, you sound like a nice guy you'll find someone in time, i would just stop chatting to him and he will get bored very quickly and move on to his next guy.
only do what you want to do for you and nobody else.
Just sum relationship advice?
i have decided to ask on here as i keep getin crap advice from anyone i ask..
im 21 years old and currently in a relationship with my partner who i have been with for only 6 months. before this i was in a 4 years relationship with an aggresive man that didnt treat me very well.. hes now in prison (nice)
the problem is i love my boyriend very much. but latley i have been getting so jelous and becoming extremly moody towards him.. i can tell its starting to annoy him..
i get jelous over him seeing his friends ( he has quite a few female friends and im finding this hard to get used to) i get annoyed when he doesnt come and see me. basicaly lack of trust for no reason what so ever.. ive tried and tried to trust him . in order to make the relationship work and i cant seem to.. its horrible i cant see no light at the end of the tunnel and i dont want to loose him because were realy good together.. what can i do ????? plzzz helpJust sum relationship advice?
if you are good together, then i don't see why you are getting jealous. you need to realize that the man you are with now is not the same man that you were dating for 4 years. they are different people. just because one person treated you badly doesn't mean this man will. it's going to be hard for you to trust someone after being in a bad relationship, but you must realize that everyone is different.
im 21 years old and currently in a relationship with my partner who i have been with for only 6 months. before this i was in a 4 years relationship with an aggresive man that didnt treat me very well.. hes now in prison (nice)
the problem is i love my boyriend very much. but latley i have been getting so jelous and becoming extremly moody towards him.. i can tell its starting to annoy him..
i get jelous over him seeing his friends ( he has quite a few female friends and im finding this hard to get used to) i get annoyed when he doesnt come and see me. basicaly lack of trust for no reason what so ever.. ive tried and tried to trust him . in order to make the relationship work and i cant seem to.. its horrible i cant see no light at the end of the tunnel and i dont want to loose him because were realy good together.. what can i do ????? plzzz helpJust sum relationship advice?
if you are good together, then i don't see why you are getting jealous. you need to realize that the man you are with now is not the same man that you were dating for 4 years. they are different people. just because one person treated you badly doesn't mean this man will. it's going to be hard for you to trust someone after being in a bad relationship, but you must realize that everyone is different.
Need relationship advice!! When is it time to end it?
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Should I just tell him that I am not happy and need a break and that he should move and do whats best for him and get his stuff straight. I hope we can stay friends bc we have been friends for 6 years and dated for 3. And perhaps in 6 months to a year, get together and see how each other's life is going?Need relationship advice!! When is it time to end it?
I think..... you just need to listen to your own advice......
take a break..... tell him you need some space to think things over........
then after a couple months... get back together and see where you are.Need relationship advice!! When is it time to end it?
Communication Trust Honesty and Respect are the keys to a good healthy relationship.
You need to sit him down and explain how you're feeling..that you're not happy anymore and would like to seperate...tell him you'd like for him to move out so you can focus on getting your life to where you want it...you can't make a promise of in 6months to a year, see where your lives are at.....Just let him know you're not happy..and don't want to lose his friendship but it can't be anything more for you. Best Wishes*
just dump them cuz if its not mutual love then theres no point
Need more information! If you are not happy then talk to him about why you are not happy and if he feels the same! If you make the break then make it clean ... don't say for 6 months ect! Get on with your life and find someone who does make you happy!
best time is now. Just tell him that you're not happy, don't promise to see each other after such and such time, if he's really hurt by it, he'll expect ot see you again.....
You need to be upfront with him. It is going to be easier to leave him now then leave after you are married and have kids and bills with you. Better to find out now than later. It would benifit the both of you. If you don't love him like he loves you, let him find someone who could. He deserves that and so do you.
Sweetheart it is time when you are no longer happy we just live one time LIVE LIFE TO ITS FULLIST! LOL!
just tell him
If I were you, I would just break it off for a while. Just end it with the understanding that you MIGHT consider getting back together in about 6 mos. if you are at the same place in life. Who knows, you may meet someone else and be engaged in that time. But don't feel bad...he totally missed his opportunity. If you were married, I would say work it out, but you're not, and there's no reason to be unhappy and trapped in a relationship when you haven't even committed to him yet. Definitely...move on with your life, and if you decide you can live without him, call him up in a few months. I would give it a year myself.
Should I just tell him that I am not happy and need a break and that he should move and do whats best for him and get his stuff straight. I hope we can stay friends bc we have been friends for 6 years and dated for 3. And perhaps in 6 months to a year, get together and see how each other's life is going?Need relationship advice!! When is it time to end it?
I think..... you just need to listen to your own advice......
take a break..... tell him you need some space to think things over........
then after a couple months... get back together and see where you are.Need relationship advice!! When is it time to end it?
Communication Trust Honesty and Respect are the keys to a good healthy relationship.
You need to sit him down and explain how you're feeling..that you're not happy anymore and would like to seperate...tell him you'd like for him to move out so you can focus on getting your life to where you want it...you can't make a promise of in 6months to a year, see where your lives are at.....Just let him know you're not happy..and don't want to lose his friendship but it can't be anything more for you. Best Wishes*
just dump them cuz if its not mutual love then theres no point
Need more information! If you are not happy then talk to him about why you are not happy and if he feels the same! If you make the break then make it clean ... don't say for 6 months ect! Get on with your life and find someone who does make you happy!
best time is now. Just tell him that you're not happy, don't promise to see each other after such and such time, if he's really hurt by it, he'll expect ot see you again.....
You need to be upfront with him. It is going to be easier to leave him now then leave after you are married and have kids and bills with you. Better to find out now than later. It would benifit the both of you. If you don't love him like he loves you, let him find someone who could. He deserves that and so do you.
Sweetheart it is time when you are no longer happy we just live one time LIVE LIFE TO ITS FULLIST! LOL!
just tell him
If I were you, I would just break it off for a while. Just end it with the understanding that you MIGHT consider getting back together in about 6 mos. if you are at the same place in life. Who knows, you may meet someone else and be engaged in that time. But don't feel bad...he totally missed his opportunity. If you were married, I would say work it out, but you're not, and there's no reason to be unhappy and trapped in a relationship when you haven't even committed to him yet. Definitely...move on with your life, and if you decide you can live without him, call him up in a few months. I would give it a year myself.
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I have been with this guy for 7 months first love first partner we moved in together 2 months ago we have been having serious problems and i broke up with him 2 weeks ago but were still talking and kind of trying to work it out i just dont know if its worth it ive tried leaving him but its hard because i care about him so much but hes not the guy i fell for he has anger problems hes admitted he says things such as fat bi%%26amp;$ and c*nt just because he knows they hurt me and hes insanely insecure i am not allowed to hang out with single guys and he goes thru my cell phone every time i come home and he manipulates me like he will threaten to take my dog and never let me see it again if i move out and whatnot he just has crazy anger outbursts over something thats an accident or i didnt even do then ill cry and hell apologize etc. he said he wants to get help and hes set up an apt to check for bipolar but im not happy when i do leave him i miss him and when we are getting along i can see it lasting forever but his moodswings take over everything and we never do anything fun he saves that for his friends and i have to ask him so many times to do anything he makes me feel guilty like i owe him to stay with him and whatnot. im just at a loss. i kno i care about him and i want to be there for him and hes forced himself to be the center of my life for so long not being by him is hard. is it worth it? should i stick it out? what do i do? and if i did leave him i wouldnt be able to date anyone soon it would just kill him. And hes always making plans with me then changing them for our drinking buddies. he lets them trash the place all the time cuz he wants them to like him and he blows a lot of money on everyones liquor and then he gets all cocky. the other nite i went to sleep while they were still awake i was just in the other room taking out my contacts and i hear him saying how i called him up begging to *** to this party and he didnt kno how to turn me down (when he told me i had to come) and how he only goes thru my phone to check my minute usage (bulllll he goes thru my txts and contacts) and how he doesnt wanna live with a gf he wants one he sees 3 or 4 times a week (which is what ive asked if we could just do a hundred times instead of living together ) and that he doesnt even like me anymore but he doesnt kno anyone else to date yet and he doesnt like to be alone then i walk out so he knows i heard him and he starts chasing me apologizing for being drunk cocky and crying and blah. i havent talked to him since then that was like 2 days ago.
Bad relationship -- advice?
Oh honey my heart goes out to you, I was in the same situation. Its HARD work for a man to change and there's nothing you can do to fix his problems. Believe me when i tell you that the change has to come from him. He doesnt sound like he's ready to do that either. I wasted years of my life waiting on promises and hoping that he would change bc i really loved him. Looking back, Id've walked out a long time ago. You will miss him until someone else comes in your life that can show you what its like to not be disrespected, living in fear of the bottle, and made 2nd place to user friends. But its worth the walk, and you'll never meet that person until you leave this relationship and learn from it. If you and this jerk are meant to be, then he will work on himself for however long it takes to get straightened out and he will come back to you on his own. But you gotta get out. and stay out.Bad relationship -- advice?
well what i would do is try talking to him. tell him that you want him getting help and you want him to really try there, and if he doesnt then you dont want him. tell him if he really loves you then he or you is going to move out untill everything is settled . let him know before he trys to get help that if he doesnt get the help he needs , then your leaving him simple as that. if he doesnt get help then leave him , cuss girl what do you need a man for when you got a hand .
Bad relationship -- advice?
Oh honey my heart goes out to you, I was in the same situation. Its HARD work for a man to change and there's nothing you can do to fix his problems. Believe me when i tell you that the change has to come from him. He doesnt sound like he's ready to do that either. I wasted years of my life waiting on promises and hoping that he would change bc i really loved him. Looking back, Id've walked out a long time ago. You will miss him until someone else comes in your life that can show you what its like to not be disrespected, living in fear of the bottle, and made 2nd place to user friends. But its worth the walk, and you'll never meet that person until you leave this relationship and learn from it. If you and this jerk are meant to be, then he will work on himself for however long it takes to get straightened out and he will come back to you on his own. But you gotta get out. and stay out.Bad relationship -- advice?
well what i would do is try talking to him. tell him that you want him getting help and you want him to really try there, and if he doesnt then you dont want him. tell him if he really loves you then he or you is going to move out untill everything is settled . let him know before he trys to get help that if he doesnt get the help he needs , then your leaving him simple as that. if he doesnt get help then leave him , cuss girl what do you need a man for when you got a hand .
NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?
facts.
-dated my girlfriend (first real one) for 4 months
-broke up with her
-was unhappy, stressed and worried because i didnt want to lose her.
-we agreed to just be friends.
-weve hardly talked since the breakup (about 2 days)
-its really hard because i want to be friends with her but when she ignores me and stuff it hurts.
-today i told her i wanted to go back out because ive been in so much pain over it all
-she feels the same way (about the pain) but she needs time to think.
-i think we both need a break but im afraid ill lose her if we dont get back together.
-im fine with just being friends.
Now im having issues because..
-this girl thats a really good friend of mine kinda likes me.
-i kinda like her too.
-we both just kinda got out of relationships so we wont get together right away.
-im seeing her tomorrow at our football game. and saturday for the pumpkin patch. (with other people.. including possibly my ex)
So now that thats been said. im having trouble whether to stick with trying to get back together with my ex.. or flirt with my friend and see where things go from there. This way my and ex and i get a bit of a break from each other.. and since i told her i want to get back together i have to wait till she starts saying something about that happening before we can..right? NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?
You said she feels the same way about the pain but needs time to think? That couldn't be possible. If she felt the same way about the pain, she would be asking you to get back together just as you have asked her. I'm not saying that she is not hurting. When we date someone, we form a bond, a friendship and a sincere feeling of caring for that person. When that person is no longer in our life, it hurts. But it doesn't always mean it hurts the way it would if you REALLY wanted to be with that person in an intimate relationship.
Personally, I think you should ask her to meet you somewhere to talk. Let her know it's serious and not an attempt to beg her back. When you get alone to talk to her be completely honest! Tell her how you feel about her, but that you understand she may not have the same feelings for you, but if she did to please let you know. Tell her that there is a possibility that you may take someone on a date and that you wanted to show her the respect of letting her know before she just shows up and finds out for herself.
The conversation will go from there. Any mature girl would appreciate your honesty. Plus after the conversation you should really know where the relationship stands and if you do go out with someone else and run in to your ex, it will not be as awkward as it would be had you not forewarned her.NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?
well do u just wana get with someone because u dont wana be single
and if u still like ur x y would u go out with another girl or flirt id just go with who u like the most and to see who u like the most write a list of good things and bad things and see wat one u like more and were not objects or a game so take this seriouse and yeah u have to wait for ur xs opinon
I would flirt with your friend you have now not your ex.
But it depends on who you like more. If you like your ex more and you try dating your friend it probally wont work because you'll still be sad, and feel guilty and always think about the EX. but if it will help get over your ex then fine.
when your ex said she might need some time, either you can wait on her or go on your own path. .
if you like your friend alot more give it a chance and it may work like a charm.
:)
i think the reason you hurt with out your ex is because you got your first actual gf and you got clingy. i know how you feel thats how i was for my first ex and then i noticed the only reason i was so sad is because it was my first heartbreak and i had gotten really clingy.
Anyways, I hope I helped somehow.
I'll star this so maybe you have a more likely chance of getting more answers.
Goodluck:)
-dated my girlfriend (first real one) for 4 months
-broke up with her
-was unhappy, stressed and worried because i didnt want to lose her.
-we agreed to just be friends.
-weve hardly talked since the breakup (about 2 days)
-its really hard because i want to be friends with her but when she ignores me and stuff it hurts.
-today i told her i wanted to go back out because ive been in so much pain over it all
-she feels the same way (about the pain) but she needs time to think.
-i think we both need a break but im afraid ill lose her if we dont get back together.
-im fine with just being friends.
Now im having issues because..
-this girl thats a really good friend of mine kinda likes me.
-i kinda like her too.
-we both just kinda got out of relationships so we wont get together right away.
-im seeing her tomorrow at our football game. and saturday for the pumpkin patch. (with other people.. including possibly my ex)
So now that thats been said. im having trouble whether to stick with trying to get back together with my ex.. or flirt with my friend and see where things go from there. This way my and ex and i get a bit of a break from each other.. and since i told her i want to get back together i have to wait till she starts saying something about that happening before we can..right? NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?
You said she feels the same way about the pain but needs time to think? That couldn't be possible. If she felt the same way about the pain, she would be asking you to get back together just as you have asked her. I'm not saying that she is not hurting. When we date someone, we form a bond, a friendship and a sincere feeling of caring for that person. When that person is no longer in our life, it hurts. But it doesn't always mean it hurts the way it would if you REALLY wanted to be with that person in an intimate relationship.
Personally, I think you should ask her to meet you somewhere to talk. Let her know it's serious and not an attempt to beg her back. When you get alone to talk to her be completely honest! Tell her how you feel about her, but that you understand she may not have the same feelings for you, but if she did to please let you know. Tell her that there is a possibility that you may take someone on a date and that you wanted to show her the respect of letting her know before she just shows up and finds out for herself.
The conversation will go from there. Any mature girl would appreciate your honesty. Plus after the conversation you should really know where the relationship stands and if you do go out with someone else and run in to your ex, it will not be as awkward as it would be had you not forewarned her.NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE HELP!!!?
well do u just wana get with someone because u dont wana be single
and if u still like ur x y would u go out with another girl or flirt id just go with who u like the most and to see who u like the most write a list of good things and bad things and see wat one u like more and were not objects or a game so take this seriouse and yeah u have to wait for ur xs opinon
I would flirt with your friend you have now not your ex.
But it depends on who you like more. If you like your ex more and you try dating your friend it probally wont work because you'll still be sad, and feel guilty and always think about the EX. but if it will help get over your ex then fine.
when your ex said she might need some time, either you can wait on her or go on your own path. .
if you like your friend alot more give it a chance and it may work like a charm.
:)
i think the reason you hurt with out your ex is because you got your first actual gf and you got clingy. i know how you feel thats how i was for my first ex and then i noticed the only reason i was so sad is because it was my first heartbreak and i had gotten really clingy.
Anyways, I hope I helped somehow.
I'll star this so maybe you have a more likely chance of getting more answers.
Goodluck:)
Need Relationship advice BAD!!!?
Hi everyone. I am so overwhelmed right now I don't know where else to turn. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about ten months now and are having some problems. Obviously, every relationship has difficulties but it seems like this one lately has had many. According to my gf, I don't treat her like she is my gf; she says I treat her more like a friend. Personally, I think I am doing a great job; I just driver her to her grandparents house which is 4 1/2 hours away, I send her flowers, I take her to dinner on a regular basis, I am always hugging her and kissing her, and telling her how much I love her. For example, on our 4 1/2 hour car ride home last night, we had amazing conversation, we were as close as possible, she was kissing my neck and and she didn't stop smiling the entire car ride. This morning, I somehow made her feel ';inadequate and not like [my] girlfriend';. It was a complete turn around from yesterday and I just don't know what to do. There was talk of break-up this morning and I just don't know what to do. I love this girl with al of my heart and I want to make her feel so special, but I don't know if I have the ability to do so. Any advice will help. Thank you so much.Need Relationship advice BAD!!!?
Try work it out asap but if it dunt work out at least your free to just whore it about a bit :)Need Relationship advice BAD!!!?
Wow! You treat your girl like more of a girlfriend than my boyfriend treats me. But I would imagine part of that is because we live together..
Not the point though.. Maybe you should just point out all the special things you do for her. And remind her that girlfriend includes the word ';friend';. That's a huge part of a relationship. And when she feels like you don't treat her good enough or the way she wants to be treated, ask her what you can do to fix it. Explain to her that you don't want her to feel insecure in your relationship and you will do whatever it takes.
To be honest sound like boyfriend to me. Maybe should ask is it anything she would like for her to do to make her feel more like she's the love of your life. Or maybe try making her dinner and afterwards ya'll can share some dessert(strawberries and chocolate) and then rub each other down with oil that with me a start cause just me you wouldn't do those thing with a friend
i have been there, i mean i am a girl and i have thought that a guy doesnt love me and only likes me as a friend. say to her '; i love you with all my heart, i am doing the best i can to be a good boyfriend, but if you cant accept my work can you please tell me what i need to do because i love you and i dont want to end things with you .
You guys seem fine to me,you seem to treat her very well and with respect.Maybe she is hormonal or something.There are always times when couples argue it wouldn't be healthy if you didn't.I think you are reading too much into it,take each day as a new day.You will be fine at least your heart is in the right place.
well, sounds like its not YOU thats not giving her enough attantion, it sounds like EVERYONE else doesnt treat her like she wants them to, but u catch the slack...if that makes since
anyway talk to her about how everyone is treating her and try to work it from there, i REALLY hope i helped
sounds like something is up with your girl... talk to her about it ask if there is anything you can do to make things better although it sounds to me like your doing alot... I wish my man treated me half as good as you treat your girl I would never feel bad... good luck hope it works out in your favor
So U dont wanna loose her,,
OK, get her to sit with U and speak, and ask her what exactly annoys her in Ur relationship, and what she wants
Tell her that U R ready to do whatever U can to make things better for her, coz ';U love her with all Ur heart';
I Wished My Boyfriend Was Like You!
You Know In A Relationship it cant Be Nice Flowers%26amp;Beautiful Words All The Time,, She Has To Accept That! And Your Doing A Great Job %26amp; If She Doesnt Appreciate That Let Her Go...Eventually She Will Come Back To You. x
Gd Luck
You need to ask her what she wants but it sounds like she doesn't know what a boyfriend actually is.
Ask her and see but if you can't get any decent answers that will help you build a stronger relationship I'd say throw in the towel.
You guys need to have a deep discussion and let her know how you feel and maybe she can explain to you what it is she needing.
sounds like the problem's with her, not you. make yourself available to listen, but there may not be anything you can do.
i dont know?????????
Wow. Sounds like the two of you have completely different views on what is going on. Listen, you need to TALK TO HER. You need to find out what you are not doing that she wants you to do. Most likely she doesn't feel like you treat her like your girlfriend IN FRONT OF OTHER PPL, which is huge. If that is it, take her to a very public place and lay on the PDA. Plus, that could be super sexy for you guys and that might be exactly what you need to keep the flame going! Spice it up and sweep her off of her feet again. Remind her why she loves you! Girls need that!
ok, whatever you do...do not remind her of all the stuff you HAVE done for her. That is basically telling her that she is wrong for how she feels; and nothing drives a woman away faster than telling her that her feelings are wrong.
Let her cool down. Then tell her that you love her, and you're upset to hear that she doesn't feel like you show it enough. Ask her what you could do to make her feel special?
She might just be PMSing and she might just be looking for attention.
But above and beyond anything else, be nice
Ask her to be more specific. She needs to be able to give you examples of what you're doing wrong, or else you won't be able to fix it. Apologize for making her feel like that (even if you don't quite know what you're apologizing for) and tell her that you want to fix it because she means so much to you. Then figure out what's bothering her -- and really listen. Yes, you sound like a great boyfriend, but obviously something isn't right. Maybe you hug and kiss her all the time when you're alone, but what do you do when you're with friends? That's just an example, so be sure to hear what she says when she tells you. Good luck!
Try work it out asap but if it dunt work out at least your free to just whore it about a bit :)Need Relationship advice BAD!!!?
Wow! You treat your girl like more of a girlfriend than my boyfriend treats me. But I would imagine part of that is because we live together..
Not the point though.. Maybe you should just point out all the special things you do for her. And remind her that girlfriend includes the word ';friend';. That's a huge part of a relationship. And when she feels like you don't treat her good enough or the way she wants to be treated, ask her what you can do to fix it. Explain to her that you don't want her to feel insecure in your relationship and you will do whatever it takes.
To be honest sound like boyfriend to me. Maybe should ask is it anything she would like for her to do to make her feel more like she's the love of your life. Or maybe try making her dinner and afterwards ya'll can share some dessert(strawberries and chocolate) and then rub each other down with oil that with me a start cause just me you wouldn't do those thing with a friend
i have been there, i mean i am a girl and i have thought that a guy doesnt love me and only likes me as a friend. say to her '; i love you with all my heart, i am doing the best i can to be a good boyfriend, but if you cant accept my work can you please tell me what i need to do because i love you and i dont want to end things with you .
You guys seem fine to me,you seem to treat her very well and with respect.Maybe she is hormonal or something.There are always times when couples argue it wouldn't be healthy if you didn't.I think you are reading too much into it,take each day as a new day.You will be fine at least your heart is in the right place.
well, sounds like its not YOU thats not giving her enough attantion, it sounds like EVERYONE else doesnt treat her like she wants them to, but u catch the slack...if that makes since
anyway talk to her about how everyone is treating her and try to work it from there, i REALLY hope i helped
sounds like something is up with your girl... talk to her about it ask if there is anything you can do to make things better although it sounds to me like your doing alot... I wish my man treated me half as good as you treat your girl I would never feel bad... good luck hope it works out in your favor
So U dont wanna loose her,,
OK, get her to sit with U and speak, and ask her what exactly annoys her in Ur relationship, and what she wants
Tell her that U R ready to do whatever U can to make things better for her, coz ';U love her with all Ur heart';
I Wished My Boyfriend Was Like You!
You Know In A Relationship it cant Be Nice Flowers%26amp;Beautiful Words All The Time,, She Has To Accept That! And Your Doing A Great Job %26amp; If She Doesnt Appreciate That Let Her Go...Eventually She Will Come Back To You. x
Gd Luck
You need to ask her what she wants but it sounds like she doesn't know what a boyfriend actually is.
Ask her and see but if you can't get any decent answers that will help you build a stronger relationship I'd say throw in the towel.
You guys need to have a deep discussion and let her know how you feel and maybe she can explain to you what it is she needing.
sounds like the problem's with her, not you. make yourself available to listen, but there may not be anything you can do.
i dont know?????????
Wow. Sounds like the two of you have completely different views on what is going on. Listen, you need to TALK TO HER. You need to find out what you are not doing that she wants you to do. Most likely she doesn't feel like you treat her like your girlfriend IN FRONT OF OTHER PPL, which is huge. If that is it, take her to a very public place and lay on the PDA. Plus, that could be super sexy for you guys and that might be exactly what you need to keep the flame going! Spice it up and sweep her off of her feet again. Remind her why she loves you! Girls need that!
ok, whatever you do...do not remind her of all the stuff you HAVE done for her. That is basically telling her that she is wrong for how she feels; and nothing drives a woman away faster than telling her that her feelings are wrong.
Let her cool down. Then tell her that you love her, and you're upset to hear that she doesn't feel like you show it enough. Ask her what you could do to make her feel special?
She might just be PMSing and she might just be looking for attention.
But above and beyond anything else, be nice
Ask her to be more specific. She needs to be able to give you examples of what you're doing wrong, or else you won't be able to fix it. Apologize for making her feel like that (even if you don't quite know what you're apologizing for) and tell her that you want to fix it because she means so much to you. Then figure out what's bothering her -- and really listen. Yes, you sound like a great boyfriend, but obviously something isn't right. Maybe you hug and kiss her all the time when you're alone, but what do you do when you're with friends? That's just an example, so be sure to hear what she says when she tells you. Good luck!
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