I need relationship advice....fast?

Heres the story... I am 18 and have a girlfriend who is a year younger than me. We get along very little. God knows I love her, but all she does literally all the time is go hangout with her stoner friends, get high and drunk at the park. That was me a couple years ago, I got into a lot of trouble two years ago. I got a felony charge, and from then on decided to turn my life around. I admit sometimes I still drink a little bit with my close friends, but i have made drastic changes to my life. I try to do what she wants to do as often as i can, but literally that's all she wants to do. We are constantly fighting about it, and I just need some help on what to do. I admit i was an addict, and I just cannot be around that stuff cause i feel that I will slip back into old habits. I have made everything right again in my life, but this is constantly giving me trouble. I just need some major help, and fast.I need relationship advice....fast?
Well, I'm sorry to say, but unless she is willing to turn her life around, I don't think your relationship will go anywhere serious. First of all, if you ever plan to have a family, I mean go beyond just gf and bf, then if you have kids, that will be a horrible example to them. Kids need strong parents with standards who don't just spend their time as low-life party-nuts.





I know it may seem hard, but if she isn't willing to try and change her life and join you, her man, then you should just leave it as friendship with her until she decides to change. I think life will show her soon or a later that you can't spend it in parties, alcohol and fun. Anyway, you decided to turn your life around, that's the best thing you can do for yourself. You saved yourself from a LOT of misery and pain. Try to help her too, but if she refuses, I'd say leave her to her own life. Things won't go very far otherwise, she may just end up sucking you back into that mess.


I know it's hard to imagine when you're in love with someone else, but perhaps you will find another, one who is more serious about life and willing to work with you and not waste her life in vanity.


One way or another, I don't think staying with her is a reasonable option, unless she agrees to turn her life around as well...





Best of wishes to you, and don't give up on your decision to live a better life :)I need relationship advice....fast?
i think the only thing to do is leave her, she must not care enough if she try's to get you to resort back to your old habits. instead she should be encouraging you to stick to your good behavior. I'm assuming you've already talked to her about changing her ways and if she refuses than you can only let her go and hope she will find that her future won't be a party with the up coming responsibility's.


People can only change if they WANT to, she has to realize herself,
You guys are at different places in your individual lives. You've seen consequences she hasn't, and you're ready to move on from things she is just discovering. This relationship is doomed. Best move on. If you still feel strongly about her, try again at a later time.
Dump her then. If she is not the kind of person that you like because of the drugs and drinking then that's not good. You guys will continue ot have problems. Just let her know when you break up with her why you are breaking up. Then if she really wants you back she'll make an effort to stop to be with you. Otherwise it's time ot move on.
sounds like your growing up and realized your mistakes. She hasnt. I feel it's time for you to let go of her. Are you insecure? You have to think more highly of yourself, and feel proud you overcame your problems. There are more fish in the sea than you realize. Stand up for yourself and to her %26amp; move on. Your only 18! you have alot of girls to meet in your life. Good Luck!
people change. there's nothing wrong with her lifestyle or yours, they just don't really go along together. take a 'break' so you can both recollect and evaluate what you actually want out of the realtionship.
Find a new girlfriend seriously, there's no easy way around unless she decides to be cooperative.
tell her me or the weed/alcohol. or get her drunk/high and get with her :)
this is an example of peer pressure although it might not seem like one. dont get pressured into turning your life back into that ****. youve done well changing yourself and if you love hee then sit her down and try to show her that all you are doing is trying to let her see how you have changed and how its really working out for you and how you know now you will get somewhere in life
Yo man, I see you want a better future for yourself...


Keep it up! but one thing for sure, is that you cannot change a person, you may for a while, but you just can't. Try to let her go, if you know she's not right for you. Seems like you need somebody else who is willing to be there for you, she seems like shes would rather be with her friends and not you. Its for the best, you don't want that in your life, there a lot of beautiful girls out there waiting for you, and you don't even kno it! Don't miss out, and best of luck!





PS don't let anybody hold you back from your dreams and what not
ok- then tell her your experience was bad %26amp; dont want her going through same thing... DOnt do bad things for someone- thats not a good influence... not sure if this is fixable..Unless shes willing to change... You did- she may not want to.





you should break it off- anyone that brings you down with them isnt a good relationship. Lots of girls in the world that dont do this!





Its all in the mind- if she wont gain good knowledge to chaned mind nothing you can do...just move on.. may be hard but this is best for you! its not selfish its just you have a plan for your life...People even the closest can hinder you from getting anywhere= like her- sorry