Girlfriend relationship advice?

REALLY need some help on this..i was with a girl for 3 years, things got bad towards the end and she would constantly play with my head and i lose trust for her and after about ten times of her breaking up with me, i finally returned the favor and got a new gf..im 22 and she was my first and only other gf..i broke up with her because i knew she wasnt right for me and we clashed and would inevitably never work..my new gf is the complete opposite, good morals, etc..my ex begged me to get back with her for about 3 months (to the point her parents threatened to put her in a mental hospital if she didnt back off), and now she hasnt called in about a month..by accident, i came across her myspace and see shes been hangin out with old friends of mine (friends i havent hung out with in over a year, but friends nonetheless) and her myspace status says shes ';being bad';..i figure this means drugs or slutting around, etc..even though i am the one who ended it, i still love her very much and miss her like crazy, but i know she would not be right for me in the long run, at all......I have two questions..1- is it normal for my heart to drop when i saw this haha and 2- what would you make of this situation and how should i handle it..just ignore it? i dont know..could use some advice..thanks boys and girls


brandonGirlfriend relationship advice?
It's normal for you to be worried over the latest discovery on your former girlfriend, it shows how deep you were in love with her. Should you ignore your suspicion that she is now into drugs and other stuff? My advice is that you shouldn't ignore it, for the sake of old time love and humanity. But the major challenge you could face here, and which is what Iam afraid of, is how you could handle this without rekindling her passion for you and thereby putting your smooth relationship with this other girl at risk. You need to skillfully persuade her away from drugs and nagative peer influence, without letting her feel that you are attempting to renew your love relationship with her. You could hide your online identity, get into her MySpace as a new friend and begin to work on her with the view of assisting her. You may also do well to seek counseling from a social worker or any professional in this regard.





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You were with this girl for 3 years, obviously you have a deep care for her and it is normal to be concerned about her, shows you are a genuine guy! If you are considering getting back together with her than you can approach your concerns for her...however if you are happy with your current girlfriend I would advise you to stay away from contacting your ex as she seemed a bit possessive.
okay .....it was right for your heart to drop because she' been your lover for three years and you cant get over her that fast ....you should try talkin to her and tell her that you still love her but you cant have anything to do with her until she change and until then you dont want her
It's just MySpace so forget about that.


Since you already know that your ex is not right for you, and you have a wonderful girlfriend, why not just forget about your ex?


You should be thankful that she doesn't bother you anymore.
Well yeah, It's normal for your heart to drop when you saw that, I feel the same way whenever I see my Ex I broke it off because he was into drugs, and drinking...And I knew he wasn't good for me....Honestly I think you should just ignore here, but if you feel like you must talk to her, then maybe you should just talk with here and see what's going on. But if she starts to beg for you back, stop talking to her....I hope I helped in some way.
1. yes!! that is soo completely normal! You were with her for three years so its only normal for you to still care about her and love her in a way thats not romantic and 2. i think that if you think she could use a friend like you than you should be that friend to her but if you think that involving yourself could possibly hurt her or make her just crazy for you again, even in the long run, then i would say to just stay away
three years is a significant amount of time. That is one reason why your are feeling this way. Sounds to me like this girl brought you a lot of grief into your life that is why you let her go. I feel it's totally normal for you to feel that way. Although you may be attracted to her physically. The other important things like moral, values, behavior, and conduct are extremely more important than looks. Just accept those feelings and see it for what it is. Feelings. Your feelings don't make who you are they are just that.. feelings. Stay focused on your present life and keep moving forward. You made a sound decision and now you need to stick with it. Sometimes when we make a change of behavior for the best it's challenging at time to stay with the idea. Good luck!
Sounds pretty complicated.


After my ex and I broke up after more than a year, 8 months later it still hurts when I hear things about him.


It's hard to let someone go when you truly love them,


but the relationship you were in was not healthy. You need someone to give you respect and cherish you, NOT take you for granted.


She's probably going threw a tough time and even though she wants you back immensely much, try staying with your new girlfriend.


She will love you the way love should be. If you are able to open up heart then try to give this a full chance,


but then again you might not be ready. Either get back with your ex and see what comes to it, stay with your current girlfriend and learn about what a relationship should be, or stay single and let your feet touch the ground.





Thats my two cents.
Relationships are hard and break-ups are even harder. especially when one of the two people still wants to be in the relationship. If u truly feel like this could not be a lasting thing then u have to find it inside yourself to stop thinking about it and move on. Her life is hers to live just the same as your life is yours to live. It is normal for a heart to feel like it drops if u still inside have any sort of feeling for her. 3 years is a decent amount of time, and being your first love that is normal. You don't really want to ignore it but overcome it... If u know that u don't want to be with her then u can't worry about what she is doing or where she is at, if u are worrying about that maybe u need to do some searching within yourself cause maybe u do still want to be with her. And to touch on the myspace thing. Even ';If'; just accidentally came across her profile. obviously u did some checking on it cause u seem to know things about what she is doing. whether u checked her comments or whatever. That tells me u still care. Best of luck to ya pal.