Hey Portions for foxes,
I have realised you can not try to impose for a situation to be a particular way. You have to first understand that in some form your boyfriend has opened up to you in exposing his depression phrase before you were with him and also he has made you aware that with your gifted ability you have transformed an element in his life.
Sometimes in relationship we want so much for things to be a certain way i.e. one to open up, one to do what lets say our friend's have gladed echoed to have shared with their other half etc etc. But we don't often take a minute to look at what we have and look at the things we have therefore accomplished with that person whom we are with.
It sounds like you need to give your relationship much more credit and need to understand that your relationship is not going to be the same like your past relationships, or how it is seen on the media or how your friend's relationships appear. In a relationship there is good and bad aspects, but it is our perception that determines the goodness and the fault of a relationship.
The most important thing you are going to have to realise is there is no perfect and we establish our perfect in being content and accepting what a situation is and a person for who they are %26amp; try to offer. You see when you have understanding, tolerance, patiences, awareness and actually take time to consume all the blessings you have in your current relationship, it does only make your relationship stronger but it makes that much positive.
Please by no means try not to over think of why your boyfriend is the way he is. You have understand men function quite differently to ladies. Many men perceive women like ';emotional walking hormones'; and with men our perception is there not too ';feely and rather appear quite cold';. But in no means does this conclude that their is no love, it just means people express differently and people do things at different paces whereas they are comfortable.
It seems you are very comfortable and perhaps are setting to much expectations of how you want your relationship to be. Just let go...enjoy your relationship to the best of your ability and make it that much more blissful. When you start looking for little aspects that you may not be somewhat satisfied about whereas it is him not able to full opening of yet, you may realise it could damage the process in which he wanted and felt close to telling you each and everything.
If indeed you are hoping for him to opening up, just know you are going to have to be patient, tolerant, and remember ';slow and steady wins the race';. He will eventually open up to you in his time, but note it may be in your time. Please do not force this upon him, but just be by his side and be there for him like you are currently if you still love him, or should say are in love with him.
I WISH YOU THE BEST AND PRAY THAT THINGS TO COME TO PASS IN YOUR WANT FOR HIM TO BE MORE OPEN. HAPPY FUTURE BLESSINGS TO BOTH OF YOU. ;-)Relationship advice...?
Most guys don't want to open up on an emotional level. We are supposed to be the ';rock'; in the relationship. Opening up like that is kind of like showing weakness. It's hard to explain. You have to think like a man to understand what I'm trying to throw out here. That was one of my exes biggest complaints about me. I never opened up to her the way she did with me. I'm not comfortable sharing the ';secrets of my soul'; like women are so to speak.
Regardless of you understanding this or not, if you are unhappy the logical course of action is to walk away. Him freaking out and being depressed will happen, and he will deal with it just like he did before you started dating. If you have exhausted everything in your power to express to him you are unhappy with no change on his part, then it's time to move on.
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