its kinda a crazy story but id really appreciate u taking the time to help.
so i started talking to this nice guy i worked with about a month ago. and we hit it off really well and started hanging out regularly. after making it official and seeing eachother mostly everyday, there was one week that just felt off. we spend most of our free time together, and one day he told me he was helping this guy he works out with train for a marathon. which seemed ok cuz ive met the guy and knew they really did do this. but the training could not of taken up his entire free time, and we didnt see eachother all week. but i asked him if everything was ok and he said just stressed. and the next week we went back to normal and i never thought anything of it.
soon after tho, when whed hang out it always seemed like he was trying to tell me something but couldnt get it out.
then i got a call from this girl, she wanted to know who i was and said that my bf had a child and she was the mother.
he's such a nice guy i thought it was a joke, i confronted him about and he confessed and said he wanted to tell me, but its a crazy situation and didnt want to get me involved. we worked through that and again i thought everything was ok until his girlfriend kept writing me texts trying to break us up. she found me and my info on my myspace.
well turns out the week he was acting distant she was visiting him, they live a few hours away, so he could see his daughter and she was staying with him.
well, he eventually admitted that while she was there they were drinking and slept together. but he said he didnt want to tell me because when it happend we werent that serious yet, but after i found out about his daughter and was ok with it, he wanted to really be with me and all that.
he appologized and seemed like he was really sorry and was crying and stuff. he said he didnt expect me to take him back but still wanted to be with me if i would.
ever since, weve been really close and able to talk about alot more stuff then we used to. he promised to never let anything happen like that again. and i assured him if he did i would leave him, and not ever look back.
hes a really sweet guy and his family keeps saying how happy they are hes dating me cuz his ex treats him so bad.
but its still kinda in the back of my mind if im just being played?
....advice?
Need relationship advice on tough situation, please :/?
Personally for me, I would break up with him and just be friends. If what he has done is going to bother you then it will not be resolved, it will linger in the back of your mind and drive you nuts. If he wanted to be with you, he could have been honest about his daughter and told you about the drama with his ex. Then the fact that he slept with her while she was staying at his house is basically strike 2 and 3. It's nice that he has realized that he was wrong, but lying to you and cheating on you is not a really good way to start a relationship. If you break up and become friends (if you can) then after some time decide to try again then it might work out. You have enough respect for yourself to realize that he wronged you and it was not OK. It is better to be the girl that was cool that he lost than to get caught up in the drama and be a crazy chick- even though it is his fault. Take the high road- there are a lot of other men that will treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. Life is too short to be crapped on and clean up other peoples messes. Good Luck!!
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