Serious relationship advice needed - Am I too old-fashioned?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and half now. I love her very much and can see myself marrying her someday. We are both very busy business professionals and always make the most of our time together. Yesterday my girlfriend asked me about living together as a way of spending more tme together. I told her that she means the world to me and that I love her very much. But I will not live with my significant other until we are married. I simply do not believe in living with someone prior to marriage. She kicked me out of her apartment and hasn't returned my call yet.





The people I know in my life who have the happiest marriages (family and friends) did not live together before marriage. Whereas the majority of the people I know who have divorced lived together prior to marriage. I'm not impuning anyone who lives together before marriage and am by no means saying it can't work.





I love my girlfriend very much and don't want to lose her. Do I need to get with the timesSerious relationship advice needed - Am I too old-fashioned?
i began to read your other answers, but i do not want to let them sway mine, so i am going to tell you my first thoughts:





YOU ARE AWESOME.





I think it is very mature of you to not act on impulse and look ahead rather than jumping to conclusions.





If she really loves you, she should (with time) understand that you are only doing this because you want things to last, and in turn respect you because of your decision.





she may feel embarrassed or hurt at the moment, just because of the initial let-down of what she was planning.





my advice is to stay true to your beliefs no matter what-- if old fashioned is what your worried about, take a look at the divorce rates increasing.





old fashioned works (:Serious relationship advice needed - Am I too old-fashioned?
wekk i see where ur coming from, and it is a good reason. but how do you know what it'll be like after you marry her if you never tried it before. you might actually hate it and regret getting married
she's crazy!!! i'm totally on your side... i say stick with your decision.... she'll come around.
I admire you for wanting to marry her before living together. Not many men think that this days. Th right thing to do is to get marry first . I'd say talk to your GF , ask why don't she want to get marry first, Maybe, she had bad experiences with guys before to let her not belive in marriage.


I guess communication is vital. You can talk if you really love her , try and live together some time before you can get married. Tell her your intentions are to make a family and that how she wants to start well do it that way in the meantime.


Good Luck!
Not living with someone before marriage is a very valid standpoint (even though I do live with him)


You need to talk to her and explain that it is your belief system.


She is probably feeling that you do not want to spend the time together, and asking you to move in would have been a big step, that she may feel rejected.


Once she feels that you are still wanting to be with her, and will continue to, she will probably feel a lot happier. Mayby you need to put in even some extra effort to be spending time with her.


Flowers might help.
i think its good that u want to marry her before u get into anything too big. if she doesnt want to marry u for a reason like not living together, then u shouldnt be together. couples need to learn to compromise
No this a good choice and if she cant respect it oh well. This is a standard for you dont break it. I wish I had done the same thing, could have saved me a lot of money and heart and head ache
i believe in your standerds but me myself would infact yes come into the times of dating these years.
In a way your question kind of depends on how religious you are sort of. because some people have been taught by there pastor or Christian family members that living with someone before you get married to them is wrong. ( aka shacking ) And you have seen from observation what it leads to. In my opinion if your girlfriend really cares about you she will not force you into doing something you don't believe in doing. But this is coming from someone who is old fashion as well. '; If you don't stand for something you will fall for anything.';
Statistics show that couples who live together before marriage are more likely to be divorced later. I'm not sure why, but the facts are there. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about the same amount of time and we're really serious. But we would never live together. Tell your girlfriend that you want to make marriage special and different. It's about starting a new chapter of your life, a chapter that is written TOGETHER. If you live together before, then there's no real difference. If she truly loves you, she will respect your opinion on the subject and will wait till you are married. The world needs more gentlemen like you. You don't need to get with the times, the rest of the boys out there need to grow up. Good luck to you!
Your girlfriend sounds dramatic.
you are doing the right thing by not living with her before marriage, and, even though this ay sound hard, if she doesnt agree with your decisions, she is too immature for you anyways. if she really loves you, she should agree with many of your decisions, or at least compromise with you on the ones she doesnt like..as for this decision, dont give in. stay strong in yur beliefs. good luck!!
I do not think it is old fashioned. I feel the same way. I have seen numerous studies when couples do not last as long if they live together before marriage. If she doesn't respect your decision.....maybe she's not the one.
Do you think you might rush into getting married so that you can live together? It sounds like the two of you really have a good relationship, and whether you move in together now or after you're married probably won't make a different of whether or not you stay married like your family. You should just sit down with her and explain to her your rationale. Make the decision together..if it means that much to you then she should respect that. But you can't blame the girl for wanting to do anything and everything to spend more time with her man, and make such a committment. Good luck
Stick to your guns, explain to her why you feel this way. Take it from me its just like playing married. When my husband and I moved in together that was my 1st time living with a guy and let me tell you it is different and it is a huge sacrifice so think it through and then do the pros and cons if the pros out way then you move together if not tell her this is your decision and if she can't deal with it oh well!