Adult relationship advice please?

I've been seeing this guy that seems a little shady. He is sweet, but then sometimes doesn't call etc. He seems over-the-top when he is nice though like saying he wants to be with me forever and stuff like that, which makes me a little hesitant. Anyways, I let him into my life, meet my daughter, etc. so when he never invites me over to his house I think it's weird. My friends think he might have a live-in girlfriend, baby momma, or some similar situation. But then on July 4th he invited me to a family BBQ. His uncle was there and a few other family members, but not his mom, brother, or any other close family members.





I know that he had a house that was forclosed on in December so he is living with 'family' now and may be embarrassed of that. He also recently started a new job and is trying to 'let his past go'. He likes to hang out with my friends and I. His old friends have been to jail, delt drugs, etc. but I have known him for 6 years as a friend/coworker and he is very respectable as far as that goes - just not his friends apparently.





My question is: Is he hiding something or just self-conscious? Will this relationship be long-term and work-out, just a fling, or should I end it soon?Adult relationship advice please?
I agree with your fiends. This man is most likely seeing someone else and in this case, I think you might be the “other woman”. The fact that he doesn’t invite you to immediate family functions or to hang out with his friends shows he’s deliberately hiding you from the closest people to him. The ones who most likely know the real woman in his life and wouldn’t approve of him cheating.


Or it could mean he’s ashamed/not ready to introduce you as his girlfriend. But the latter doesn’t seem as likely considering you have met his uncle and a few others.


Either way the entire situation seems suspect. I suggest you propose to him a meet and greet with his mother and siblings (if he has any) as a sign of good faith on his part. If he has nothing to hide this suggestion shouldn’t be a problem but if he starts getting defensive, angry and nervous, you have your answer.





**edit** Yeah guys have that avoiding/dodging thing down pat, don't let him get away with it. Not answering the question is the same as saying I'm guilty of whatever you're accusing me of.


Set a clear time and date and if he starts avoiding again suggest planing the entire function. A job that will equip you with arranging the invites as well *wink*.Adult relationship advice please?
The only person who can answer your questions for you is HIM. If you don't want to ask him then you'll never know the answers.
i agree with get it girl. you might just be the other woman! but this also depends on how bad you want this. Since you have a child you don't have the same amount a time a single person does to be chasing around men!





And some men can be straighted out! The reason we are like getitgirl described is cause women themselves will spit you up and chew you out, so you have to be good with words and most women let their curiousty run wild even not believing the truth, when its the truth. In other words, its just easy not to mention it or laugh it off rather than have to go into great detail about why you never met my brother!





So just talk to him and do your homework of your own! If you want make him yours.





Anything worth having you are going to have to compete for! Sorry, there arent many good men around and if you think you are the only one that wants him, thats probably not true!