Need some relationship advice. Has anyone experienced or recognize this behavior?

So I've been dating this really great guy for 3 + years now, and I am in love with him. The first 1 and a half was amazing, but then I had to move away for business, it would be a year.





We tried the whole long distance thing but it proved to be too hard, so I moved back and things seemed ok. He said himself things were getting better, but like a day or two after that he started to act weird. He later cheated on me with literally a drifter, someone he didn't know and who was passing through town. We of course broke up for a while. Later we reconciled and things seemed ok again.





Recently, he started to act strange again, fearing that what happened in the past was reoccurring, we discussed what was going on. He was not too forthcoming, and we went on ice again for a while, but we kept in contact and reconciled once again.





Lately though he is very non-communicative. We don't see each other anymore, which has been over a month now, and we talk, but he says he feels ';weird'; about seeing me. When I try to define ';weird'; he doesn't really give an answer.





Sometime before, I stopped by to get some items from him that I left at his place, which he was reluctantly avoiding to give me. He later confessed that the reason he was so reluctant to do so was because he was afraid I would stop talking to him.





I still do or try to, but he remains uncommunicative. I am very sure he is aware of my feelings for him and that I love him a lot. I am not sure what is going on, explanations, advice? Right now I am just giving him his space, not texting, not saying anything.Need some relationship advice. Has anyone experienced or recognize this behavior?
Hmm, I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds like he cares about you but knows this isn't what he wants. So he's scared to cut ties but the honest truth is, if he wanted you in his life, he'd be right there and he wouldn't be going anywhere.


Don't settle for a relationship where your partner feels 'weird' seeing you. You sound like a pretty nice woman so I'm thinking you deserve much, much better than that.





Also, I don't know the whole cheating story with you two, but he broke trust and now keeps you at arms reach? That's not good enough, nope definitely not good enough.Need some relationship advice. Has anyone experienced or recognize this behavior?
Ok let's review..


he won't talk to you


he won't see you


he won't tell you what's wrong


I think it's time for you to let it go and move on.


What kind of a relationship is it if you don't talk or see each other?


Not a relationship at all.
He's just not into you anymore. But he wants to live the door open just in case is relationship with this other girl doesn't work he still has someone to call.
This is going to be hard to accept, but I think he didn't want you at his place, because there could be evidence of another woman there, or another woman could see you there. If he were in love with you, he'd be calling you, inviting you over, doing things with you. This is a case of, don't believe what he tells you, believe what he is doing, believe what you are seeing, and what is happening. He's already proven himself to be a cheater, and now, again, you are guessing what is going on now. Time to leave this guy. Put yourself in his shoes, if you were him, and he loved you, would you be doing what he is doing, to you? NO! Sorry!
i have two years ago.. we been together for almost 6 years and let me break down to you!! ready LOL





My first 2 years was great feels like in a wonderland then he start cheating on me..





Then as like we reconciled.. and everything was ok and so ok that we are planning to get married he propose and i said yes but couldnt decide the date after 3 years find out his not ready to get married so push back take everything slow..i was fine with it. then after i push back everything start to change his acitng up weird doesnt want to see me hardly communicate with me. I was leaving with him at a time so i said maybe we needed spaces.. i said ok i move out then later i found out that his having fun with his new friends and really enjoying it. I let that go thinking he will come back but he didnt instead he treated me like ****.. he will just want to see me if he just want it you know what i mean.. and last i heard his courting this girl. So then i told him i want all my stuff back especially the money that we save suppose to be for our wedding. He said he doesnt want to give it to me because if he did feels like that was it. I waited but he still getting far and far away so i decided i had it. Yup i ended it he confess he spend it all of it.. and he did court to this girl but didnt work out. so thats it!





so i think you should end it..your waiting for nothing i feel like i was just a rebound just in case he couldnt get with this girl..its time to move on..dont waste your time to someone who doesnt have time for you!!!
This is my opinion but I think he is playing the old emotional distancing but available for sex game which spells --%26gt;No commitment. He probably has a side dishes and is juggling all of them..





Move on and find someone who does communicate and wants to spend every minute with you.
Move on. If he has cheated once he will again. I lived through way too many years of loving someone who cheated and if you have been on again/off again for 3.5 years and he is acting weird and not communicating...run as fast as you can gf!
Do you really think he would come out and tell you the truth about what he has been doing the whole time.You will learn about men and women for that matter who cheats on their better half. He will never tell you the truth or admit to it because he doesn't want to hurt you. Are you telling me you never thought he has a girl friend and he threw your things away so she wouldn't find them. I been through it so i know what your going through but it's time to call it quits with him because he sure has at least for now. When he gets tired of running around he might be back. If your smart you won't take him back because he is definitely a player and always will be.
Stop being a doormat. How many more signs do you need from this guy that he is not that into you. He wants to bang you here and there and use you for comfort but he is not going to take it farther. You keep reconciling and taking him back you are sending him the message that he can do anything he wants and you will take him back over and over. Whatever you left at his place is not worth your self respect. Let it all go. Respect yourself and move on.