Little relationship advice?

The situation is this: I had been dating my boyfriend for 2 years, we were engaged to be married, but i called it off to go back to college. He had been on medication for bi-polar. One night we were hanging out in my dorm room and raped me . I reported it to the police and it is now in the court process. Turns out, he had been off of his medication for a month and had been cutting himself among other things. So there is a possibility of him getting off easy because of his mental state [ by easy i mean 2 years probation plus mandatory anger management and therapy sessions until deemed safe]. He says he remembers nothing of that night. I do love him, and i do want to marry him. Personally, i want to believe that it was a fluke, caused by his mental state. But obviously i am concerned. I don't want to be one of those women who stay in an abusive relationship. Rape is a touchy subject, and i can honestly say, that i will never be the same. I'm willing to forgive him, with the ultimatum that he completes his mental health program, which, i do not doubt he will.I'm looking for your opinion. Do you think im making a good decision? What would you to if your fiance raped you while claiming to be not sane? Would you find it in your heart to trust him again... or would you leave him? My family is very resentful of him because of what happened, it makes sense. It is going to be difficult, if not impossible for them to accept him again. I expect they will be upset, but they are not the victims. I'm not expecting my family to be pleased with my decision, but if you were in my family...what would your reaction be?


Little relationship advice?
honey please dont give this guy another chance.what he done to you is unforgiveable.medication or not.it could have been even worse,he could have killed you.whats saying if you did forgive him,and later down the road he goes off his medicen,flips out and kills you or someone that you love.its best to stay away from him.dont go near him alone.