Gay relationship advice please?

I'm gay and my boyfriend recently broke up with me because he wanted to be straight. We've had this problem before, and broke up on several occasions, but I love him and that's what always allowed me to let him back into my life everytime. This time however, he's for real. He's going to some Homosexuals Anonymous thing and is limiting the time we get to talk, even as friends so he isn't ';tempted'; to be with me. This is tearing me apart, I know that it's not worth it and I should just forget about him, but I love him and I always have. Because of that I let him go. I'd tell him on a constant basis that he's free to go because I love him enough to let him go if his happiness will be attained as a straight man. I didn't expect it to hurt this much though. What should I do to ease this, and get over him? or should I just keep hoping he'll come back?Gay relationship advice please?
Very interesting situation...





Obviously your bf does NOT love you as much as you love him. Otherwise he would understand that what you both used to have was good enough to be right (and NOT wrong in any way). And in truth, he actually PREFERS to go into some dubious straight-conversion program and attempt to change himself THAN loving you and living with you.





That's not love. Does that look like love to you? Not to me.





So he left you before and keeps coming back? I do not think he ever left you because he was never really with you. Really. Here between us, we KNOW those conversion programs (or attempts) are a scam devised by gay haters who want to spread misinformation about us. They never work. Unless your idea of success is a life of denial, dissatisfaction and repression - because that's what those ex-gays are. But it's their lives and they can do whatever they want with it.





Your ex lives an illusion. Do not be a part of it. You are real.





That's what you relationship was: a relapse. Your ex clearly does not want to be gay. He abhors it and he hates it more than he loves you. The life he wants does not include you... except when it gets too unbearable (although predictable) and he needs someone (for sex or love) and you are there always available as his occasional escape hatch. Is that fair to you? Don't you think you deserve better? Is this what you want to be? Do I sound cold and horrible? I'm sorry, but I'm being realistic - and you need to read this.





Get your life together and (I know it's hard) throw him out of your life for good. You need and deserve someone who truly loves you. Someone who will appreciate your love and thank god for having you. Someone who will love you no matter what. Someone who will prefer you over anything.





Go out with friends, have fun and invest your time in your job (someone has to pay the bills, right?). Ask and repeat to yourself everyday: what am I doing with my life? What am I doing attaching myself to someone who is in a path to misery? What am I doing wasting my youth on someone who does not deserve me? Am I a masochistic idiot who will perpetually orbit around a fool?





You are a fabulous person. You need another fabulous person. Not someone who is a sack of psychosis. THERE ARE other guys equal (or better) than your ex AND they will love you as you deserve. You have to GO find that person because he is also looking for you.





Do not waste your time being the relapse of some homophobic, ungrateful gay man. And DO NOT believe him when he comes back. We know how it will end. Kick him out for good.





I know truth hurts but you need to hear it.


Good luck.Gay relationship advice please?
awwww. thats really cute. but honestly you shouldn't waste your time on someone. i'm sure your pretty cute and would find other love interests but if you really really really love him you would wait.





if you love someone let them go, if they come back to you, they're yours forever :]
Your best bet is to keep yourself occupied. Go out and spend time with other friends, go to movies, play games, or whatever else. It's best not to give yourself too much time to dwell on it right away.





The mind does silly things when it's left to its own devices. However, if you give yourself ample time without doing anything rash (like begging him to come back, for example), then you will get a clearer picture of what you need to do and what will work out best for you in the end.





Obviously, only you really know your particular situation, so I can't say for sure to do one thing or another, but putting some time between now and when you make a decision is essential. Deciding anything right away will only cause emotions to rule you.





Anyway, don't keep hoping he'll come back. You can't live like that. It doesn't leave you any room to hope for anything else. He needs to decide what he wants in his life, or it's just going to cause you pain.





Good luck.
LOL do u really think he's gonna force himself to become straight?? usually most ppl who ';try'; to become straight end up failing..... EVEN if he says he is straight now... as soon as he sees you, all the emotions will come rushing back. dude, if he loves you and it's meant to be, then NOTHING will stop you guys. Just have some faith and be strong =P one of my favourite songs is When You Believe by Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey and one of the verses says ';There can be miracles when you believe, though hope is frail, it's hard to kill'; I never really understood what it really means until recently... I hope u get him back.... I can only imagine how much it hurts


I wish you the best of luck mate!