Lesbian relationship advice?

I realize asking this won't solve my problem; I suppose I just want to see if any of you had a similar problem and maybe a solution or some advice ...


For the past 2 years I've been in a relationship with a woman I dearly care about. It's the first time for us both, however, though we have no previous experiences of this sort - we feel that it's right. I suppose our biggest problem is that we live in a very Catholic country. Myself, I don't practice nor believe that God will sentence me to hell just cause I'm in a lesbian relationship but my gf was raised in a very Catholic family. Despite the time we've been together and what we share, she cannot fully come to terms with her 'newly' discovered sexuality. On and off she thinks its wrong to be with a person of the same sex and gets sad she can't fully participate in mass or that when she dies she'll go to hell... I have no idea how to counter this. And then there's the baby issue. She'd like to have a baby but doesn't imagine being with a man anymore to have one. I'd hate for her to wake up one day and feel she's made the biggest mistake of her life being with me and giving up on religion or a baby, which are two extremely important things to her. She is older than I am, perhaps that is why I'm a bit more open-minded and tolerant? Do I let her go? Wait for her to leave me so she can have a baby? I have no idea how to go about this. I know I'd hate to see her sad and that's what she is now - incapable of making a choice: mainstream 'normal family' or an alternative one ...Lesbian relationship advice?
My wife is/grew up Catholic. There IS a place that will accept you both, regardless of orientation:


http://www.dignityusa.org/


It's a place for gay Catholics.





Check them out %26amp; their website.





It's going to be hard for your girl to come to terms with how she feels %26amp; what the Church says is right %26amp; wrong. But don't let that get between your girl %26amp; her relationship to God. She's going to have to choose between the easy wrong of living a lie with a man in line with Catholic doctrine, or the hard right of living her life in truth.





You guys can still adopt, get a donor (another of our friends are doing this now), etc. So, her wanting a baby is doable. You just have to think outside the box a bit!





Hope this helps.Lesbian relationship advice?
Well for starters girls are the luckier sex if they wish to have a baby! Men's sperm is cheap while a surrogate mother or adoption is not! So she can still have a baby if she desires one! You are not keeping her from that and should not feel guilty about that one!





Her religion is another thing but is very workable, even the dreaded Catholic guilt! I'm Catholic myself and was lucky enough to have my Church accept, love and cherish me for who I am. Have her look around and find a church that fits her better! Yes there are Catholic churches out their that do this!!! With time and being in a church that loves and accepts you for who you are that guilt might very well go away.
well your one strong women to be listening to that everyday. baby this and church that. well i would say you be the better person and non-selfish (in a way) to let her go. she obviously has the issues and to me looks like shes going to make it your fault in the future about going to hell and not producing a child. if she wants to lie to herself and do what everyones expects of her like to go to church with her family one of these days, well i say you shouldnt bother. and 2yrs is a long time to end a relationship. if she feels that way.....let her. find yourself a lesbian-lesbian who is as much as tolerant as you :) ....not too lesbian-ish..lol.%26lt;--..those type of lesbians are nasty.,ew..lol. hoped i helped
One of my best les friends had a similar problem. In the end there's only so much you can do before the girl with issues decides. You can't change her relgious views even if they damage her self-image %26amp; self-esteem. Depending on where you're located, the baby issue could be solved by either adopting or artificial insemination (yep, no man-stick going up her box!). However, a baby would probably only complicate matters for her b/c now she'd have to deal w/ the Church's hangup on same-sex parents raising a child.





Kudos to you if you decide to hang in there %26amp; brave the possibility she might one day decide she can live w/ suppressing what she is in order to gain societal %26amp; Church approval. My bud, though, blew out of her relationship. Mind you, as she was also raised Catholic she also had issues w/ being the les she is %26amp; how it went against what she was taught on Sundays. But she came to terms with it, %26amp; she's a happy girl overall. Single, but happy!
From the looks of all these thorough answers, you're probably well informed on what you're options are here.





When it comes to the religion part, I was once in the same boat as your girlfriend. The struggle between my happiness and what God's word said would arise from time to time and I would get depressed and feel like I need to break up with her. I found after many years of this back and forth struggle, that I just needed to accept who I was and trust that God accepted me this way as well. I thought for a long time that Satan had a strong hold on me, that being lesbian was a bondage from hell. But when I tried being with a man, I felt like I was being tortured. She needs to be true to herself. She needs to talk to God about how she feels. She is a daughter of God, He wants her to be happy and to love herself. Satan wants us to be depressed and feel bad about who we are. Afterall, if we feel bad about ourselves, we are separating ourselves from the Lord. As long as she is living in condemnation, she is not pleasing God. She needs to pray about this, have a conversation with the Lord, and accept that she is loved how she is.
Im sure you know this but you do not have to actually be with a man to have a baby it is something that you both can experience together and it could possibly help with ya's relationship. As for the other thing talk to her sit down and actually talk about how she is feeling and tell her if she needs time to think things through and make sure she is making the right choice then be able to do that and give her time but not too much of course.. I hope things turn out better! Maybe you both can find a church that accepts gays there are some churches that do. They will be able to help you feel comfortable being there as yourself...