Serious Relationship Advice?

I've been dating a girl for a year and a half. She's the love of my life, I just started at the college she has been going to this year (I got a scholarship for track) and its 800 miles from my home. Weve had our share of problems, but she just can't seem to get over her ex. Were just dating now, not in an actual relationship, but her ex is crazy. If he sees my truck parked at her apartment, he'll key it. I love her with all my heart. She told me that when she's around him, she doesn't feel anything, but she tries to force herself to. That she doesn't want him but she doesn't want him to want anyone else. Anyways, last night we got in a fight because I told her this hurts me too much and I can't do it anymore and everytime she is just like, ';I can't deal with this right now.'; I tell her I'm going to walk away she tells me not too, or she comes back in my life. What should I do? Should I wait it out? Or give her an ultimatum or let go? And if so, how do I go about it?Serious Relationship Advice?
she's not over him yet, why else would she care if he's with someone else or not. you're just setting yourself up for getting hurt. no offense, but it sounds like both she and her ex are crazy. it's better if you move on with your life, there's something/someone better out there for you. it's either she's crazy or playing games, you don't need that if what you're looking for is a serious, mature relationship.Serious Relationship Advice?
You may love her, but love isn't everything, I assure you.





The two things that jump out at me are her obvious unhealthy choices in men (the previous boyfriend and not you), tho it could be only one mistake she has made, what is she even doing putting up with him if she actually doesn't care for him at all? Something amiss here.





And someone who avoids discussing problems every time they are approached will be a pain in the future. Believe me, trying to build anything with one who only avoids the unpleasant is a problem.





I would advise you to let go and don't look back no matter what she says or does. Honestly, honey, this is trouble. And if she can't get over this guy, she can't make room for you in any real way. It's a total waste of your time.
Its not fair on you. You're giving all yourself to her and shes not doing the same. Theres no way this relationship is equal. I think you know in your gut what you should do
Ultimatum, then if she doesn't follow through, let her go.





I've seen this time %26amp; again, and just happened to our friend, who was married. His marriage broke up because his wife still had ties with her ex, whom she got back together with - this after 5 years of marriage to our friend (who was devastated).





If your g/f doesn't cease communication with her ex right now - especially after he keyed your car(!) - you really need to let her go, for your own sake.
You cannot force a relationship. If there are so many obstacles thrown in the path, then there is a reason for it. You are at a school 800 miles away from everything. Start living your own life. If it is meant to be, events will occur to help make it so. If you try to force the issue you will simply lose her friendship too. Let her untangle her life.





You never know, there may be another love of your life right in front of your eyes but you cannot see her because of the blinders you have placed on yourself.





BTW, ultimatus are never a good idea. They always garner resistance and resentment.
My advice is move on. There are lots of women out there. First, long distance relationships rarely work. Second, your young. There is plenty of opportunity for you to find a new girl. If she were serious, she would never even see her ex. Ultimatums will hardly ever work in your favor and can be a sore spot for years if she accepts.
She's a nut job, lose her.
She isn't ready for a relationship with anyone. She sounds really immature. Tell her it has to be only you or not you at all. Stick to it. You might be wasting your time with her. There are plenty of girls who would love to have your attentions.
Wow! This is my honest opinion, but I believe that you need to cut your losses and go. It seems like she doesn't want you to be happy either. From my point of view I see that if she is suffering then you do too, but she doesn't feel anything like you do for her. You have sacrificed enough of yourself and you need to start dating other people. If she is so hung up on her ex then she just needs to go back to him.





Honestly, you sound like a good guy and you deserve better than what she is willing to give to you. You're still young and other girls will come into your life. If she sees that you are moving on it might let her decide what she really wants and maybe the two of you can have a more stable relationship. She's not ready to make difficult decisions and you have to be the one to do it.





I wish you all the luck with this situation. And remember that leaving her is not going to hurt so much in the long run, but will be better for you. It's that first week that will be difficult, but you can do it.....





GL!!
RUN