Serious Relationship Advice....HELP!?

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I have been with this guy for almost three and a half years. I feel that I am not in love with him anymore. I am not 100% sure on leaving him yet. But I plan on making the decision soon. I basically live with his parents and where we live by law we are considered common-in-law. We always seem to fight, there is a lack of sexual anything (sex, kissing, touching, hugging, affection), trust, and just generally getting along. Yet somehow out of this all we still love each other. However, I am miserable. I want to move out and he says if I do that the relationship is pretty much over since I am proving to him I lack commitment and care for this relationship. I find that it is too much to live with his parents for any longer and I feel that living alone will help us appreciate each other and make things better. He thinks otherwise. I am basically looking for a overall opinion on this. Especially if you can relate to me.Serious Relationship Advice....HELP!?
I'm sorry I can't relate... but it sounds to me like you have already talked to him about it and he doesn't want to make the effort to make you feel more special... so I think that you should definetly break up w/ him... I wouldn't want to be w/ a guy who didn't show me that he loved me like thatSerious Relationship Advice....HELP!?
Well, its either stay with him, or leave him. Dont keep the relationship droning on if your going to move out because obviously hes not going to be very happy and wont be willing to work with you to make it better. May be give it a week or two and really pay attention to the way he acts, and if you want to stay with him because if your not in love anymore and its just not working out hes obviously not the right one for you.
It sounds like you are so ready to go on with you life and he isn't. You deserve better for yourself so you must do you. Life is to short to waste it where you are not happy. Put your cap on and head up that road to happiness you will find life much better for yourself. It may seem hard alone at first but in the long run you will see anything is possible to the life you want to live. Do you girl and be smart. Leave him and go on. Let him stay with his mom why should you.
He sounds selfish and inconsiderate. I know you love him, but if you can't see yourself marrying him or spending the rest of your life the way it is now, then you're only wasting time. I say he seems selfish because he's being manipulative and using guilt trips against you to get what he wants, while disregarding what you want.


I know it seems like throwing away over 3 years, but you won't regret it. I promise, relationships can be good, and everyone deserves it.


I'd say, don't even talk about it with him, you just need to make a clean break. GL
I think that there was never true love to begin with because you already going to leave him yet you say that you love him, that doesn't make since but i mean if your not happy then what the point of being with him!
if you aren't happy..then why stay? it's not going to change. End the relationship and find someone who does make you happy. its ok to let it go when you know in your heart that there is nothing more that you can do
tell him you love him and take him to a romantic movie and lay on him and kiss him
i think you should just wait a little longer see how you feel. but ultimatley its up to you, if your not ready he'll understand
Hello sister In Christ, I think your boyfriend needs to grow up..You need to put your faith in God first, Your living in Sin...Why is it hard for us to live alone with God we know His comandments, and yet we never live by them...Your boyfriend is not ready to be the man that God wants him to be...Let him prove to you that he can and will live on his own with out his parents help and with out you, If a Man dont love God, and live for God first how can he love his wife and children as Jesus Christ loves the Church, My advice to you is get your life right with God, Put God first, live your life according to the Word and God will make sure He gives you the right husband, God Bless you, I know by experience, I live it every day...rember God loves you and he wants you to live a happy and joyful life...
Feeling that you are in love with him and being in love with him is pretty much two different things. If you are in love with this guy for real and true the feeling will come back - once your relationship picks up again. You might just need to initiate something to get it going again. Do something you two both use to love with three and a half years you guys have a lot of history to work through.. If you seriously don't feel that you actually love the guy anymore and don't think that a marraige relationship would work (as this is pretty much the next step if anything for you guys) then don't stay with this guy just for security purposes. You're not married and you don't want to remain miserable and always just hoping for things to get better - especially if you meet another single guy down the line in two or three years after you're married because that would be totally unfair for you to just get up and just leave after marrying him - you're his for life.
i relate to you completely!!!!!! i moved in with my boyfriend and his parents right after high school grad. we didn't really fight at that time, just wanted our own apt. we moved out and had our own place for 3 years, then moved back so we could afford for me to work part time and go to college. (and save money to buy a house) well then we fought quite a bit (esp for us, we don't fight) it drove me insane and i wanted to get out,. i thought i wasn't in love with him anymore. i was stressed constantly and couldn't take it anymore. i sat him down and told him how i felt. within 2 weeks he was out looking for a house daily. we get along great and are more in love than ever. it's just having that many people in the same house all the time is HARD. you can't be loud. sex is ackward cause you don't want to bother anyone. but when you have your own place it's much much better. BUT you also have to consider the fact that you don't love him anymore and just want out. this was our case, not everyones. and you don't want to get a place together and then decide to leave and leave him with everythng. good luck!