Thursday, December 31, 2009

24wks pregnant- Relationship Advice?

Ive been with this guy for 2years next month. When I found out i was pregnant, he was real excited. Now he is not supportive at all. Hes tells his friends i shouldve gotten an abortion.. Which are the only people he cares about and being with. I dont know if hes cheated on me or not but he wouldnt tell me if he has. He doesnt ever ask how i feel and hasnt been to any doctor visit with me, I grew up without a dad and the only thing i wanted for my son was to not have to go through that. When i told him that, from the begining, he said he would never leave me. But actions speak louder then words. Its like hes a completely differnt person, Should i stay with him or leave him.. anyone going through this.?24wks pregnant- Relationship Advice?
My mum went through the exact same thing during her pregnancy , but her husband cheated on her in the end. I say get out right now, your going through a very tough time and its a time when you need him most and you either need him there with you and being supportive and helping you or you don't need him at all. You will find someone out there for you he's just not that guy and the sooner you ditch him the sooner you can look for mr right. I know it might seem not as easy as that but it really is, without him you'll still have your family and friends and you won't have all the pressure from the worrying about if hes cheated on you or not. If you get out now it will be one decision that you will not regret. Your child can still visit his dad if you want him to growing up , but im sure you will find someone who will want to be with you and your child.24wks pregnant- Relationship Advice?
You should decide to stay or leave him while pregnant...you can not trust your feelings when your hormones are raging through your body. It does sound like the both of you are very young still and have a lot of maturing to do. Talk to your boyfriend and explain how you are feeling, hear his side of things about how he is feeling and get to know eachother in a deeper way. It could be that he is scared of the awsome responsability that comes with a child.
my bff of 12 years went through something similar, when she got pregnant with their 2nd son and she got big he started going to the club and seeing other women his reason were that she was too big to come to the club and catch him. he treated her really horrible and we spent many nights up crying together. as soon as she had her son and lost her baby weight he became the ';perfect'; husband and father again. but now she has to deal with someone else claiming to be pregnant by her husband. you said it yourself honey actions speak louder than words and you can do bad by yourself. only you can answer should you stay or go. maybe he is scared to death at the thought of bringing a life into this world. or maybe his friends influenced him... i hope things get better for you hun.

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