Need relationship advice please!?

I am 24 yr old male.I have been through many tradegies over the past 4 years-from losing my mother, my grandfather and almost my life in a bad car accident...The problem i am having is I cant seem to find happiness in my long term relationship...I met my g/f 3 years ago and was head over heals for her. She is all I can ask for in a g/f and its frustrating to me that I have such a short fuse with her. I find her attractive, sexy, smart -everyhing a man would want in a gril but I cant seem to find an attachment. It is the most diffcitult thing in the world. Put youself in my shoes and think how it feelis to have feelings for some one so trong one day and be cold and anit- everything the next. I am in grad school full time and have a full time jon. I am on 50 mg of zoloft weening my self down from 100mg. I stoped going to therapy as these obessive negative thoughts come and go--i found it to helpful in someways and annoying in others. I wish I could jus be happy and Im tired of asking myself if she is the one-- it doenst get any better--- I had many other girls and the pieces never fit...She is beautiful and my mind downplays everything about her. I see her everyday which may be bad but then if I dont want to see her I over think it and tell myself I dont like her...Its crazy...what are normal feelings? I lost them through lifes rough path.....Please help...Need relationship advice please!?
FIrst, i'm sorry for your loss.


I think that you do love her seeing as how you care so much.


You keep wondering cause you're afraid to loose her.


I would keep seeing the therapist. It may be a little annoying but if it helped a lil it can help you more.


Try talking to her about how you feel.


Tell her you love her and don't want to loose her but u have all these weird emotions and need help.


That u need her to be there for you.Need relationship advice please!?
I'm sorry for your losses. Being together 3 years is a long time. You need to think long and hard what you gaining from this relationship and what your loosing. If your life feels a drag that isn't leading anywhere then you need to strongly move on. You will find someone, I promise. You think everything is rubbish but you will. I have and you'll know because you'll feel totally comfortable. The most important thing is to talk to her, if you have no communication you wont get anywhere. Good luck :)
Ok first of all it sounds to me like you may be afraid of committing to someone that you like alot. Maybe you are afraid that she is going to leave you just like some of the people that fell short in your life. Im sorry to hear that by the way. I personally have never been angry or upset and not wanted to see someone that i did love.... but im not you either. If you love her truly love her than all of her faults wont matter. It also sounds like you have alot on your plate. Maybe taking a short break would not be so bad either. Find out what you really want. If you miss her so fricken bad it makes u crazy than you should go back if you dont and find life easier without her than maybe being single would be better for you at this point in your life. I hope that i helped.. take care and give it some time. Write a list of pros and cons see which one is bigger and maybe go from there. I know its cheesy but give it a try.
idk if it's just me, but maybe you are afraid of losing her and you are scared about it. I'm not saying scared of losing her in a tragedy, but maybe the relationship ending. Honestly you need to just stop and think what you want, what will make you happy. Just reflect on everything you're thinking.Sure enough you will find what you are looking for
Here is one way to handle this.





Tell yourself that you are going to take a one year break from your worries and negative thoughts and enjoy every moment of it. Postpone all the difficult choices that you have to make and do everything that you can to enjoy this one-year holiday. If you do that you will be much better equipped to handle issues when they come up.