Relationship advice please?

Me n my girlfriend have been goin together about 5 months now. Last night we got into a fight because she had done something for the second time that i was told i couldnt do ( two different things mind you). I got mad left came home and didnt speak to hear nor hear anything she had to say. It was all to deaf ears. I end up fallin asleep and she snoops through my phone and finds that i had called a girl who is my best friend for years now, that i had something/ if anything going on with about 5 years ago. Meanwhile she tells me that shes never heard of this girl, shes not ur best friend all of that, but thats because if i were to ever tell her about a girl being a best friend shed immediately overreact and think there was something wrong. She ends up stealing my phone and running down the street with it at 5 am. I chased after found her, tried to talk got the phone and now apparently i'm the one who's in trouble now. (we both drank a little, but i fell that by the time all this was occuring we were sobered up plenty) Help me out please








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she tends to be a very insecure person about our whole relationship and has zero trust in me at all. i have yet to this day do anything to make her believe i wont be here till the end and that she is who i want and since i have it im as happy as can be. she constantly gets into the ';festering'; mood whenever we're sober and having a fight and wants to be left alone for hours on end rather than just handle the fight when it happens. I love the girl but it seems like there's a lot here that could easily push me away and i have my doubts as to why it hasnt yet. she tells me this girl can not be in our relationship anymore, but when i said the same thing back to her about another individual it was completely not going to happen and there was a reason why and all that. seems like i got a somewhat obsessive girlfriend on my hands. any advice or information is great, thanks guysRelationship advice please?
This is a common thing in relationships. First things first. You can't let her tell you who you can have as friends. This girl ';friend'; of yours was there way before your girlfriend and it wouldn't be fair to just drop that friendship just to shut your girlfriend up. That's just something she would have to deal with. As far as her trust issues, maybe something happened in a past relationship or perhaps her childhood that makes it hard for her to open up and trust people? Just sit her down and tell her that she's the only one in your life and that you aren't interested in anyone else. Give it time and eventually she will learn to trust you. As far as the not talking after a fight. This varies with people. Some people like to talk about it and solve the fight right when it happens and others like to have time to themselves to cool off and think about things before it got any worse. I suggest you just let her cool off whenever you guys do fight and then talk about it later.Relationship advice please?
Lol obsessive? you think!?! Don't worry dude, i've been in a situation like this with my current gf actually. When we were friends I told her about this girl I used to know that was coming to NY for a visit and that I was planning on fooling around with her. Now when she became my gf, I kept all contact with that girl (the girl coming to visit) a secret because I didn't want her to think anything of it. The fact is me and that girl were always just friends but I exaggerated things to make it seem like she was in to me...big mistake. Anyways, she finds out, she freaks out and I learned to just tell the truth about things like that.





If your girl is insecure, then I understand your discretion but you HAVE to tell her things like that because it's only gonna make her more of what she is. Actually, to be honest, I don't know how you guys are in a relationship if she doesn't trust you. I'm sure she's like that from past experiences but she's gotta let go. My gf was the same (maybe not as much) but the one thing I did to change her attitude was tell her straight up ';I love you but don't think for one second that i'm afraid to leave you. I don't want to and it would suck but I would rather be single then treated like that. I'll do what I have to do.';





I understand her overreaction of the whole best friend thing (this girl came out of nowhere and you're calling her your best friend...doesn't look good for you). Next time, tell her in the beginning. You guys seem to need to sit down and talk about everything...get it all out if you want this relationship to work. If she is gonna continue to be a hypocrit, tell her that you'll leave. Dude, it isn't right for her to be doing that...after the first time, you should have FLIPPED....she might have stopped that crap if you did.





Basically, you guys are gonna have to have one of those ';if this won't change, then we're breaking up'; conversations. I mean, 5 months? You shouldn't be having these problems. The first year together should be fun not full of nonsense arguments. Don't worry man, aside from the best friend thing, you've done nothing wrong and remind her that you're a good guy and that if she doesn't trust you, you'll leave.
If she gives you that many problems why do you bother being with her? And that's the worst thing you could ever do, hide another woman from your girlfriend...but anyway, just make a list of things you want to change and read it to her right after dinner if she denies all things then ask for a break of your relationship.

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