Relationship advice please...?

I have met someone who I have really fallen in love with. I really see us having a future together, the only thing is that I am quite a insecure, jealous person and know that eventually I will drive him away by acting like that.





I get incredibly jealous when he talks about his ex (they were together for about 5 years) and feel 2nd best to her. He hasn't had any contact with her, and tells me that he has no feelings for her anymore but I manage to talk myself into believing that he does.





He is very affectionate and loving to me but I always manage to push him away somehow.





Does anyone have serious advice of how to overcome this?Relationship advice please...?
Oh you poor love! Is there anything in your past that has made you feel this way? have you been cheated on before? caugt someone out? or, have you suffered a loss from either amd/or parent. Do you feel like when you always ave something that you lose it so you need to get rid of it before it goes? I sympathise to you. Check yourself on some relate course (they dont have to be for the two of you) they really help. How do I know? I've been where you are with my husband when we first met. I used to convince myself he was sleeping with everyone which eventually depressed him and he asked for a break and I was then still convinced he wanted a break to be with someone else. As it went, he still was on his own and I felt guilty for putting him through all the hurt. I had to radically get help for myself and now we have been married for 8 years. I wish you all the bestRelationship advice please...?
hey honey i am in the same situation as youself my bf was with his ex for 7 yrs and they have a 6yr old son together so it is even harder for myself as his ex has done nothing but cause grief and upset to our relationship! which he says he dont love her no more and no longer cares but he says when he';s by himself sometimes he just feels like ringing her up . i know he will take time to get over her after all the history they have together and i think the same things as you do ...am i second best and what if this and what if that! and its caused arguments . but now i just have to tolerate it because i love him and dont wanna be without him . its up to you at end of day noone can tell you what to think follw your heart if he's a trust worthy bloke and you can believe what he stays then stick with him and take whatever life throws at ya x x
luk ghal sort it coz my bf is jez ov me an it stresses me out suttan rottun dnt gt me i lv im 2 bits bt iv told im its gunna av 2 stop or am gone cz yu stay opin thy'll stop cz a person ony takes so much an i agree wit eric jus chill out an fink bout it if e dnt want tu b wit yu thn y iz e cumin ome tu yu evry nyt gt me ghal yur nt guna av a nice tym tugter wit all tht wt if's jus injoy the tym tugter ez wit yu cz e likes yu (yu dnt no wt yu gt til itz gone an yu push im away ) jus cuddled up wit im an fink bout bin tugter rather thn bin paranoid bout yur paranoia lol x
Stop feeling jealous now or you will loose him. He has chosen to be with you never contacts his ex so get on with it and enjoy it for what it is. He wants to be with you....
just a couple of words... TRUST HIM =)
The first issue appears that you have low self esteem. If you felt good about yourself then your tendency to jealousy would be far less. You feel inferior to his previous partner and you have not even met her. Try to understand why you have low self esteem and why you feel insecure ( as a clue parents usually feature highly in making their offspring feel bad about themselves) If this guy is showing you loads of affection and is kind to you, he really does think a lot of you. It is a difficult act to maintain if you are not sincere. Start thinking more of you, develop a more confident attitude, surround yourself with people and things that make you feel good. You are right, if you are irrationally jealous with him you will drive him away.
I had very similar feelings with my current boyfriend when we started seeing each other. He had a long-term serious relationship with someone and I felt very insecure about it because prior to my current boyfriend I had never been in a relationship longer than 7 months.





Anyway, the best way to deal with it is to build your confidence. There are loads of things to do this and you could look up on the internet little hints and tips to do this e.g. every morning looking in the mirror and looking yourself in the eyes and saying things like ';I AM confident'; or ';I AM pretty'; or ';I DO have gorgeous eyes';. Also you could try telling your boyfriend how you feel and explaining that you realise its silly to feel the way you do but that you can't help the way you feel and you would really like him to help you through it.





Good luck - believe in yourself or you will always push people away. Try getting your own hobbies too - that will boost your confidence through gaining your own independance even though you are in a relationship.
You need to work on your own issues perhaps through therapy or counselling. He is doing all he can to reassure you. These patterns will keep coming up in your relationships until you deal with them x
Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel,if he cares he will understand you....i been like that and asked loads of questions but the thing is his with me not her,she cheated...infact he doesnt like talking about it as he said its best looking forward to the future as the past just upsets ppl.





you have to try your best and be positive and not think about the past,its a new start for you and him and u have him...being like the way you are will push him away and even hurt him,guys do get hurt when their gfs behave like this,if you keep thinking about it it will make your relationship with him difficult,try to think what you both have(just think that you can offer him alot more and when you do things for him,he will love you more) am sure he wants to have a good relationship with you and not think about the past.
I agree with Andrea...you have him now,try to keep him x