Relationship Advice...?

I'll try to make this as short and sweet as possible...








I have been with the same person for almost six years with whom I have two children with.


In early October of this year, I found out he had been talking to a girl frequently for the past few weeks. At first he lied to me about it, and he kept tripping himself in more and more lies. I went back on our call records and found the only thing he had been truthful about was that they had not talked that much in August and September.


However, from the end of June to the end of July, I saw on our call records that they had exchanged 300 text messages and at least one phone call a day everyday of that billing cycle, up to 15 calls a day, not one day missed.


After much interrogating from myself and a friend whose husband cheated on her, we both agreed he did not sleep with her. However, he did make sure to not save her number in his phone and erased her text messages to and from her so I wouldn't find out which I thought was really sneaky.


He told me he wanted his privacy, etc. which before I totally respected, but after this happened I told him that if he wanted to be with me, he would have no privacy because my trust was out the door. Now, two months later, he is still disrespectful towards me and I feel like he has done little to mend our relationship as we had problems prior to this as well.


I decided, for the first time since this happened, to look through his phone tonight, and he flipped. I keep bringing up that I don't trust him anymore because of what happened and all he can say is ';I never had sex with her';. He kept threatening that he could leave if I wanted him to and I finally got fed up and gladly opened up the front door for him to go.


I also told him that he should be VERY grateful that I allowed him to stay with me and the kids, because I had great reason to let him go before...now I just don't know what to do...anyone?Relationship Advice...?
He's a commitment-phobe. And I do believe he's been cheating (sleeping with her) He is lying. - If he was a decent guy to start with, he would have married the mother of his children.





Make the relationship cease to exist. A cheater is always a cheater, at least with you. Now he must move on and so should you. He's a jerk to do that with children involved and to disrespect you and the long term relationship.





You deserve much better.