Family/relationship advice needed?

I will try to sum this up the best that I can. My step sister was in need of a lifestyle change as her husband(that wears a uniform) had asked for a divorce. I spoke with my husband about having her stay with us, one thousand miles away, until she was able to get on her feet. He made the phone call at my request inviting her. She has been with us for two months and is moving into her own apartment as of March 1st. In the meantime she is telling my husband that he is ';hot'; and how much she loves a man in uniform. He is in the military and returns home in his uniform each night. I have ignored each comment and have tried to remain confident that I have nothing to worry about. She has tried to come between our children and their Father in ways that I have tactfully handled. She insists on sitting next to him at dinner and will point out that she feels the children are too disrespectful to him, they are 16 and 17. It is said to him not to the children. As I cook and clean she behaves as a guest. Last night the kids and I did not have dinner though I had to clean up after my Husband and Step sister. She has invited him in to her daycare class to speak as a community speaker, he did not decline the offer. When I have tried to speak to him about how I feel he told me that I have a problem with everything. The kids are asking questions, I have told them that there is nothing to worry about but am now wondering myself. Any help would honestly be appreciated.Family/relationship advice needed?
Tell him how you feel and be re insured by him that nothing is going on between him and her, you are feeling disconnected.And you do have a right to feel that way, you鈥檙e his wife for goodness sake, so he shouldn鈥檛 be defensive and saying that your feeling unsecured and etc鈥tc鈥?As a husband, he should listen and understand you, and he should keep his distance from your step sister. Tell him that your step sister may have a crush on him and that you just wanted to make sure that he is aware. Be honest. Good Luck. It鈥檒l be easier as soon as she moves out.Family/relationship advice needed?
Wow. Okay, I understand why you're not sure what to do, because it seems that either way there's going to be drama in your household when you finally approach someone. I would suggest you talk to your step-sister. Tell it to her straight, she's a guest at your house (the fact that she's acting like a guest and not helping you out is a a bonus that you can add on to that statement), you offered to take her in when she was going through her divorce. She can either back off or you kick her out. It's simple. Granted I'm not sure how she will react and I'm also not sure what to suggest about your husband. Stay strong and good luck with this. I hope that everything will turn out good for you.
I think your problem should be with her, not him. You had him call her and invite her. He did that for you. Maybe she took it the wrong way since it was coming from him and not you. But if I was in your shoes I would make it very clear to her that you don't appreciate what she's doing and that ya'll are doing her a favor by allowing her to stay with you and tell her if she can't live her last month there by your rules then she needs to go ahead and find somewhere else to stay.
If you dont stand for something you will fall for anything. Your husband is not in the situation so therefore it is hard for him to see where you are coming from. I would suggest nipping it all in the bud. Do not remain passive with this situation. You need to stand up and let her know what is appropriate. Sit her down woman to woman and tell her. And see to it that it ceases immediately. Something that appears harmful wouldnt effect you negatively. It could potentially lead to more. For the sake of your peace and sanity, please sit her down and speak with her woman to woman. Wether your husband likes it or not..... Good luck and woman up :)
She is your step sister and you need to tell HER how you feel about her comments. Your husband may enjoy the comments she is making because he feels like the attention is positive, although it's unlikely he will act on the attention. For now tell her how you feel and be glad that she is moving out soon. Also, start paying extra attention to your husband, remind him how sexy you think he is in his uniform and how great he is as a father. A little complementing goes a long way which is something that is often overlooked when people have been together for a long time. Try taking your husband on a date and reminding him what he means to you:) It will take your worries away and make you both a little closer.
God this doesnt sound too good butt i think that maybe she is a bit jeolous of you as she has just split up with her man and shes craving some male attention.


You need to tell her that how shes behaving just isnt right if your letting her stay at your house (most likely for free) she should at least help you out.


All this flirting might have been funny at the beggining but now its getting beyond a joke.


Your husband might not see how its affecting you but you need to tell him again and say to him what if a man was acting this way with me how would you feel and he might begin to understand! Hopefully.


Your step-sister obviously misses her ex as she keeps saying she likes a man in uniform and her ex wore a uniform.


If all this fails tell the children to say sarcastic remarks when she flirting with him i no this might not be the best option but if nothing else works its your only hope!


Good Luck:)
She shows that she's interested with your husband,remember she is just your step sister.Temptation is inside the your house and it will be too late for you to control it unless she gets out of your property.You still have two months.Why don't you talk to her and tell her frankly what's she's trying to do.Ask her about what she felt when her husband divorced her.She might get guilty and stop what she's doing now.
HE made the call. (I don't understand why - she's your stepsister.) HE is the one she is targeting. Make it known that YOU asked HIM to call. Ask her to do the dishes, wash clothes, fold clothes, vacuum, scrub the toilet, etc. or she will continue to be the bored princess. She will from now on sit next to you, her stepsister (you will make sure of this - get the kids to help) at dinner ';because you have not had time to chat and catch up on things'; much - (because she is so busy making trouble elsewhere and buttering up your husband). Ask her lots of questions and keep her engaged in conversation through dinner. Maybe some things that she won't want to answer... I don't understand why you and the kids did not have dinner last night. Their mess would have been waiting whey they came home. You should all have gone with them to the ';daycare class'; so you could learn things and be proud of dad/hubby. That's just not right. I smell a rat there. You need to get tough and not let both of them keep walking on you and getting off scot free. Hubby goes nowhere with her, including helping her move...





She is salving his mid life crisis ego and knows a good thing when she sees it. Get the b*tch out of your house as soon as possible. If it goes that far, tell him if he does not want to listen to you, he can find a new apartment too.
Ask your sister to move it immediately ... your marriage and kids are much more important than a sadist and self centered sister