Mature relationship advice. We are still sneaking around help.?

This is kinda sad and embarrassing, but I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years now, and we are still hiding our relationship. We have to hid our relationship from our parents even though we are in our mid twenties. We are from two totally different parts of the world but born in the US, and we are from different religions, Muslim and Christian, and so that is the reason why we hid our long relationship from them. I really love him, but I am getting to the breaking point were it will be so much better to just call it quits. I really just wanna come clean and stop hiding, but i don't know if its better to stay hidden so that I could avoid the calamity that the realization of our relationship could cause. Please only mature answersMature relationship advice. We are still sneaking around help.?
I was in a situation similar to this. My husband (boyfriend at the time) is black, and I am white. My parents didn't approve of our relationship either and didn't meet him until 4 years into our relationship when I told them we were engaged. Now, they love him. There comes a point where you have to sit back and think about a few things:


1. Is the relationship worth possibly losing your family over?


2. If you ever get married, is the other going to expect your children to


follow their religion?


3. Will either of you expect that the other be ';converted';?





Right now it's not fair to either of you to keep hiding your relationship. It probably really is taking a toll on your emotions. You just have to search deep in your heart and do what's right.





*Heather- www.youravon.com/heatherwilliamson*Mature relationship advice. We are still sneaking around help.?
You could be surprised that the families accept this relationship. I think if you approach it maturely and tell them that you love all parties involved. At some point you will have to tell them and if you break up because of them, you will live a life of resentment towards them. Also if both of you take an awerness class in both religions, so you understand both sides. Your knowledge of the others religion could help with the tell of your parents. Good Luck
if i were you, i would stop fearing my parents and be open about it. you are both adults for christ sake. if your parents cannot handle it, that is too bad for them. you are adults and it is your choice who you date, not theirs! who knows, they may not even have a problem with it! but you must do something, hiding a four year relationship at your age is ridiculous. good luck you to
Im going through the same thing girl. Listen, you are a muslim so make sure you don't do anything ';haram'; if you already have, shame one you...me and my bf don't do things like that. we just talk because he is willing to wait till marriage. He is catholic and i am muslim. but i wish you luck. pray a lot to allah and tell your parents very slowly..start off as hes my best friend..and from there pick it up slowly
You have to know how the Muslim side will react. I have heard of some families who would kill or disown their kids if they found they were dating outside of their religion. This is why it is always best to date someone with similar beliefs. Have you thought about how your children will be raised?
You're in a tough spot, but you can't have it both ways. You can't have the peace of your families not knowing, AND the happiness of being together. You have to pick one, and stick with it. If he's worth it, you'll get your parents together some place private and just straight out tell them. Let them know you''ve been together for four years, and that you're happy, and you hope that they can be happy for your both, too. You're grown-ups, so while your families may disapprove, you need to do what's right for yourself and choose your own path.





You'll never be happy if you spend all your time and energy trying to make your families happy.





Good luck!
I've not been in your situation and I'm not going to try to completely understand because I know that Muslim religion has a lot different values and morals than mine. But, if I were in your situation, I would definitely bring out the relationship.. Mixed relationships whether they be race or religion happen often and many of them succeed. If you have the ability to look past their religion and love them then you are Truly in love with them and not a judgmental person. I understand that it'd probably going to be difficult, mostly with both your parents right? My parents hated my man for a long time because of his bad past.. and while it's not as drastic as your situation they still hated him for the same reason: because they love me. Try to make both families understand that you two are in it for the long haul no matter what they say and that you would really love their support. It's gonna suck in the beginning and be really hard, but as long as you two are prepared and stay strong you'll make it.





And if worst comes to worst, you will decide to go separate ways and it wasn't meant to be anyways. Cliche I know, but true. Good luck!!